Someone elses unrealistic expectations of you is either (pick your reality)
1. Their fault for expecting too much
2. Your fault for allowing that to be
As to the hobby, it still does not excuse dishonesty vs. speaking with the person involved and attempting to negotiate and agree on what is acceptable or not for *both* parties. You have no right to decide that for another though it is easy to find "reasons" to do so. Everyone is entitled to that inalianable right to happines, and CHOICE. Dishonesty and ignorance do not breed those conditions.
Search yourself, first and foremost.
Do not look for excuses and justifications, look for what *is*. Base your actions on what resonates as *right*.
I'm sorry if I sound harsh. Us ladies hear every excuse that has ever been and then one more...
it gets old.
What ARE your need priorities?
Personal responsibility... a lecture for another day...
xoxo,
Sola
Does the fact that no one person can satisfy 100% of another person's needs, justify my havparticipation in the hobby? In other words, do I have a right to seek 100% satisfaction? I don't have an answer (well actually, I have a lot of answers depending on my mood, time of day, new photos/reviews on TER, etc.). Lately, I have been more of the Nietzchean mindset where exploring life's exuberance makes hobbying not only justified but damn near essential.
Do you cohabitate? Does your cohabitant know? Does it matter?
No, this does not "justify" your participation in the hobby. If you feel that justification is needed do some more soul searching...
Yes, you have a right to seek 100% satisfaction. If you are seeking that outside your *own* life and self you will most certainly be disappointed (though could have lots of fun in the search).
Morals, ethics, obligation and honor with others is a consideration and one to be taken seriously. Can you really be 100% fulfilled if you know deep down you are being dishonest and/or breaking promises to someone whom you care for?
Damn I like you Miss Love.
The more I read of your posts the more you impress me...
and since I was quite well impressed to begin with that is definately something ma'am.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful, and insightful posts, it is a pleasure to read them.
You will not get 100% here... or there..unless of course.. you are are 100%
What an insightful response. Thanks. (Obviously, this post was meant to be part of the thread below.) Does it matter that I am not meeting someone else's unrealistic expectations of me? As you say, these are all a matter of how we prioritize and value certain "needs".
Someone elses unrealistic expectations of you is either (pick your reality)
1. Their fault for expecting too much
2. Your fault for allowing that to be
As to the hobby, it still does not excuse dishonesty vs. speaking with the person involved and attempting to negotiate and agree on what is acceptable or not for *both* parties. You have no right to decide that for another though it is easy to find "reasons" to do so. Everyone is entitled to that inalianable right to happines, and CHOICE. Dishonesty and ignorance do not breed those conditions.
Search yourself, first and foremost.
Do not look for excuses and justifications, look for what *is*. Base your actions on what resonates as *right*.
I'm sorry if I sound harsh. Us ladies hear every excuse that has ever been and then one more...
it gets old.
What ARE your need priorities?
Personal responsibility... a lecture for another day...
xoxo,
Sola
Preach, sister, preach. 
Sorry, it is too late for me to reply to all of you below, thank you for your words.
Mr SD... looking forward to seeing you soon!
WebTerrorist, are you in LA? If so... I think a lunch is in order. Let me know.
xoxo,
Sola
Define your idea of perfection. Can you do that? There is no such thing as perfection in nature. The laws of nature won’t allow it. Those who look for perfection in people tend to be disappointed. Looking for perfection is like looking for infinity, which is like looking to find where two, perfectly parallel lines meet. Many providers’ ads say 100% satisfaction guaranteed. What is your definition of 100% satisfaction? How long would a session with a provider be if it were possible? If you’re looking for a reason to be in the hobby try this one.
Great sexual companionship with no ties. Now that’s satisfaction in this hobby. Based on your reviews you have already found it.
Or try the the following link
english please lol