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Posted By: ywncode

 Essentially free vacation for her. I do want both of us to stay in the same room for sure.  
I can tell you that the gals that I know will do vacation gigs with "certain" clients.  I can also tell you that NONE of those gals (and there are quite a few I know VERY VERY well...and are on the higher end of the fee structure) would agree to staying in your room without having a room for themselves.  THEY are not insane!!!

They learned this by going on trips with guys like you who have unrealistic expectations.  And it only took once to learn this.

Free vacation for her....use that one.  All the gals will love you  LOL

Good luck....it sure as hell sounds like you're going to need lots and lots of it.
Posted By: ywncode
Just to give a little bit more context here. I have done a couple of overnights with her. We went around town, hanging out, going to clubs and etc. Everything went great. In fact, one time she actually just spent the night with me without me asking. I had booked for a shorter duration due my schedule. In the end, I just changed my schedule for her.  
   
 Knowing that we get along fairly well for the overnights, and that's why I came up with an idea of vacationing with her.  
   
 As to the vacation itself, I'm definitely not expecting non-stop sex. I'd rather be doing couple things like what we had been doing during the overnights, but just at a vacation setting. In terms of cost, I'll be covering all expenses during the vacation, including, flights, resort, limo, boat, food, drinks, spa anything you can think of basically. Essentially free vacation for her. I do want both of us to stay in the same room for sure.  
   
 Can someone please provide some real stories for real vacations they had gone on with providers?  
 

ywncode1891 reads

Hey guys,

I'm a newbie here and to this hobby as well. I wanted to get your opinions on something I've been thinking about.

Basically, I really love this provider. So I figured instead of spending hours here and there, I want to take her with me on vacation to bora bora for 7 days. I was wondering:
1. If that's a good idea or just plain stupid.
2. How much would it cost typically? (She usually charges $400/hr).
3. What should I expect and not to expect when we are on vacation together?

Please share any experiences you have had. I'd love to hear some true stories!

Thanks in advance!

...the same way about you and wouldn't want to spend 7 hours, let alone 7 days with you.

TalkToTrees551 reads

don't jump into something like this without, at the very least, scheduling a few hours with that provider you have in mind.  

Did both of you have a good time? Is the provider one of those kinds of ladies that likes to explore the world? Does her personality clash with yours?

Spend a few hours with her, then decide. Don't do it until you have done your homework.

The Forest Waits
 

Posted By: ywncode
Hey guys,  
   
 I'm a newbie here and to this hobby as well. I wanted to get your opinions on something I've been thinking about.  
   
 Basically, I really love this provider. So I figured instead of spending hours here and there, I want to take her with me on vacation to bora bora for 7 days. I was wondering:  
 1. If that's a good idea or just plain stupid.  
 2. How much would it cost typically? (She usually charges $400/hr).  
 3. What should I expect and not to expect when we are on vacation together?  
   
 Please share any experiences you have had. I'd love to hear some true stories!  
   
 Thanks in advance!

If you want to take her away for a week because you think you can make her fall in love with you, don't waste her time. She is not here looking for love this is P4P not match.com. If you have never met her it's not wise to plan on jetting her off to Bora Bora for a week, you need some compatibility to spend that much time together enjoyably. You need to start with shorter dates to get to know each other and build a level of trust, most won't even do an overnight on the first date.  
As for cost she is the best person to ask about that.  
What to expect....nonstop sex from the moment you board your private jet until you get back at home.

GaGambler562 reads

You should probably put a little more thought into this before jumping off the deep end.

You say you "love" this provider, which begs a couple of questions, How many times have you seen her, and do you have any reason to believe that you are anything more than a client to her?

As for cost, a lot of that will depend on how much she likes you, and how mercenary she is?  Rates for extended time like this range anywhere from "woohoo, free vacation"  from a lady with little responsibilities, who likes you, and who really wants to go to Bora Bora, to as much as about twelve times her hourly rate for every day she spends with you.

