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If this had also happened to one of her other reviewers and they would have mentioned it....
lopaw 29 Reviews 350 reads
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....you would have been aware, and this whole thread would be moot.

Do a courtesy for the next guy/girl so that they don't find out the hard way - tactfully address those issues in your review.

CuriousNewbie1673 reads

I just had my first experience from a provider. She was an elite provider at an established agency and she's highly rated (9+ with 3 reviews). The rate was $600 for 1 hour.

My experience was less than stellar. She provided all services the other reviewers mentioned, but she is ultra OCD. For example, she was shocked when I asked to use her shower (maybe she figured I would get the shower dirty?). She was also very concerned about where I laid my clothes down. She freaked out when I set my clothes on the coffee table. When I asked, "Where do you want me to put my clothes?", she finally agreed to let me put them on the floor.

Her incall location was her actual residence, so she was quite paranoid about me touching anything. All action took place on a massage table she had set up in the middle of her living room. Everything else (e.g. the couch) was strictly off limits.  A 30-inch-wide massage table without a pillow is not the most comfortable location for wanton carnal activities :-).

I should mention that I was very clean. I had just showered 2 hours before the meeting. (The request for a shower at her place was just a courtesy to her, so I would be extra clean.) Since I didn't want to return home with blonde hairs on my dark clothing, I had changed into a fresh pair of slacks and a dress shirt at a restaurant restroom just a block away from her incall. This means that when I arrived, I had only been wearing my clothes about 5 minutes after picking them up from the cleaners.

Also, when I asked to leave the lights on for the encounter, she visibly sighed and responded "Oh, Alright. I guess so." Clearly there was no eager-to-please attitude. (She's a former porn star, so I'm sure she's used to having sex with the lights on.)

I had expected some make-out before and after. But she got naked immediately. After a some good DFK,  
she jumped down quickly to excellent BBBJ (no CIM). DATY (no FIV), and CFS were also on the menu. Afterwards, she did not want to hug or cuddle, responding that "I'm not a good cuddler."

Here are my questions:

-- Am I asking too much from a provider for some tease at the beginning, as well as some cuddling afterwards?

-- What's the appropriate performance rating for a gorgeous woman (easily a 10), who provides all services well (BBBJ/DATY/CFS), but simply doesn't want to cuddle and be affectionate? (I must reiterate that her BBBJ was excellent--the best I've ever had).  

Looking over the guidelines, I think Looks:10 and Performance: "7 It was really hot" would be appropriate. Maybe Performance: "8 She went the extra mile" because the BBBJ was so good? I don't think that "9: I forgot it was a service" counts, because I clearly didn't forget it was a service when I'm relegated to the massage table, don't have a pillow, can't touch the furniture, reluctantly am permitted to go to the bathroom, and can't cuddle before and after. However, all previous reviewers rated her a 9+ in performance.

-- Is it normal for a provider to be so OCD and the environment to be so sterile?

-- If I post a negative review as my very first review on TER, will that make it more difficult for me to see other providers? Will they think I am a hard to please customer who will post a bad review? Maybe I should wait until I have some good experiences and post reviews on those first?

-- What about my relationship with the agency? The agency has several beautiful girls, most of whom are highly rated. I want to keep using the agency. If I post a not-so-stellar review, will the agency be reluctant to set me up again?  

-- Could the agency retaliate by removing the TER whitelist reference they gave me? I'm a newbie and only have 1 whitelist reference. If I were to lose that, it would make it difficult for me to set up meetings with other providers without going through the long employment verification I had to undergo with the agency

client_number_9441 reads

yes, although based on your description of events you're being generous with the 7.



-- Modified on 11/23/2014 7:32:10 PM

This is a website that is supposed to be used to review the good and BAD behavior of sex workers.  Man up and report the truth!  Without it this site is worthless and you deserved to be taken advantage of again.  Also never use an agency!  Stick with independent escort.  No matter where you're located $600 an hour should have gotten you better service than you described.

I suggest you write a draft of your review & wait...  you have 90 days...  to submit a review.  Before you submit a review, check your draft sometimes our feelings change after a few days.  That said...    

In my opinion, that was a steep tarrif for one hour.  The massage table restriction...  is fine for FBSM gals...  even with extras...  but at 1/3 your rate.  And I see such gals...  when I'm in the mood to be pampered.    
I've had quicky BP gals who did not offer a proper bed to use...  I don't see them if I find a hint of this in reviews...  and I don't go back if it happens to me...  
I can't imagine a pro questioning your use of the shower as most prefer that or at least permit it.  Sounds unprofessional.    

