What doe sit mean when a provider says they can not verify me?
The provider wants to know you are not a law enforcement officer (LE) trying to catch her. She wants to know you are not a person that will harm her, rob her, ignore her boundaries, or otherwise be an ass when you see her.
She does this by "verifying" you are a legit guy and not one of the things named above with references from other providers you have seen. Sounds like you haven't seen any other providers and don't have references.Therefore she can't verify you that way.
If you are a member of Preferred411 (P411), a verifying service, and she is a member too she can check with them. They will let her know you are OK. She may still want more information about you even if you are a P411 member since (it appears) you are new to this. She may not be "newbie friendly" and won't see you until you have seen some others providers that are P411 members and they give you OK's on your P411 profile.
There are other verifying services Date Check (DC) and RoomService2000(RS2K).
If you aren't a member of any of these check them out. Look into P411 it's more wide spread. RS2K is mid west (Chicago). DC is all around too. Most here recommend P411. They have an 800 number you can call and work out whatever needs to be worked out. They have a good reputation for this.
Without references or a verification service you are stuck with giving her personal information so she can check you out. Newbie friendly providers will do this. Not all providers are newbie friendly. She may want real name, work information, phone number. One thing she may do is call your work and ask for you acting like a doctor's appointment reminder or some such. Once they send her call to you she knows you do work there and you were honest with her.
If you don't want to do any of this there are providers that will see you without screening (verifying) you but that's not safe. She may be the LE trying to catch you. She may be the person that is going to rob you when you arrive or she may have her boyfriend/pimp do the robbing. Whatever it is it ain't good.
I recommend looking into P411. If I were starting out now that's what I would do.
One other possibility. It won't help you with this particular provider but it could help you get started. Try using an escort agency. Their screening is often simpler but usually requires some personal info. Once you're in with the agency you can see any of their providers. You would possibly be able to use the agency as a reference to see other providers but remember some providers won't take references from agencies.
Hope this helps.
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I've been looking all over for something like this. THANK YOU!!!!
She does this by "verifying" you are a legit guy and not one of the things named above with references from other providers you have seen. Sounds like you haven't seen any other providers and don't have references.Therefore she can't verify you that way.
If you are a member of Preferred411 (P411), a verifying service, and she is a member too she can check with them. They will let her know you are OK. She may still want more information about you even if you are a P411 member since (it appears) you are new to this. She may not be "newbie friendly" and won't see you until you have seen some others providers that are P411 members and they give you OK's on your P411 profile.
There are other verifying services Date Check (DC) and RoomService2000(RS2K).
If you aren't a member of any of these check them out. Look into P411 it's more wide spread. RS2K is mid west (Chicago). DC is all around too. Most here recommend P411. They have an 800 number you can call and work out whatever needs to be worked out. They have a good reputation for this.
Without references or a verification service you are stuck with giving her personal information so she can check you out. Newbie friendly providers will do this. Not all providers are newbie friendly. She may want real name, work information, phone number. One thing she may do is call your work and ask for you acting like a doctor's appointment reminder or some such. Once they send her call to you she knows you do work there and you were honest with her.
If you don't want to do any of this there are providers that will see you without screening (verifying) you but that's not safe. She may be the LE trying to catch you. She may be the person that is going to rob you when you arrive or she may have her boyfriend/pimp do the robbing. Whatever it is it ain't good.
I recommend looking into P411. If I were starting out now that's what I would do.
One other possibility. It won't help you with this particular provider but it could help you get started. Try using an escort agency. Their screening is often simpler but usually requires some personal info. Once you're in with the agency you can see any of their providers. You would possibly be able to use the agency as a reference to see other providers but remember some providers won't take references from agencies.
Hope this helps.
Read the Self-Help Center. All of it. Then come back here and ask more questions.
Self-Help Center link is on the upper right of the board under the red and white life preserver and on the bottom of the Quick Links list on the left of the My TER page. (See the tab at the top of this page.)
gave you a great answer, not much I can add. In a nutshell, she cannot verify that you are not LE or that you are not a whacko. That's what she needs to know in order to be able to see you. It's called screening, just as we have to do the proper research on any provider we want to see.
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