I would strongly advise you spend at least a couple of overnights, or even a weekend together before planning to spend this much time with a woman you are paying to be with you. A week can seem like an eternity with the wrong person, and yes I once took a provider I was dating on a ten day trip to Hawaii, it was the longest ten days in my life, but I wasn't paying her, of course If I had been paying her, I would have put her back on a plane to the mainland after the very first night.

Being a newbie, how do you even know she will be willing to spend one hour with you, let alone a week?  

To answer your questions:
1. stupid
2.  ask her
3. it's not gonna be nonstop sex, there is sleep time, eating, and just relaxing.

Like has been said, do the research, and spend a few short dates with her before asking if she would be willing to spend a week with you.

Swim

There was one time we had an argument while driving home and weren't talking with each other for a few days, but those things happen.  Neither of us could even remember what the argument was about later.  That's the only contretemps I can recall.  I've done about 6 trips of 3 or more days with various gals.

One was a 7 day trip to Bali, so not too different from what you propose.  It went very well.  We had done a couple of overnights, and only knew each other for about 4 months.

So, start with an overnight and see how that goes.  After that, maybe a long weekend somewhere close by.  If you are still on speaking terms, then maybe think about discussing it with her.

Is her situation such that she can just up and go somewhere for so long? (No job, kids, etc.?)

Cost varies all over the lot, but often $400/hr gals want about $3K for a 24 hour, but a whole week should get more discount, so maybe $10-12K for the week would be fair.  Remember you pay all expenses and she'll want at a minimum a couple of spa treatments and a little shopping spree for shoes or handbags, and maybe a bauble or two.  Also, don't stint on the arrangements (You save FOR a vacation, not ON a vacation.)  Go first class air and stay at a five star if you can hack it.  Believe me, the memories will be worth it.  I once tried to cheap out on a vacation, and it was worse than no vacation.

As for sex, we normally start off with two or three romps per day, but by the end, one is enough.  It's up to your respective physical needs and desires.

This should be viewed as a social trip for you two to have fun together doing couples like stuff.  It's not real world, so don't go too crazy over it.

I hope it works out well.

ywncode635 reads

Just to give a little bit more context here. I have done a couple of overnights with her. We went around town, hanging out, going to clubs and etc. Everything went great. In fact, one time she actually just spent the night with me without me asking. I had booked for a shorter duration due my schedule. In the end, I just changed my schedule for her.

Knowing that we get along fairly well for the overnights, and that's why I came up with an idea of vacationing with her.

As to the vacation itself, I'm definitely not expecting non-stop sex. I'd rather be doing couple things like what we had been doing during the overnights, but just at a vacation setting.

Can someone please provide some real stories for real vacations they had gone on with providers?

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ywncode549 reads

Just to give a little bit more context here. I have done a couple of overnights with her. We went around town, hanging out, going to clubs and etc. Everything went great. In fact, one time she actually just spent the night with me without me asking. I had booked for a shorter duration due my schedule. In the end, I just changed my schedule for her.  
 
Knowing that we get along fairly well for the overnights, and that's why I came up with an idea of vacationing with her.  
 
As to the vacation itself, I'm definitely not expecting non-stop sex. I'd rather be doing couple things like what we had been doing during the overnights, but just at a vacation setting. In terms of cost, I'll be covering all expenses during the vacation, including, flights, resort, limo, boat, food, drinks, spa anything you can think of basically. Essentially free vacation for her. I do want both of us to stay in the same room for sure.
 
Can someone please provide some real stories for real vacations they had gone on with providers

Posted By: ywncode

 Essentially free vacation for her. I do want both of us to stay in the same room for sure.  
I can tell you that the gals that I know will do vacation gigs with "certain" clients.  I can also tell you that NONE of those gals (and there are quite a few I know VERY VERY well...and are on the higher end of the fee structure) would agree to staying in your room without having a room for themselves.  THEY are not insane!!!

