But keeping this from even "friends" is important.
Our society in general does not like it when one has found the key to the candy store. The fewer people who know you have found this key the better. Civvie women absolutely detest 'Providers' because providers make civvie women's favorite weapon "sexual manipulation" effete. And civvie women consider a man who sees providers the lowest scum on earth because they can't be "sexually manipulated". It is said that being a provider "isolates" the woman. So too does the hobby do so so for men.he thread below has some good advice on how to keep your hobbying secret from a wife / SO.
My question is, what if you don't have a wife or SO? What sort of precautions do you need to take
so that you don't get entangled in that whole morass.
Also keep the hobby out of your business life. That means don't use any company communication avenues to discuss or make any hobby connections.
And, of course, stick to well reviewed gals who follow safe protocols about screening, etc.
You should be good to go then.
I am also a newbie and should be meeting with my first provider on Tuesday night. She is extremely well reviewed and has been great with all our email exchanges since working towards setting up all the details for our time together. Further, I am also single at this time and was interested to see what one of the seasoned vets on the board had as an answer to this question. Glad to see I have been following your pointers to the letter and will continue to do so moving forward. Especially since I actually aspire to have a SO in my life down the not to distant road at which point I want to be monogamous. Therefore, making sure to be very careful and respectful during my time in the hobby is a high priority for my future safety. Additionally, my being very safety conscious allows me to give providers the respect they deserve as well.
But keeping this from even "friends" is important.
Our society in general does not like it when one has found the key to the candy store. The fewer people who know you have found this key the better. Civvie women absolutely detest 'Providers' because providers make civvie women's favorite weapon "sexual manipulation" effete. And civvie women consider a man who sees providers the lowest scum on earth because they can't be "sexually manipulated".
It is said that being a provider "isolates" the woman. So too does the hobby do so so for men.
Completely agree and that is more good advice. My best friend who has been the brother I should have had; but was stuck with a sociopathic sibling from whom I am permanently estranged instead; is the only one who will ever know. He was a rock from 2006 - 2010 during the darkest times of my life when I lost both of my parents tragically. I have tried to return the favor over the last three years for him which have been his darkest times. He would lay down his life for me as I would for him and it is unlikely I will ever trust another person more than I trust him. I actually saw him this past Friday and told him he will be the only person I will ever share this side of my life with. I know it meant a great deal to him. I wish my dearly departed parents could have had him as the other son they deserved rather than the piece of S**T that we all had the misfortune of having in our family.
I'm Single. I take no Precautions. What would be the point? Who would tell on me?
If not, what if your boss found out?
Self employed? What if your best customer found out?
Do you have close family or friends? Same question.
Perhaps a wealthy investor living alone in their mansion and spending their days collecting butterflies would be able to shrug off any adverse publicity, but nearly everyone else has reasons to stay anonymous.
But the simple precaution of a separate email & hobby phone are worth their weight in gold if a BSC provider decides to blackmail you or something nefarious happens. Agree, do not mix business with the hobby.
My advice is that you take the very same precautions that the married guys do.
That said, I believe almost the entire world already knows about my whore mongering and I don't make the least effort to hide what I do.
but please, before you go down my same path remember, I not only do not have a wife, I don't have a boss, nor do I give a fuck how many of my business associates, clients, suppliers, et al know that I am a whore monger. I am what you would call completely blackmail proof where it comes to the hobby. Unless you can say the same, I would advise you to NOT follow my lead, and even if you are in the same situation as me, I would still advise being a bit careful until you know for a fact that you don't mind "coming out" where it comes to whore mongering, Just because you don't care today, doesn't mean that you might care a whole lot tomorrow.
For the record, I am in my mid fifties, very happily divorced, my mother is actually face book family with one of my ex hooker GF's, I am in the oil business where people expect me to be a pig, so there really isn't much someone can do that hasn't already been done. if that's not the case with you. follow the lead of everyone else here and keep your private business private.
It has been said to not mix your professional life with the hobby. Any thoughts on hobbying while out of town on business, at a hotel reserved (and ultimately paid for) by your employer? I know a lot of guys partake while on business trips, so was wondering if there are any nuances that I'm not seeing.