Nope lol this is my first post.
Ok so I'm not exactly sure where to start. I have contacted a bunch of providers and have probably scared them off making them think i'm LE due to asking to many questions. I'm just looking for one thing and that's to lose my virginity. I'm not the stereotypical virgin, some people thinking I've lost it and when I tell them I haven't they are all surprised. The providers I have contacted stop replying after I ask too many questions from what I've been told from one provider who was kind enough to help me out a bit. And I recently contacted another provider and she said this "I dont see virgins honey.. im sorry that should be saved for someone special" and then "Ur welcome.. just wait.. its worth it.. nobody is a pro even if they're experienced.. everyone likes something different ". I'm confused a part of me wants to wait and another just wants to get it over with. I just need something sexual. I'm 19 and my hormones are raging to the point where I can barely control my erections. My college is no help since it's probably the most anti social college I have ever seen, and it doesn't help that I'm super shy and anti social myself. I'm not sure what to do, right now I'm heading towards the path of waiting because I can't find a provider, but wait how much longer? At this moment I don't want to lose it but I want something sexual like a BJ, FJ or italian anything, I might sound really desperate and I sort of am, I've tried going to parties but all the girls go with their boyfriends and those who don't, it's not in my nature to take advantage of a girl like that. So if anyone knows of a provider within New York, Long Island, North Valley Stream area, willing to help me in anyway without intercourse please let me know or give me tips I don't know what to do. I'm ashamed of myself for having a hard time controlling my erections at this point because all I think about is sex. I don't want to make a mistake of not waiting but I would love to have some sort of sexual adventure with a provider. Please help. I know I'm sad at this point but I just don't want to make a mistake.
What questions are you asking the hookers you contact? You dont need to list them all but can you give us 3 or 4 typical questions you have been asking?
Lots of girls wont see dudes under 30, let alone under 20. I think your best bet would be to see a girl in your own age group where she might not have the concerns the older girls here have with your age.
And your going to have to clue me in on "Italian." LOL. I dont know that one.
Well I'm 19 with an athletic build, I usually just ask if they offer a gfe with out the piv, ask for the outcall donation rate in my area, if they would be able to "tutor me", if they allow multiple pops, stuff like that. Um italian is when the penis rubs in between the butt cheeks lol, the only reason I even ask that is to make it look like I'm doing it and only because I'm not sure if I want to lose it yet. Why don't they see anyone under 30? And I've seen some that are withing my age group but from my perspective they have fake pictures or charge around $500 for an hour. Oh and another thing I think they stop replying back after they ask for referrals, Id on't have any because I haven't seen anyone and almost every single ones ask for referrals.
Lots of girls wont see dudes under 30, let alone under 20. I think your best bet would be to see a girl in your own age group where she might not have the concerns the older girls here have with your age.
And your going to have to clue me in on "Italian." LOL. I dont know that one.
Read this board for the last few months, go to the self help center at top right portion of this page and read everything there. Twice.
Do that first then come back with your questions. Lots to learn here and it takes time. You wanna find the right girl, that will see a very young, newbie, virgin. Not the easiest thing in the world to find so you will have to be patient.
You need to get verified first, so the girls see you. Since you haven't seen any girls you don't have references to give them so you need to go to a site like p411 where they will verify you so the girls know you are not a cop.
You cant ask the girls the questions you have been asking. They think you are LE. They wont give you the benefit of the doubt and listen/respond until you are verified.
involve actual sex, i.e. intercourse? If all you want is a BJ, just set up a quick date and tell the provider that when you meet her in person instead of asking all your questions. At your age though... I would suggest just taking care of the erection yourself and waiting for that special someone for the first experience.
At this point I just want a BJ and a FJ and possibly an ITALIAN(escort term) that includes multiple pops. The erection thing I have whenever I see a really good looking girl anywhere, like this one time I went to go get a psychical and the nurse was ok looking but I couldn't lay down because I was starting to get an erection and I didn't want to tell her, I can thank pornhub for that fantasy lol. And I want to wait for that special someone but my college isn't the best place since it's very anti social.
If you can share some questions you ask them that would be great... are you actually telling them you are a virgin or they can deduce it from your questions? Are you asking for non-fs only session? I can't say i am experienced in talking to a ton of providers but i know you should never discuss any sort of services over the communication line - it should strictly be "when/where/how much/long". If you discuss services they will think you are LE or at least be cautious about it. With that said i am a BJ guy and when i see the girl i do ask more time on that department than sex so maybe you can try that route. Just say you like BJs and ask her to only do that or DFK or whatever you want that's not intercourse....
Well here's what I usually write, "Hello I saw you ad on (...) and I was wondering what the donation rate would be for an outcall near (...) " Some times I include what I'm looking for such as a BJ, FJ, Italian, and multiple pops and sometimes I ask them if they can tutor me because I'm inexpedience.