They learned this by going on trips with guys like you who have unrealistic expectations.  And it only took once to learn this.

Free vacation for her....use that one.  All the gals will love you  LOL

Good luck....it sure as hell sounds like you're going to need lots and lots of it.

Posted By: ywncode
Just to give a little bit more context here. I have done a couple of overnights with her. We went around town, hanging out, going to clubs and etc. Everything went great. In fact, one time she actually just spent the night with me without me asking. I had booked for a shorter duration due my schedule. In the end, I just changed my schedule for her.  
   
 Knowing that we get along fairly well for the overnights, and that's why I came up with an idea of vacationing with her.  
   
 As to the vacation itself, I'm definitely not expecting non-stop sex. I'd rather be doing couple things like what we had been doing during the overnights, but just at a vacation setting. In terms of cost, I'll be covering all expenses during the vacation, including, flights, resort, limo, boat, food, drinks, spa anything you can think of basically. Essentially free vacation for her. I do want both of us to stay in the same room for sure.  
   
 Can someone please provide some real stories for real vacations they had gone on with providers?  
 

GaGambler383 reads

any woman that insists on her own room is telling you loud and clear that "this is a job" The good news is, not all women feel that way. I have taken many,many multi day trips with various providers over the years, and I have NEVER booked separate rooms, nor would I have ever done so if asked. I would just take the request as a sign that she considers this "work" and that our time together would be a bit forced, IMO.

The other way you can tell how much she either likes you, or simply likes the money is how much she charges you. This is an area where there is a huge disparity in rates, anywhere from next to nothing to at least 12 times her hourly rate per day.

Just for the record, be very careful here if you have actual feelings for this woman, don't ask any questions that you don't really want the answer to. If you ask her to go with you and she either insists on separate rooms, or if she charges you $3,000+ per day, she is telling you that you have a business relationship and nothing more.

Call me a cheapskate if you like, but the most I have ever paid for a "woman's time" to go on an extended vacation with me was a few hundred dollars a day in "shopping money" but I don't pay for "time and companionship" I pay for sex and for her to leave when I want her to. Others of course are free to disagree

I absolutely have to have my own room, it's a no brainer for me now. I can not slumber with someone else, I already have MAJOR sleep disturbance issues now , and I can promise you the poor guy would end up miserable and I'd have a horrible fatigue crash. It's not pretty when it happens.

I met a wonderful man I'd been with before in S Florida in March and I had my own room. I came down the night before and used my hotel points for that night. I really had a great time and the 2nd night, we attended the S Florida M&G and it was a lot of fun. I wouldn't have been able to do anything the 2nd night if I hadn't had my own room. Getting sleep is critical for me to be able to function now.

It SUX but it is what it is, and of course I took this into consideration when quoting him  a 2 night package.

"Back in the day" I did spend the night with a FEW guys I knew very well but they got out of the room so I could sleep in in the morning, lol.

Oh yes I'm quite the charmer when I first wake up, lol. It have to take a bunch of anti fatigue meds and supplements when I wake up and then wait for them to kick in.  SIGH!

If I REALLY like a guy Id never subject him to something like ME on an overnight. Talk about a fantasy buster!

Steph

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Posted By: MatureGFE
I absolutely have to have my own room, it's a no brainer for me now. I can not slumber with someone else, I already have MAJOR sleep disturbance issues now , and I can promise you the poor guy would end up miserable and I'd have a horrible fatigue crash. It's not pretty when it happens.

I met a wonderful man I'd been with before in S Florida in March and I had my own room. I came down the night before and used my hotel points for that night. I really had a great time and the 2nd night, we attended the S Florida M&G and it was a lot of fun. I wouldn't have been able to do anything the 2nd night if I hadn't had my own room. Getting sleep is critical for me to be able to function now.

It SUX but it is what it is, and of course I took this into consideration when quoting him  a 2 night package.

