Newbie - FAQ

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Some ladies would be fine with you letting them know about your size beforehand, but there are plenty (myself included) who don't want any of that sort of talk to transpire before meeting you. So on that front, I'm afraid I don't have a solid answer as far as how to avoid running into that issue.  

You mentioned paying a "FS" rate, but you have to remember that everything in this is YMMV. We all have our general things that we offer, but not every "service" is going to be available to every guy, and it's not very wise on our end to offer things "a la carte." So the short answer is yes, asking for a partial refund because the lady couldn't accommodate your size is unreasonable. If you booked x amount of time, you're expected to pay for x amount of time.  

Of course, if the aforementioned situation arises and the lady offers a partial refund, great. But it's really not appropriate for you to ask for one.  

My suggestion would be to post an ISO on your regional board explaining your predicament. That way, providers who are up to the challenge can say so, and perhaps some hobbyists who are similarly endowed can offer some suggestions.  
Posted By: jewelsz1979
I am a man that likes to hobby from time to time. I always seem to run into problems with my endowment. I have been told by women that I have length and girth combined. On several occasions I have done my research on the lady I want to meet, but once she gets a look at it, mentally decides is too much for her to handle. More times than I wanna admit to, I leave havin given the FS donation, but only received a BBBJ and a compliment that I am well endowed or that I should do porn or something. I do take it as a compliment, but often feel like I have just waisted my donation.
   
 I would like to get feedback from Hobbyists and Providers on this one. Is there any way to avoid this? If this happens, would I be wrong to ask for some of the donation back?

I am a man that likes to hobby from time to time. I always seem to run into problems with my endowment. I have been told by women that I have length and girth combined. On several occasions I have done my research on the lady I want to meet, but once she gets a look at it, mentally decides is too much for her to handle. More times than I wanna admit to, I leave havin given the FS donation, but only received a BBBJ and a compliment that I am well endowed or that I should do porn or something. I do take it as a compliment, but often feel like I have just waisted my donation.  

I would like to get feedback from Hobbyists and Providers on this one. Is there any way to avoid this? If this happens, would I be wrong to ask for some of the donation back?

I wouldn't ask for my donation back, though perhaps I might start with short sessions to see how it goes.

On a better note, if you have this issue I'd look into visiting with porn or ex porn stars who may be more used to dealing with issues of this... size ;)  Some of them have pretty reasonable rates and won't be scared of things like this.  

If you look down a few posts you'll see at least one provider who actually enjoys large endowed men.

I have similar issues. I actually buy custom condoms because I have more girth than the average guy. I get off the best when I go deep, but with some providers I cant. In those cases, I never really get off like I would like. However, it depends on the provider. I have spent time with a 20 something once that was nervous when she saw it, but once I assured her I am not rough, she ended up having an O in both k-9 and mish she said. I remember another who could take me in mish and had an intense O in mish, but could not take me in k-9. My last provider seemed to endure the whole appointment and I could not go deep in any position except her on top, which is my least favorite position.  

My suggestion is to find 1-3 providers who can take it and stick with them. You may have less variety, but it sucks when you can only stick the tip in LOL. I would probably stay away from the 19 and 20 something providers who are 5'1" and 115 pounds and stick with mature 30-40 year old providers that are 5'6-5'9" and 120-130 pounds. In my experience they can handle a lot more

You might have to let said hooker know about it up front so that the donation can be altered to reflect the lack of PV action or she can just refuse to see you...up to her.  

I can't take big and you seem to be way out there with size and what I do if the guy does not say anything beforehand and I am confronted withsaid large penis,  is offer a FBSM with possibly a bit of oral thrown in at my FBSM rate. Or just offer a modified FS rate for no penetration but oral and the other stuff that goes with it.

as to how a prospective client could bring this up in advance to a prospective provider? This is the newbie board and we always drill into them, "never discuss anything sex related." So for the benefit of the OP and other newbies who may have his "problem," what are good ways they can bring it up pre meeting to make sure they are compatible, without getting hung up on, or getting their emails ignored, or even blacklisted?

I have a similar size problem, but in my case it is my large waistline.

Some screening services, like P411, allow clients to create a profile.  You could address the issue there; how you do it (straightforward, innuendo, metaphors) is up to you.

