Ok, although I'm in my 50s, I'm not experienced in the whole "provider, hobbyist" thing.  My only real experience is posting ads on CL before they got so diificult to post and having providers respond.  Biut, what I'm loking for is a an attractive mature woman to accompany me to Couples Oasis Wed pool party and the maybe Red Rooster or another party on Friday night.  In between, I'll be working.  But wading through all ads I keep running across the need for references.  And, some of the ads point me to websites to find out rates, only to find thazt the rates are way out of my ballpark.  So, how do I deral with the lack of references as an inexperienced guy, and what should I legitimately expect to pay for an afternoon or evening.  Thanksfor your insights