Regardless of your virginity situation, many providers, esp the more experienced ones, will not see anyone under a certain age which can vary by several years depending on her. As mentioned previously, Preferred411 allows their providers to indicate if they are newbie friendly. Joining that site would be a big help. Gina and her staff will work with you to verify you. Like also said, mention on your profile your a virgin, but it's not necessary to keep telling providers, they can look at your P411 profile.
Don't be so worried about pleasing the provider, you are paying her to please you. While pleasuring the lady is always welcomed, it's also not always necessary. After you get some experience, then start enjoying her treasures. Swim
Hello I've been searching for a provider for a while now in NY and I seem to have no luck, I think it has to do with my age and non experience. So I was really hoping someone could be nice enough to give me a few tips on how to look for a provider that is willing to see me.
When I message providers and ask them if they would see a 19 year old they either say they only see older clients 30+ or stop replying. I can see why they might be cautious around guys around my age, possibly past experiences with immature ones. I only mention me being a virgin to few and only one said she did not see virgin and I can see why, lack of experience and not providing a good time for the provider. See that's where I think I'm different, I want to please the provider anyway I can. I can honestly say I would prefer to please the provider than me enjoying myself during my first time.
So I was wondering how I could message a provider or find a provider that is willing to see someone around my age without writing too much or mentioning too much. Thank you in advance for your help.
P.S I'm planning on buying a TER VIP membership soon if that helps
First thing, the providers job is to make YOU feel good. Not the other way around. Since you already stated you are a virgin, if you see a provider let her do the work to make you feel good. You don't really know what you are doing your first time so leave it to the professional. You will have a much better first experience this way.
Secondly join a site that can verify all your personal information. P411 is popular and when you are verified you can search on that site for providers that are newbie friendly. Check with those providers about possibly setting up an appointment.
Lastly only give out information that the provider specifically asks for and no more.
PS- The reason providers prefer older guys is because they are more likely to have the available funds (and be more serious) for an appointment.
PSS- If the main reason you are wanting to use a provider for your first time is to make her feel good and to hell with your first lay and you are willing to pay for that then you really and I mean really need to rethink why you want to see a provider. Seriously. Give it much more thought.
Not being able to find a provider in New York is like not being able to catch a fish in the middle of the ocean. You're definitely doing something wrong.
Ah, ok. Mystery solved. Join a screening service like P411, that will help. You're quite young, but some providers will see you. And once you get a few 'Provider OKs' via your screening service, more providers will consider seeing you. Disclose your age on your profile, but stop mentioning it. And for chrissakes, don't mention that you're a virgin. Act like you know-what-you're-doing.
Regardless of your virginity situation, many providers, esp the more experienced ones, will not see anyone under a certain age which can vary by several years depending on her. As mentioned previously, Preferred411 allows their providers to indicate if they are newbie friendly. Joining that site would be a big help. Gina and her staff will work with you to verify you. Like also said, mention on your profile your a virgin, but it's not necessary to keep telling providers, they can look at your P411 profile.
Don't be so worried about pleasing the provider, you are paying her to please you. While pleasuring the lady is always welcomed, it's also not always necessary. After you get some experience, then start enjoying her treasures.
Swim
As long as you're compliant with their screening process and do not exhibit any dangerous or immature behavior, most agencies will be more accommodating than indy ladies in getting you started (after all, their bottom line is dependent on appointment volume). I'm of the opinion that you should NOT disclose your virginity. Once your in the door, just tell her that you're nervous because you're brand new to the hobby and not very sexually experienced. Then, let her take the lead. Once you've done it, you'll realize that there's really not much to it (both P4P and sex in general). Good luck!
you can find a newbie friendly provider. At your age, you will need to act like a mature adult and be able to convice providers that they should see you.
That'll help prevent you from getting fixated on the one who popped your cherry, and keeps you from getting clingy.
But the tip about a massage parlor is likely the best one so far, it'll aid you in relaxing in front of a woman whose aim is to make you feel comfortable but also does so in a way that's not as intimate. Much less risk of an attachment.
But the tip about a massage parlor is likely the best one so far, it'll aid you in relaxing in front of a woman whose aim is to make you feel comfortable but also does so in a way that's not as intimate. Much less risk of an attachment.
Secondly join a site that can verify all your personal information. P411 is popular and when you are verified you can search on that site for providers that are newbie friendly. Check with those providers about possibly setting up an appointment.
Lastly only give out information that the provider specifically asks for and no more.
PS- The reason providers prefer older guys is because they are more likely to have the available funds (and be more serious) for an appointment.
PSS- If the main reason you are wanting to use a provider for your first time is to make her feel good and to hell with your first lay and you are willing to pay for that then you really and I mean really need to rethink why you want to see a provider. Seriously. Give it much more thought.
This thread of QandAs has a familiar ring to it. But maybe I'm just thinking desperately.
To simplify, I agree with several suggestions above:
1. Just go to an AMP and get it over with. THEN work on expanding your horizons.
2. Don't mention virgin, just mention "new" or similar.
3. As I've said before: take it easy, take it slow, everything in its time
I've been open and frank with the ladies I've met - no harm in this, nothing to hide, it's not really a big deal.
Plus, if you tell her this, you can also then solicit her advice re DATY and the such, and she can help you learn some things.
Regarding AMPs, I don't recommend for your first time, as they can be mechanical and are not GFE for the most part (even though I do enjoy these myself). Also, if you look like you might be underage they may even turn you away. I'd suggest booking with a well reviewed lady for at least 1.5 hours for your first time, give yourself time to relax, chit chat a bit, then move into things, take your time and enjoy at least a couple rounds.
Its seems like t at least. It could be seen as a red flag, like maybe they think your coockoo or something.
Once you find out the donation rates. Ask them if you can set up an appointment in such and such time. you pretty much dont have to say anything else. Most would be happy to get a customer, unless they have really strict rules.
And really don't worry about trying for such lofty goals the first time the only goal should be to pop your cherry.