But just because you have a profile doesn't mean the provider will read it.

Something that I would answer ....

blah, blah....I drive a very large truck. I was wondering if you have a garage that could accommodate my truck?  I have had issues in the past where I have been unable to park at all.  Quite disappointing when I have driven all that way. .....

 
Yes, the provider would have to be able to pick up on that ...I know I would, however something along those lines where sex and sexual body parts are not mentioned.

Just put this in your profile - in a straight forward manner ("I am a magnum+ gentleman" or something like that).  And mention there that because FS is important to you, that if this can't be accommodated, that the lady respectfully let you know, as it wouldn't then be a good match for what you are looking for.  Then, when corresponding with ladies, confirm with them before scheduling that they have indeed reviewed your profile and are okay with it and don't forsee a problem.

I love it. I wish more guys on P411 would spell stuff like this out. For instance if a guy likes full on action for the entire time, he can say that and be matched with a lady who loves that.  

I strive for as good a match as I can get. The more I know about a prospective client, the better. That way I can politely refuse so he can find someone that matches him and his desires if I know out of the gate that I cannot/won't do what he needs). I get flack for this but in reality why would  any guy want to be with someone who is not comfortable or blatantly refuses something she can't do?  

The biggest mistake some johns make is that they feel ALL hookers should provide everything.

about my brilliance! haha! ;o)

I do try to give a flavor of what I'm like in my profile.  I don't have any unusual desires, but I do like pleasing as much as being pleased and prefer 2 hour dates and give my reason.  If for any reason a lady doesn't think we'd be a good match, I'll gladly move along.  I'd never ask a lady to do something with me if I knew she wasn't comfortable with it - but, I might still be interested in meeting with a lady who doesn't necessarily do ALL the things I like, or doesn't match up with my usual selection criteria.  Switching things up sometimes, trying new things, can be fun.  For instance, I think I'm too big for you for PV action, but you are such an intriguing mystery woman, I'm sure we'd find a way to have fun... :o

Some ladies would be fine with you letting them know about your size beforehand, but there are plenty (myself included) who don't want any of that sort of talk to transpire before meeting you. So on that front, I'm afraid I don't have a solid answer as far as how to avoid running into that issue.  

You mentioned paying a "FS" rate, but you have to remember that everything in this is YMMV. We all have our general things that we offer, but not every "service" is going to be available to every guy, and it's not very wise on our end to offer things "a la carte." So the short answer is yes, asking for a partial refund because the lady couldn't accommodate your size is unreasonable. If you booked x amount of time, you're expected to pay for x amount of time.  

Of course, if the aforementioned situation arises and the lady offers a partial refund, great. But it's really not appropriate for you to ask for one.  

My suggestion would be to post an ISO on your regional board explaining your predicament. That way, providers who are up to the challenge can say so, and perhaps some hobbyists who are similarly endowed can offer some suggestions.  

Posted By: jewelsz1979
I am a man that likes to hobby from time to time. I always seem to run into problems with my endowment. I have been told by women that I have length and girth combined. On several occasions I have done my research on the lady I want to meet, but once she gets a look at it, mentally decides is too much for her to handle. More times than I wanna admit to, I leave havin given the FS donation, but only received a BBBJ and a compliment that I am well endowed or that I should do porn or something. I do take it as a compliment, but often feel like I have just waisted my donation.
   
 I would like to get feedback from Hobbyists and Providers on this one. Is there any way to avoid this? If this happens, would I be wrong to ask for some of the donation back?

You don't really make any mention of your size except for this one statement that can be easily missed.

"She can take it deep and take it hard without trying to get away"

My suggestion is that when you wish to hobby you ISO and state exactly what you want and how big you are, don't down play it. Don't forget to mention where you are. You could even post in your regional board. Believe me, there's plenty that love a well endowed gentleman!  

After reading the reviews I need a cold shower!

"She could probably smoke a cigarette in one drag is what I'm trying to say" hahahaha that's awesome.

But, to be serious... It might be wise to mention your size in your reviews as well. "I'm big and sometimes ladies have a hard time with my girth, but she took it like a champ." or something like that.

visiting Vegas anytime soon???   I'm in lol

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