I have had this happen on more than once occasion lately where a provider asks me this when I am on the phone making the appointment. So what exactly is the point of this question? Is it to set the duration of the appointment? Or is it to set limits on what the provider will do during the appointment; i.e., if I spend more then more activities (DFK, DATY, BBBJ) will be on the menu? Or it something else all together? I've not had one of the providers who did this say anything to me about why they ask this so I have grown curious. Does anyone know or at least want to throw in their $0.02 on the matter?
Sounds like an upseller, which means you end
up paying more than you intended going in.
IMHO the best providers have a flat rate for each
block of time, and provide quality service for
the duration of that time.
Sounds like an upseller, which means you end
up paying more than you intended going in.
IMHO the best providers have a flat rate for each
block of time, and provide quality service for
the duration of that time.
None of them tried to upsell me though. They simply replied something to the effect of "OK" and then we finished making the arrangements. They never made any comment that I could interpret as asking for more money.
When they say "O.K.", ask "Why do you ask?". They probably want to know if you're worth their time
Any good provider will be straightforward about the prices and what she won't do. If you request a special service, a safe provider generally won't discuss that on the phone.
In person, the provider has every right to ask you how much you want to pay for that service, especially if there was no clue in her ad/website about what extras would cost. What extras - anything outside of the obvious.
Safety First.
When the subject of money and sex arise in the same conversation, you could be charged with soliciting prostitution.
Personally, I never discuss sex or money with a provider during a phone conversation. If they bring it up I automatically assume that it's a sting and hang up.
Some clarification is in order. Neither I or any of the providers ever discussed any kind of service on the phone. I don't do that and I would break off any conversation I was having with a provider if she started talking specifics like that, particularly if money was mentioned in the same conversation. Each of the providers who asked me this was someone with at least a fair number of reviews so they weren't newbies. They never said anything about money after I answered the initial question, either on the phone or in person later. Also, they never said anything that I could feel confident explained exactly for what they wanted that information. I could ask afterwards I suppose but that's not the sort of thing I feel like asking about in the pleasant aftermath of matters. That's why I put the original post up to see if anyone knew or had some good ideas about it.
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Its been my experience over a span of 25 years in this "hobby" that whenever the lady makes this kind of query you can expect, about 95% of the time, that you are not going to get what you want, no matter how much you spend. The best, and more experienced, providers have set rates and do not negotiate. The very best have flat rates, tips inclusive. There are exceptions but if you want to improve your odds considerably just pass when the lady ventures into that type of discourse.