If I am TRULY into, feeling a man... In a session or especially in civvie life, I am most definitely NOT ignoring him, and holy moses texting other guys and friends vs having him in bed with me, or us naked wrestling, or doing something where we are interacting together.
Even with my REAL boyfriend I do not do that. The only time I ever behaved so rudely to a guy and did that was when I was not at all into, attracted, turned on or sexually driven to the guy. I didnt really want his company, hence ignoring and texting others... but I did like that he would buy dinners, lunches, help with bills, clothes for kids, etc... and as long as I gave him a pretense of friendship "i.e." hanging out for hours and making him think we were friends, oh and threw him a bone with a pity fuck here and there, it was great. Till I woke up and saw what a despicable person I had become treating another that way. So I ended the "friendship" asap I feel bad I used the poor guy. I knew he was lonely, and started manipulating this.. maybe I didnt realize it at first. But if she really was a friend, cared, was turned on, attracted or hell even LIKED you, she would NOT be ignoring, or texting others when your with herShe says sometimes I don't have to pay or I can pay her whatever I want? She also is fine with me texting/calling just to talk. I know this is rare in this kind of hobby. She also likes to ignore me alot during our meetings and lets me watch tv/movies. She texts/talks to others guys on the phone during this most of the session. Not like I will complain because I'm not paying the usual price. We still have sex but on her terms no rush. She also lets me stay way past the agreed time just to chill and makes me food/drinks sometimes. I would still pay her if she asked and I always bring the money said on her ad if she requests.
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she is attempting to lead you into a web from which you may find it difficult to extricate yourself.
I would tread with caution because I've been there and done that, with mixed results, at best.
what do you mean lead me into a web of what and what was your experience?
The only advice I can give you is don't change it, lol!
If the freebies are a matter of calling up and booking a session that you don't leave a donation for, I'd say be careful of something else coming down the pike.
OTOH, if you are going out on a date or seeing each other socially and then winding up in the sack, it sounds like she wants you as a friend, BF, FB, or just likes being with you.
The difference might seem unimportant, but if you think about it, it isn't anything real subtle.
I refer to these girls you describe as "art school types". I have one now, and for the last 2 years, and it's fkin beautiful man. I actually look for these girls when I do my prep work.
Some of these girls are just lonely or free spirits and if you listen to their problems or views on life, they will reward you with friendship, which in this biz, can equate to free sex and plenty of OTC.
No need to analyze it to death. Just go with the flow and enjoy bro.
Means that you're a Regular Client. The gals I've seen past and present always gave me a discount on their regular price after I've seen her on a regular basis. I pay half or less with my current gal for a session. Session is just like as if I paid her full rates. No Rush and no Clock watching. Pretty Awesome Deal.
ROGM,
I must be doing something wrong. I have seen girls regularly, say 7 to 10 times paying full price mulit hour stated rates. NEVER has one offered me a discount. I am seeing two right now and as always FULL price.
Did you ask for the discount or was it simply offered? The girls I speak of "like" to see me. :-/
STMF
"She also likes to ignore me alot (sic) during our meetings and lets me watch tv/movies. She texts/talks to others guys on the phone during this most of the session."
I prefer an encounter where I am the lady's sole focus and I can totally focus on pleasing the lady.
If I am TRULY into, feeling a man... In a session or especially in civvie life, I am most definitely NOT ignoring him, and holy moses texting other guys and friends vs having him in bed with me, or us naked wrestling, or doing something where we are interacting together.
Even with my REAL boyfriend I do not do that. The only time I ever behaved so rudely to a guy and did that was when I was not at all into, attracted, turned on or sexually driven to the guy. I didnt really want his company, hence ignoring and texting others... but I did like that he would buy dinners, lunches, help with bills, clothes for kids, etc... and as long as I gave him a pretense of friendship "i.e." hanging out for hours and making him think we were friends, oh and threw him a bone with a pity fuck here and there, it was great.
Till I woke up and saw what a despicable person I had become treating another that way. So I ended the "friendship" asap
I feel bad I used the poor guy. I knew he was lonely, and started manipulating this.. maybe I didnt realize it at first.
But if she really was a friend, cared, was turned on, attracted or hell even LIKED you, she would NOT be ignoring, or texting others when your with her
I am no expert here, but in all seriousness, this is P4P. You hand them money, they make us feel like rock stars for X amount of time. I can even understand a provider giving a regular a discount or freebie on occasion, totally at her discretion though, a client should never ask.
However, in the situation you describe those lines are now blurred. So long as it's working to what you see as your advantage, I guess that's fine, but remember she has all the control. Consider the day you get passed over on a promotion and you head over for a little ego boost and she spends the time setting up and taking care of tomorrow's business. Or, what if her car is broke and so is she and she asks you for a thousand dollars for the repairs, while reminding you of all the discounts and freebies.
I'd say there is nothing wrong with where you are so long as BOTH OF YOU understand where you are. Is this turning into sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship? Is she looking for a real boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? Right now, you're paying (even if discounted) to play strictly by her rules.
If it stops being fun move on to something else. Over analyzing things is the quickest way to remove the fun.
She seems to enjoy you just hanging out or going her speed or even chatting with her over text and it sounds like she's appreciating you with a discount and buddying with you.
I'm sure it's a little refreshing with a client she can schmooze with and not do the same old thing.
I had a girl come over that was happy doing anything but getting naked or anything beyond that (at least the first time) and said guys would just call her up for a beer or the club or a movie or something; she actually loved watching Netflix documentaries, which I do too, but she scheduled her ride to come back in an hour and I wanted more than that. We chatted the whole time (her mostly hah) and cuddled, she let me do a lotion rub just not unclothed, it was a little weird but fun. I've tried to contact her again but she uses burner numbers and is out of town a lot, but she sounds similar to this girl.
Just go with the flow.