Not sure how other girls feel about it but I've hard gentleman who after screening and a few get to know you emails have mentioned something like "I REALLY enjoyed reading the xyz's story of you on your TER profile" I really hope we can have a similar experience."
Or I've had PM's sent to me on TER/email that basically say "I'm so and so and I'm about blah blah blah" I saw your profile on TER and think we would be a good match. Take a look at some of my recent reviews or my reviews of X and Y girl and see if you think the same." I can't speak for everyone but I think the tone and the discretion has a lot to do with it. If you send me an email that says "I'm bigkingkong over on TER and I want to know if you bbbj, cim, grk and if I can call you a dirty slut while my dick is shoved down your throat" well that's probably not a good idea Use discretion. Go through her screening process how she wants you to do it. Make her feel comfortable. After you're screened say something like "there are a few things that I would love to experience with you" could you suggest a way that I could share those ideas with you that would make you comfortable." Be nice and respectful and chances are you will get a nice and respectful response!
A new hobbyist PM'd me and asked: How do you explain to a provider the kind of time together (Ie: wearing a certain outfit, toys, Greek, talk dirty, whatever) you'd like to have? I know you're not suppose to refer to sexual acts and such directly to a provider but how do you convey what you'd like & not get into any trouble if it's even possible?
I thought it was a good question and worth posting. Here's how I answered him.
That's a good question and the answer is complex. Obviously you have to read her TER profile, every word of a provider's websites, any other profiles like P411 she might have, and what her reviewers have reported about their experiences.
You are correct that any talk about anything explicitly sexual will get you in trouble with a provider. But less explicit questions??? It really varies from girl to girl. I prefer to err on the side of caution. None of the girls seem to mind being asked to wear a certain type of outfit. Beyond that, I won't discuss toys, greek, dirty talk, etc.
This approach has kept me safe and in good standing with all the girls I've met. After I've established a rapport with a girl and revisited her a few times then sometimes we exchange more explicit emails. (My ATF just sent me an email saying how wonderful I am (blush, blush) and what powerful full body orgasms she had with me yesterday!)
But on the other hand, I must confess this approach has led to some disappointments as well. One girl told me when I visited her that she didn't offer greek even though her profile clearly stated she does offer it and some of her reviews mentioned greek as well. So I go with the flow, conceal my disappointment and try to have a great time anyway even though that one thing I had hoped to experience with her was not gonna happen. Who knows, maybe she said no because my cock is so huge she was scared, (as if, LOL!)
...P411, I find it very useful if the gentleman completes his profile instead of leaving questions unanswered. Also, P411 allows ladies to include "services" in their profile, which may answer many questions such as toys, Greek, etc.
Taking the time to truly read through reviews and the ladies site will more than likely answer the OP's questions.
I am well aware that the OP is a gentleman, but learning about the other party before a date is in everyone's best interest.
If a hobbyist is on P411, he can fill in the blank part at the bottom of his profile by stating certain things he looks for in a great date. This can be edited each time he wants to change it up a bit or wants something different. Then he can send an email or appt request asking that the provider check out his profile to see if they are a good match.
This isn't too forward and it limits any details or inappropriate language that would otherwise send a red flag to the provider. This has been done a few times with me and it works out perfectly. Also I recommended it to a gentleman who had a disability. Instead of writing the info he thinks needs to be stated in advance about his disability each time he emails a new provider, he just needed to write it once in his P411 profile.
....what other options would he/she have? It's a catch-22. If you can't address it in writing or over the phone, you are rolling the dice if you have a specific request or fetish that you'd like to see carried out.
You basically have 2 options, both of which have been explained already ... Join P411 after you have seen 2 providers who are on there and ask them to invite you so you can get 6 months free and have a profile OR see a provider for a full session or a couple of times to the point where you feel comfortable to ask if they would accommodate you on the next visit. There might be other ways that I can't figure out.
Not sure how other girls feel about it but I've hard gentleman who after screening and a few get to know you emails have mentioned something like "I REALLY enjoyed reading the xyz's story of you on your TER profile" I really hope we can have a similar experience."
Or I've had PM's sent to me on TER/email that basically say "I'm so and so and I'm about blah blah blah" I saw your profile on TER and think we would be a good match. Take a look at some of my recent reviews or my reviews of X and Y girl and see if you think the same."
I can't speak for everyone but I think the tone and the discretion has a lot to do with it. If you send me an email that says "I'm bigkingkong over on TER and I want to know if you bbbj, cim, grk and if I can call you a dirty slut while my dick is shoved down your throat" well that's probably not a good idea
Use discretion. Go through her screening process how she wants you to do it. Make her feel comfortable. After you're screened say something like "there are a few things that I would love to experience with you" could you suggest a way that I could share those ideas with you that would make you comfortable."
Be nice and respectful and chances are you will get a nice and respectful response!
Unfortunately it looks like your attempt to purchase VIP membership has failed due to your card being declined. Good news is that we have several other payment options that you could try.
VIP MEMBER
, you are now a VIP member!
We thank you for your purchase!
VIP MEMBER
, Thank you for becoming VIP member!
Membership should be activated shortly. You'll receive notification!
Use discretion. Go through her screening process how she wants you to do it. Make her feel comfortable. After you're screened say something like "there are a few things that I would love to experience with you" could you suggest a way that I could share those ideas with you that would make you comfortable." Be nice and respectful and chances are you will get a nice and respectful response!