In my hometown, there are very few quality providers. Most aren't reviewed, in fact I think I might be the only active reviewer in my area. I've been importing girls from Chicago that are willing to travel, but that only works well in advance. Most of the providers here are... inexperienced to put it politely. What is the best way to to give feedback to my local regulars on what I'm looking for and what I want with out upsetting them? I don't want them to think they are inadequate, it's just I need a better experience.
A,B, and C isn't cutting it for you, and you'd like them to try X,Y, and Z instead.
If you are sincere and respectful they might be open to what you have to say. Of course you can't expect them to change 180 degrees overnight, and practice is needed to make perfect. Some financial incentive might help as well.
Also realize that certain kinky things (greek COF, CIM, etc.) are just beyond some gal's aesthetic limits and will be a no-go, but you never know till you ask.
Tact and diplomacy will be of the utmost importance.
I'm not actually asking for anything kinky, just specific ways they do a BJ, or ride, or the fact when they say they do a GFE, I expect DFK. That's all.
that's it, that's the spot..."
Sure, I do that all the time, and the gals are grateful for the suggestions.
Gals tell me the same stuff when I'm going down on them, so it's all good.
Don't be shy about that. Gals love to learn how to please you. I suspect we all have our specific dos and don'ts and favorite ways just like gals do. I wouldn't be surprised that they take notes on it for future reference.
Okay, "Less teeth, more tongue" "Use your hand" "Grip harder" "When I inquired about GFE, you said yes, but you won't kiss." "More rocking, less up and down." etc.
I tried with one and she got mad and told me to leave, which I did cause I was not enjoying it.
Most are pretty good about suggestions if they are tendered gently and not outrageous.
As for the kissing, it could well be your breath. Sometime brushing and rinsing are not enough. Women have very sensitive noses and are often repelled by our breath. For example, if you eat a lot of garlic, no amount of brushing or rinsing is going to get rid of it because the garlic odor is in your blood stream and is imparted to your breath in the lungs.
The only answer is to stay off garlic for at least 10 days so that it gets out of your system.
Persistent bad breath can also be a sign of something wrong with the stomach and could mean you should consult a doctor.
Do you think a local girl would consider doubling with one of your RELIABLE friends from Shy Town (who you should ask in advance - she might not want to teach someone to better take away your business!)?
Maybe the local would benefit both you and herself from the learning experience
build those communication skills, be tactful and don't be shy.
I'd also suggest finding a provider you like and are most comfortable with, and slowly helping her to learn over the course of a few sessions. Too much, too fast often seems like pressure and no amount of tact will overcome that perception.
Be sure to learn what she likes as much as you teach her what you like. A little extra clock time and a tip for a better session can't hurt.
Encourage, never "correct", like: "That feels so good; would you please (insert change you'd like)". When she does, let her know how good it feels or how perfect it is.