I wouldn't want one. Any paper trail is not a good idea especially if a SO or wife does the laundry.

and is safer than sending a text message--or hand-written note.

I think this is a nice gesture, and is also just good business practice, to thank your valued clients after a session. It's seems odd to me that in all my time in the hobby, I've only had two providers do this. One sent me a text message soon after the session (as I said, not the best option but I appreciated the thought) and the other sent a PM, just yesterday, again right after the session.

I always send some kind of "thank you, I had a great time" message (email or PM) to the provider, usually the day after, if I had a good time (except in the two cases I mentioned, where the provider did so first). And the lady has always replied in kind. But it would be nice to see more providers initiate the "thank you."

Another way to say "thank you" is to ask the gentleman if he would like you to white list him--assuming you feel comfortable doing that. But please ask first--some guys don't like white lists.

Since most guys will not give you their address?  And, as P12 noted, you won't be making any friends or nurturing a long-term relationship if the poor guy's SO opens and then asks him, "Why is Susie Suxalot" sending you thank-you notes?"
It is very nice to want to give this level of service, but this is not the way.  An email will be fine.

A hand written note, while a nice thought, is not a real good idea.  Very few guys you see are going to give you their mailing address, and as pointed out, a note forgotten in a pocket could be very dangerous if the guy has a spouse, or live-in girlfriend.

A PM, email, or maybe a text would be much safer for all concerned.

Swim

The expression of appreciation in a note is indeed a nice touch and is appreciated (though as others have said, a hand-written note probably isn't the best medium to convey this appreciation).

Also, even though it is a business, as the date is ending it's still nice to hear, "I had a great time too, would love to see you again", or something like that.  BUT, only say this if true, or if you are a great actress, as blatant insincerity doesn't really sit well (with me anyway).

And at the end of a session (or before a subsequent date) you can ask if he has any special requests (like an outfit), this certainly demonsrates appreciation and a desire to please.

If you are visiting the area of a past client, a personal email notifying him of such is nice too.  Same thing if you are offering a special, I appreciate when a lady let's me know this.

First, you're probably right that some mang... er, guys... would love to get a personal thank you note.  I wouldn't, but guys that are into the GFE with a BIG emphasis on "GF" probably would.

Be extremely careful though.  For the rest of us, leave nothing but memories in the room.  If I found a little note from a girl in my stuff after she left I'd be appalled at her lack of discretion.   So if you do it, stick with the same communication path.  If you set it up by email, use email.  If text or VM, I guess that's okay.  Stick to the same path though.  

Second, also understand that while you may get dudes who are inclined to fall for a provider with "personal touches" like thank you cards and follow up messages and texts, many of us are, as the phrase goes, "not paying you to show up, but paying you to leave."  We have families, wives, and real lives.  We don't really want texts (we gave you a Google voice number) emails (we just check for appointment info) or calls (again, it's Google voice anyway).  

And we certainly do not want a handwritten card.  That makes us worried you're going to show up on our porch when we're getting the mail with our four-year-old.

The idea that this ain't match.com goes both ways.

 


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As mentioned before, many guys aren't going to want to carry a physical note away from a session.  But a proactive 'thank you' message could go over really well with one caveat - get permission to communicate first.  Obviously many hobby horror stories have started with a badly-timed email/text/call, etc, so I'd check with the client if the method they used to communicate with you is OK for you to use.  This also gives them a chance to politely 'opt-out' if they just aren't interested in follow-ups.

Like a few other posters said, a quick unsolicited thank you a day or two later would actually make you stand out.  There will always be clients on a couple of extremes who will latch on to that as an invitiation to get overly personal or think you're trolling for reviews, but for most of us its nice and makes a repeat more enticing.