I'd certainly be disappointed with this session.  
Now if you can get VIP before you submit your review, you can submit using your alias.  (Like filing a problem report, another review, or pay for VIP)  Also a delay in submitting can make it less clear which reviewer submitted the review.  Yes, the agency might pull their white listing.  

3 reviews is not very many.  I look for 6-10 with at least some by experienced reviewers (10 reviews minimun)...   The number scores are less important but the description is important as far as what to expect.

...3 reviews is not well reviewed. Her 9+ ratings are good but with only 3 reviews there isn't enough to establish a base line. $600 way too high. Unless I had gotten some positive info from the reviewers I wouldn't have seen this provider. You are posting with an alias so you have VIP membership. Follow the advice of a previous poster and wait a while to submit the review and submit it under an alias. If you like the agencies other providers see a couple of them before submitting the review. This would give you some idea of the agencies quality and you may be able to post a couple of good reviews before submit this "bad" one.

"Is it normal for a provider to be so OCD and the environment to be so sterile?" Not in my experience.  

"Am I asking too much from a provider for some tease at the beginning, as well as some cuddling afterwards?" No, you are not.  

Agencies are fine but you have to research them just like you do the providers.

reviewers with a similar or more amount of reviews.  Did you PM any of the 3 reviewers to get any extra information?  

$6 bills is way too much for the encounter you experienced.

CuriousNewbie344 reads

Posted By: keystonekid
reviewers with a similar or more amount of reviews.  Did you PM any of the 3 reviewers to get any extra information?    
   
 $6 bills is way too much for the encounter you experienced.
I should have PM'ed the other reviewers. One reviewer who rated her a 10/9 stated that she was very professional and hygienic and very clear in her limits (maybe that's code for "OCD about the apartment"?). He also said she was friendly, but nor familiar (I guess that's codespeak for "doesn't want to cuddle or get intimate"). A couple reviewers also mentioned the massage table, but nobody was bothered by it like I was.

Interestingly, all 3 reviewers mentioned taking a shower, so her showerphobia must be a new development (maybe a previous client took a dump in her shower or something...LOL).


-- Modified on 11/23/2014 7:50:01 PM

....you would have been aware, and this whole thread would be moot.

Do a courtesy for the next guy/girl so that they don't find out the hard way - tactfully address those issues in your review.

CuriousNewbie404 reads

I was going to take harborview's advice and write a draft, and then wait a while to post a review. I recently met several providers from the same agency at a social event, and I wanted to try them out first, and perhaps post some positive reviews about them before posting my negative review for the provider in question.

However, I just checked the agency website and this provider has disappeared from their offerings. Scuttlebutt among the other girls was she had a falling out with the management. So I may not be able to post the review after all.

Her reviews are still up on TER, and the links to her website on the review page are still there, but they're dead links. (Somehow TER hasn't figured out the links are dead yet, since they just link to the agency home page.)

I don't think I can post a review without a valid link, right? (Even if the TER page for the provider is still active)

This seems to indicate instability on the part of the provider. She apparently was hired, had good reviews, and got along with management at the agency. Then she went off the deep end, fought with fellow providers and management, and started acting very defensive at her incall location

You do need working links to post a review, if her ads pop up somewhere else you can write the review. She might challenge it and it would be hard to prove you saw her though.

Your description as written here gives credit where credit is due and mentions very specific (pretty serious, IMO) issues, especially considering the provider's rate.  That with a 7 (or even 6) wouldn't make you a hobbyist who scores low.

I think Courtney Ova once commented on a review where a hobbyist saw a provider who charged $40 for 15 minutes and he gave her a low score, criticizing the facilities.  THAT is a low scorer

Great looking with fantastic performance, but very uncomfortable and difficult to drive.

It looks like the situation has taken care of itself as you mention, but as a rule, if this kind of circumstance appears again, write a review that carefully conveys the facts just as you did in your excellent post.

I'd say a performance score of 7 would be more than generous given all the flack she doles out.

As for losing your white list rating, I suppose that is a concern, but if they are of such low morals to do such a thing, their rating isn't worth much anyways.

You might find one that still works.  If she's off the agency site, you might want to push the review if you get a valid ad link.  It wouldn't reflect on the agency at all as she's no longer working for them.

CuriousNewbie348 reads

I'll see what I can do. However, apparently she threw a temper tantrum at an event with the management and is out for good.

Posted By: harborview
You might find one that still works.  If she's off the agency site, you might want to push the review if you get a valid ad link.  It wouldn't reflect on the agency at all as she's no longer working for them.  

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