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Not sure we can generalize
rembrnad0284 12 Reviews 329 reads
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.. but one thing I've learned - there's a Jill for every Jack.  Nothing is ever 100% but there are many wonderful ladies here who should not care in the slightest if you are a clean, nice, respectful guy.

LeanMute1906 reads

So how can I communicate that I am verbally challenged, although my hearing is unimpaired, before getting too far into the screening process. IRL, this is a boring turnoff for most women.  

But people who know me manage to relate well, even though I know some get impatient and frustrated. Especially on the phone.

Am I correct in expecting that providers don't care about such things?

.. but one thing I've learned - there's a Jill for every Jack.  Nothing is ever 100% but there are many wonderful ladies here who should not care in the slightest if you are a clean, nice, respectful guy.

but I have never seen a post relating to lack of speech.  Maybe use text or email instead of trying to use phone?  Once you have a date, I'm sure the two of you will be able to communicate well enough to get the message across.

Swim

I do sincerely hope you find some ladies that find your "problem" to be an endearing trait.

quite understanding and accommodating plus very skilled in body language ;)

You need only to mention just what you did here in your email to her when setting up your appt.  

 
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State that as you did here in your email when setting up the appt. If you all your info in the first email with your appt request then add the speech impairment to the email as well. The provider will understand that before calling to verify.  

Any lady with any class won't treat you any different and she would make sure it's not awkward for you.

TalkToTrees279 reads

I am legally deaf, therefore, I rely on emails and/or texting.  

Even after I tell the prospective provider that I do not accept voice calls, they still want to verify me by voice call. I always tell them the same thing...

"It's OK, forget about it. I will move onto the next person who understands my disability."

One of 2 things usually happens... "Ok, it's your loss"... or... "Oh, I am sorry, I will email/text you to verify our date."

The ones that tell me that it's "my loss"... no, it's not my loss... it's THEIRS! I don't bother responding back, because it's pointless to try to correct someone who is narrow-minded.

The Forest Waits
 

Posted By: LeanMute
So how can I communicate that I am verbally challenged, although my hearing is unimpaired, before getting too far into the screening process. IRL, this is a boring turnoff for most women.  
   
 But people who know me manage to relate well, even though I know some get impatient and frustrated. Especially on the phone.  
   
 Am I correct in expecting that providers don't care about such things?

If someone told me during screening that their speech is impaired, I wouldn't give a shit. Personally, I'm fluent in ASL so hearing and speech impairment are easy to overcome. I think most ladies would want to know ahead of time, though (it's just nice to know those things so there aren't any surprises). No need to fret. :)

LeanMute217 reads

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