As I've read through the boards and reviews, I've noticed a lot of comments along the lines of "she seemed to really be enjoying it", or "we really connected” and the like. I'm under no illusions that P4P is just that and there is a limitation to how “real” the connection actually is. However, there are plenty of seemingly candid comments from providers that support the notion that, in fact, there are some truly enjoyable experiences to be had or that she looks forward to a particular client visit.
In my quite limited experience, it seems that (1) being compassionate – not looking at a lady as a service, (2) actually listening – both in conversation and physicality, (3) showing a little thought – small gift, or a nice card, and (4) seeking to share in pleasure – not being 100% about “me” go a long way. Assuming that the obligatory cleanliness, fresh breathe and respect for a provider is met, what makes a provider truly enjoy a date? The kind of evening that absolutely flies by and leaves you both at the end of it saying, "damn, that was really good, I wish there was more time" (whether compensated or that one would go OTC if they could)Providers are real women with real feelings, emotions and needs. If you treat them with the same respect and friendship you would anyone else you can find a real connection with some that goes beyond the financial transaction. That doesn't mean you should expect to have an OTC relationship with her, but rather that you both look forward to see each other again and enjoy the time you spend together beyond the simple act of sex.
I completely agree, and I guess that realness is more at the heart of the question/topic. I've seen comments referencing "us v. them" as an unfortunate by product (for some) just the same as I've seen the really positive comments. So, perhaps the flip side of my post is what are the characteristics of an "us v. them" situation? Not the obvious ones - such as disrespectful, rude behavior - but the more subtle indicators.
FWIW... I would never expect OTC, nor pursue that type of relationship. IMO, that is something that is driven entirely by the lady and would have to come about organically.
When suggesting it, I always insist that "she call me" if she would like to "go something" someday, and that I will not be calling her for anything other than another appointment to be absolutely certain that she really "wants' to go out with me and isn't just being polite or afraid to say no to a customer.
I have to say, the last thing I want is for some woman to go on an OTC with me because she felt pressured to, can you imagine how awkward, forced, and just plain uncomfortable a "date" like that would be?
... since you are still leaving the ball in her court. Though, I would imagine that this offer is still coming after several formal dates. Not being in that position (yet), I err on the side of letting things develop BCD and go from there.
I actually had a date a few weeks ago where on our first date we spent three unplanned hours together, not BCD however.
She was a Thai Provider that was here for a month, I made a short notice appointment on a Sunday and during our "pillow talk" part of the date we talked about the Asian markets in the area, and I asked her if she had been to the "Thai Temple" nearby, and that I she wanted to, I could take her there someday. Long story short, as I was getting dressed to leave, she asked me what I was doing for the rest of the day, when I responded that I was going to the Thai market to buy some fresh seafood, she asked if I would take her. We've been talking almost every day since then. lol
yes because, for ex., 22 yr old girls always enjoy the company of 68 yr old men. I think most of those comments are from hobbyists who are either delusional or are letting their ego color their opinion.
not long ago, there was a lady who admitted her real reactions during encounters and in many of her reviews the reviewer mentioned how well they "clicked". she was faking it but, of course, THEY were so charming that she obviuosly enjoyed their company more than the other poor saps who paid her.
btw, the responses you see on here from providers are not a good indicator of the whole lot. not enough of a sample to be accurate.
There are times I meet a gal, and even though her looks and performance are just "OK", there's something about her that mesmerizes me, and it seems to be mutual.
I could spend the time discussing hubcaps and the hours fly by like minutes.
Those are my favorite gals, and they drive me wild.
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I find that that overwhelming majority of the dates that just "click" from day one are the ones where I share something more in common with the lady than my desire for her pussy and her desire for my money. lol
I seem to have a knack of making the asian touring ladies in particular feel a bit at home by knowing a bit about their culture and having "slanty eyes" myself. Knowing where the best Korean/Thai/Chinese restaurants, markets, and even temples are seems to go a long way with having them want to spend "unpaid" time with me.
Actually "getting" the fact that what they do for a living does not define them also seems to go a long ways as well. I don't ask stupid questions like "why do you do this?" "How many guys do you fuck?" or any of the other ten million stupid questions guys seem to ask.
I am not so delusional that I think it's my bedroom skills or great looks that lead to all the OTC time I get, I own a mirror and I am fully aware that the best I can say about myself is that I look ten years younger than I actually am, but I am also aware of the fact that ten years ago I wasn't exactly GQ material then either. lol
Again, I can only speak from the male perspective, but I think that the ladies feel much as we do in the fact that the best "dates" are the ones where both parties forget that it's a paid date, but please don't forget to pay, any illusions you have that she likes you are likely to go up in smoke if you stiff her on the money. lol
I'm not going to let some silly thing like money get in the way of chemistry 
Very good commentary from you and mrfisher, as always.
..you "get it". Yes, p4p is just that, but many of us truly do share deeper connections, than wham bam, thank you, ma'am.
What you offer (1-3) are things that go a long with me. I do not (okay I know I will get flamed) offer a service, but an experience. I ask my gentleman callers what they enjoy drinking, what music they enjoy, etc. I do this not only for the gentleman, but for me. Listening, or not listening is the probably the number one reason why couples divorce. Gentlemen want to be listened to, and appreciated. The white envelope is more than acceptable, but when a gentleman takes his valuable time to choose a cute card, write a personal note, etc, that means a lot to me.
Bottom line. I want my gentleman friend to experience with me, that he does not have at home.
Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly
... sounds like I need to get myself to DC 