Wondering what information is typically requested/shared when contacting a reference given by a new client who wants to see you?
There is no template, though unless you are a bad client, or a very very good friend - most ladies lean towards the "less is more" type of response. Does the contact info match, did they meet you, were they safe during and after your visit, would they welcome you back.
Assuming it is a good reference?
One lady might say, "He is lovely, I met him last spring."
a good friend who trusts me to be discreet might say,
"He is lovely. In his 90's, so has difficulty with stairs and is hard of hearing. Believe it or not, he's extremely energetic, and partial to FC's so try to have some around... have fun!
Most providers are not gonna reveal what they want to know when inquiring about references. They all have their private requirements for screening, and very few will reveal in open forum what they want to know.
Just comply with whatever your provider wants and don't worry about what you have no control over.
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Just trying to get a sense whether the emphasis is primarily on safety or whether it's often more personal in nature. I'm sure it varies with the provider but I'm curious about what might be considered typical..
I'm sure its mostly about safety but if you have bad hygiene , show up with alcohol on your breath or general just act like an ass I'm sure it will come up. That's why I always show up clean , sober and treat them with respect and I've never had any problems with references in 17 years of doing this and I'm sure you won't either .
Don't beat yourself up over it. If you're tall, short, skinny, fat, tripod dick, needle dick, bald, permed, or missing a leg, very little of that makes a difference and will be a part of your persona. If it's something you can change and don't like, then start changing it, if you can't change it then learn to handle it.
If it's something that really concerns you and you think a potential provider may recoil, then include that in your profile on a screening service so it's available without you having to ask "I'm built like a bald walrus with a short dick the diameter of a can of Coke, my tongue is like a giraffe's and I breathe through my ears, will you still see me?"
As much as you're focused on your exterior, women are focused on who you are and if you're clean and safe. By the way, every woman you meet will further establish your reputation and persona. As you cruise the General Discussion (GD) boards you'll run across people for whom that was a painful realization
that wasn't the reason for my post. I guess I'm mainly wondering if the personal preferences of a client are often shared with other providers via a reference. I can see where this could be both an advantage and a disadvantage (if the client prefers they not be a factor) when being considered by another provider.
If it's something that really concerns you and you think a potential provider may recoil, then include that in your profile on a screening service so it's available without you having to ask "I'm built like a bald walrus with a short dick the diameter of a can of Coke, my tongue is like a giraffe's and I breathe through my ears, will you still see me?"
As much as you're focused on your exterior, women are focused on who you are and if you're clean and safe. By the way, every woman you meet will further establish your reputation and persona. As you cruise the General Discussion (GD) boards you'll run across people for whom that was a painful realization!
If by "personal preferences," you mean propensities for certain sexual activities then no, that'd be incredibly tacky.
If it's something that really concerns you and you think a potential provider may recoil, then include that in your profile on a screening service so it's available without you having to ask "I'm built like a bald walrus with a short dick the diameter of a can of Coke, my tongue is like a giraffe's and I breathe through my ears, will you still see me?"
As much as you're focused on your exterior, women are focused on who you are and if you're clean and safe. By the way, every woman you meet will further establish your reputation and persona. As you cruise the General Discussion (GD) boards you'll run across people for whom that was a painful realization!
of the type of thing I'm wondering about. Is it common for a provider to reject a client based on the client's sexual propensities that may have been mentioned by a reference? It seems that some additional information about the client (beyond safety considerations) may be reasonably requested by a provider or shared by a reference for a number of valid reasons already mentioned, but perhaps only up to a point...
If it's something that really concerns you and you think a potential provider may recoil, then include that in your profile on a screening service so it's available without you having to ask "I'm built like a bald walrus with a short dick the diameter of a can of Coke, my tongue is like a giraffe's and I breathe through my ears, will you still see me?"
As much as you're focused on your exterior, women are focused on who you are and if you're clean and safe. By the way, every woman you meet will further establish your reputation and persona. As you cruise the General Discussion (GD) boards you'll run across people for whom that was a painful realization!
Unless I know the lady requesting the reference personally, I'm not going to talk about the client in a sexual manner. It's not only tacky, but indiscreet as well.
Judging by your response to me, I'm guessing that you got rejected by a provider and are wondering if your reference told her something about your sexual preferences that caused her to not want to see you? If you suspect that to be the case, it would depend on what kinds of "sexual preferences" we're talking about here. I can't imagine a reference sharing anything like that unless it had to do with you being rough or springing some sort of fetish on her without prior discussion.
You're gonna have to be more specific, though. You're welcome to PM me if it's not something you want to share on the board.
If it's something that really concerns you and you think a potential provider may recoil, then include that in your profile on a screening service so it's available without you having to ask "I'm built like a bald walrus with a short dick the diameter of a can of Coke, my tongue is like a giraffe's and I breathe through my ears, will you still see me?"
As much as you're focused on your exterior, women are focused on who you are and if you're clean and safe. By the way, every woman you meet will further establish your reputation and persona. As you cruise the General Discussion (GD) boards you'll run across people for whom that was a painful realization!
If you were pressuring her for BBFS or an activity she told you she was uncomfortable with, or if you were violent or excessively rough I would expect her to share that information.
If it's something that really concerns you and you think a potential provider may recoil, then include that in your profile on a screening service so it's available without you having to ask "I'm built like a bald walrus with a short dick the diameter of a can of Coke, my tongue is like a giraffe's and I breathe through my ears, will you still see me?"
As much as you're focused on your exterior, women are focused on who you are and if you're clean and safe. By the way, every woman you meet will further establish your reputation and persona. As you cruise the General Discussion (GD) boards you'll run across people for whom that was a painful realization!