I have a date tonight in fact and I just E mailed her two days ago about the donation change on P411. I said I noticed that the donation for her time had gone up since setting up/confirming our date and wanted to be sure that what I had set aside was still okay? She responded saying of course. Anything before the change stays. It would have been a deal breaker for me if I had to pay the additional donation after booking based upon the recently listed donation amount in this case because it was already $500 and I am covering the cost of an upscale hotel, which in my market, have high rates right now, because people from cold weather states travel and vacation here. The cost would have gotten too high and I would have had to cancel. But it all worked out.
Often a womans rates are higher on her website than say on P411. I go with the P411 rate if it shows that she is logging into the site frequently and had done so recently. [That means they are logging in and checking messages and had not changed the donation amount on their page]. Lower rates and discounts are often offered to P411 members and that is never listed on their website. Perfect example is I have a date with a provider who is based out of California next week. Her website and home city page on P411 show a donation of $500 for California. But if you click the traveling city links to the P411 pages for each city, you will see she charges $350 on the road in cities like Albuquerque and $400 for Phoenix.Newbie here. I've been setting up a first time encounter with a provider for the past couple weeks and have recently confirmed our date. However, I just noticed that her rate for the requested session has now gone up since I first contacted her. I noticed the change on her website yet the original rate is unchanged in her P411 profile. Should I clarify with her which rate I'm expected to pay? Not sure if this is a common thing or not and whether I should assume that the original rate would still apply in my case since I had initiated things with the understanding of her rates being what they were at the time. If I do ask her for clarification, how do I go about it without possibly turning her off as I feel this is a sensitive thing to approach her on. Last thing I would want is to shortchange her the day of. This and the embarrassment would be a terrible way to start things off.
Do it gently, and explain that you have seen different rates on the two different sites and want to be sure you are bringing the correct amount. IMHO, she should honor the rate at which you made the date, but she might not. Unfortunately, this does happen, they change the rate on one site and forget they have old rate posted on other places. Kinda sucks for us, but not much we can do other than make sure we're bringing the right donation.
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I have a date tonight in fact and I just E mailed her two days ago about the donation change on P411. I said I noticed that the donation for her time had gone up since setting up/confirming our date and wanted to be sure that what I had set aside was still okay? She responded saying of course. Anything before the change stays. It would have been a deal breaker for me if I had to pay the additional donation after booking based upon the recently listed donation amount in this case because it was already $500 and I am covering the cost of an upscale hotel, which in my market, have high rates right now, because people from cold weather states travel and vacation here. The cost would have gotten too high and I would have had to cancel. But it all worked out.
Often a womans rates are higher on her website than say on P411. I go with the P411 rate if it shows that she is logging into the site frequently and had done so recently. [That means they are logging in and checking messages and had not changed the donation amount on their page]. Lower rates and discounts are often offered to P411 members and that is never listed on their website. Perfect example is I have a date with a provider who is based out of California next week. Her website and home city page on P411 show a donation of $500 for California. But if you click the traveling city links to the P411 pages for each city, you will see she charges $350 on the road in cities like Albuquerque and $400 for Phoenix.
Through P411, pay the P411 rate. Many give a better rate for the ease of screening when you use a verification service.
but highly recommend confirming this with her beforehand - because the last thing you want is a lady thinking you shorted her. You don't even have to acknowlege any other particular place you saw other rates (like TER or her site), just say something like, "I assume your rates stated here on P411 apply?"
Thanks guys for your feedback. I was able to sort it out in a delicate way which she appreciated and am good to go!