Well usually they should have outcall rate if not then thats fine asking. Do not include sexual acts or what you want..those can be doscussed when you meet... and saying tutor is kind of weird...again bring that up when you are there and gauge how comfortable the gal is. For example i did my first daty with escort i never mentioned it was my first time doing it but did ask her if i am doing it right...
I say schedule outcall or ask for rate then discuss what you want once you meet. I would encourage gfe since they might be nicer to you?
Which is fine, btw, for that is what the NB is here for but please leave the advice GIVING to the more experienced people here bro.
Nope lol this is my first post.
Jack was talking to lioil who is a newbie himself asking a million questions over the past couple days now thinking he is qualified to give another newbie advice.
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While I agree lioil shouldn't be giving advice, is it possible he is actually not a newbie but just asked all those recent questions as a troll? I seem to recall someone doing that a few months ago. 
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perfect thinks he's better than everyone else, therefore, he stalks other hobbyists and belittles them.
Jack, be the bigger man and don't take anything of value from perfect's posts.
The Forest Waits
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Being a member of the "Hobbyist & Hooker Belittlement Club" myself, I take offense to your remark. If I had the opportunity to rip PS, he knows I would have taken the same shot. LOL
You cant bust balls around here and expect your balls never to be broken back. Even with people you're friendly with. That's just the name of the game.
Storm is an equal opportunity offender. Don't worry, he'll get his. Master archivist my ass! I just feel sorry for him b/c he seems to really like Tomboy type women. LOL. But he'll grow out of that. We hope. lol
Now go tell the fkin forest to stand down. Fk dude, its almost the 4th of July. Even a tree or two needs a break from your drivel.
for not realizing how big of a dumbass you really are.
I guess that you don't know that.
The Forest Waits
You cant bust balls around here and expect your balls never to be broken back. Even with people you're friendly with. That's just the name of the game.
Storm is an equal opportunity offender. Don't worry, he'll get his. Master archivist my ass! I just feel sorry for him b/c he seems to really like Tomboy type women. LOL. But he'll grow out of that. We hope. lol
Now go tell the fkin forest to stand down. Fk dude, its almost the 4th of July. Even a tree or two needs a break from your drivel.
You do sound both Desperate and Confused. I suggest waiting, at least until you are less Desperate and less Confused. Take things into your own hands, for now. The D&C will pass. Maybe NOT in a week or a month ... but it will pass.
Having said that, I have another suggestion and hope that others will chime in. It seems to me that you think you'd enjoy a non-FS encounter. Are you VIP? Search reviews for no FS. In NYC, there are many massage parlors (AMP, RMP, other) that will give you a sensual massage and, perhaps, at most, a HJ "happy ending". No questions, no third degree, no possibility of FS to discuss because it isn't on the menu.
("Happy ending" usually means HJ only.
Thank you and all of you thank you. I might just this lol.
Having said that, I have another suggestion and hope that others will chime in. It seems to me that you think you'd enjoy a non-FS encounter. Are you VIP? Search reviews for no FS. In NYC, there are many massage parlors (AMP, RMP, other) that will give you a sensual massage and, perhaps, at most, a HJ "happy ending". No questions, no third degree, no possibility of FS to discuss because it isn't on the menu.
("Happy ending" usually means HJ only.)
Frankly, most people don't look back that fondly on their first time, so forget all the shit you hear about doing it with someone special. The truth is that you will be more sociable and have better luck getting laid after you get the "virgin" monkey off your back. Virgins get turned away because it's usually: 1. bad sex, 2. first-timers are prone to getting emotionally attached.
My advice is to save a few bucks and take a trip to Costa Rica, Dominican Republic, Brazil, Thailand, etc., wherever there are prostitutes in the open and a-plenty. Hit the "massage" parlor (pick a nice one), pick a hottie, and get your massage with happy ending (either HJ/BJ) to start - they know what they're doing and will proposition you. If you feel icky, then hey, you didn't "lose it" and you can go home a forget about it. If you feel good about it, then go ahead and step it up!
Alternately, you can join the legions of young Europeans/American/Canadians backpacking through Central and South America. There will be plenty of local ladies throwing themselves at you for a chance at your marriage proposal and green card.
That's way too young to be worried that you haven't lost your virginity. Honestly, don't worry about it. The right girl will come along eventually and you'll be glad that you waited. 
That said, if you choose to go through with it anyway, you CANNOT expect to get good results with the way you've been communicating with these ladies. Never, EVER mention anything sexual in your correspondence with her, and don't ask her about rates either (those of us who know what we're doing put that information on our ads/websites). Also, take the time to actually read her ad before contacting her. That'll demonstrate maturity and seriousness that may help put ladies at ease about your age.
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I don't know of any in my area and I'm not sure how to look for them.