"Back in the day" I did spend the night with a FEW guys I knew very well but they got out of the room so I could sleep in in the morning, lol.

Oh yes I'm quite the charmer when I first wake up, lol. It have to take a bunch of anti fatigue meds and supplements when I wake up and then wait for them to kick in.  SIGH!

If I REALLY like a guy Id never subject him to something like ME on an overnight. Talk about a fantasy buster!

Steph

I guess it depends on the person. We have spent overnights together already. She sleeps in my arms soundly, while I actually stood awake because the whole right side of my body was numb...

And sorry about your am, lol! My point was I had a fantastic 2 days with my friend in S Florida and adjusted my donation accordingly.

It's what ever works for the two people involved. And let me say the BEST person to discuss this with is your lady friend.

Steph xoxo

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Posted By: GaGambler
any woman that insists on her own room is telling you loud and clear that "this is a job" The good news is, not all women feel that way. I have taken many,many multi day trips with various providers over the years, and I have NEVER booked separate rooms, nor would I have ever done so if asked. I would just take the request as a sign that she considers this "work" and that our time together would be a bit forced, IMO.

The other way you can tell how much she either likes you, or simply likes the money is how much she charges you. This is an area where there is a huge disparity in rates, anywhere from next to nothing to at least 12 times her hourly rate per day.  

Just for the record, be very careful here if you have actual feelings for this woman, don't ask any questions that you don't really want the answer to. If you ask her to go with you and she either insists on separate rooms, or if she charges you $3,000+ per day, she is telling you that you have a business relationship and nothing more.

Call me a cheapskate if you like, but the most I have ever paid for a "woman's time" to go on an extended vacation with me was a few hundred dollars a day in "shopping money" but I don't pay for "time and companionship" I pay for sex and for her to leave when I want her to. Others of course are free to disagree

I think that makes great sense! I've contacted her. And let's see what replies. I would not want to go on a vacation with her if it's just business to her, since it's not just business to me. Thanks for the reply!

GaGambler420 reads

including myself.

I feel obligated to warn you about the potential negatives, and to tell the truth I suffered through the longest ten day trip in my life several years ago on a vacation to Hawaii that I shared with a provider that I was actually dating, by "dating" I mean I no longer paid her a cent for her company, real BF-GF type of thing, but our ten day vacation from hell ended that relationship. lol

That said, when it does work, and it has worked quite often in my life, it's no different than having a wonderful vacation with a GF. Personally I take two and three day trips with providers on a pretty regular basis, and most of the time it's just like taking a brand new GF away on a trip with you, except that you know that she is not going to want to move in with you when you get home. lol

Once again, good luck and I hope she is everything you hope she is, but please do yourself a favor "don't use the L word until she uses it first"  I would hate for your next OP to be one of the "I've fallen for a hooker and I can't get up" variety.

If you had put all of this "context" in your first post you would have avoided a bunch what was posted here in the negative.

I've done a couple of vacation trips with my ATF and they went very well.  We have known each other for many years and had done a couple of weekend jaunts before trying the longer trips.  I'm not looking for sex 24/7 so that was not an issue.  We ended up in the sack a couple of times each day, spent a lot of time on the beach walking and talking, took in a few movies and went to a club a couple of nights.  Fortunately we both tend to like talking and relaxing over hard partying.  We also both love food so checking out new restaurants in a different area was great.  

Most providers will want a bit of alone time each day to check in with family, return emails etc.  If she asks you to leave her alone for a bit just go have a drink at the bar or go for a walk.  I'm afraid I can't be of much help with the cost as I get a pretty amazing deal.  As someone else mentioned the price is going to depend a lot on how much she likes you and enjoys her time with you.

ywncode420 reads

Sorry about that. As you can tell, I'm quite a newbie to the hobby haha. Thanks for the reply. Your experience is exactly the kind I'm looking. Sex is really secondary to me for the vacation. I've contacted her, and now just waiting to see how she replies.

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