Hi all...I'm new to the hobby so forgive my greenhorn questions. How does one go about looking for a provider that caters to certain niche requests? As a simple example, one of my likes would be to find a provider who offers age play role playing (legal ages; nothing illegal). I have certain fetishes that I would like to act out but I consider them somewhat kinky and am sometimes hesitant to discuss them openly with a provider unless I know beforehand that it's an option on the table. I tend to aim my searches towards providers in the age range that I am looking for but most ads can sometimes be really vague and it sometimes makes me hesitant about initiating contact.
Anyone have any ideas on how to proceed in these situations or do I just have to reach out there and ask and hope that I'm not labelled as a freak? Am I better off limiting myself to providers who deal in fetishes and kink? I completely apologize if I'm posting this question in the wrong forum or going about it the wrong way. Thanks all!Submit a post under the ISO (In Search Of) board, just a little further down on the General Boards drop down menu. If you take a look at what others are ISO, your requests may not seem so freaky.
You always can create a single alias to post under your local/regional board. You can spell it out, request a PM contact for additional follow up or information.
It may be hard to ask for certain fetishes up front, but you may need to start slow, build up a history, and ask ladies you see if they know whom may be able to fulfill your requests in person. It's a lot easier to get answers after you've created a personal relationship and contact.
Good luck
Fetishes today are no longer taboo. In the last 5-10 years or so in p4p, many gals have incorporated role play, S&M, B&D, etc scenarios to their menus. They don't have to be domme only girls like back in the day.
If eros is in your area, they have a section for S&M so obviously the girls in that section won't have an issue with you asking about fetish. P411 is also specific in their ads as to what girls will do in session, in many cases.
But like I said, since it has become more mainstream, don't rule out girls that don't advertise in an S&M section. If you see a hot girl you are attracted to, scope out her website and see if it says "fetish friendly" anywhere or if her pics suggest she is open to the possibility. (She is wearing leather/latex, she's pictured with toys, etc). Some girls don't advertise their S&M services for they feel it may hurt their escorting business but that is few and far between these days.
Make sure they have reviews here too. Read thru this Newbie Board for tips. You need to protect yourself against LE (cops), rip off artists and bait and switch types. TER is invaluable in this area.
With any girl you contact, just be very polite and ask her upfront if she offers "fetish", for the girls that don't mention it on their site.
If she says yes, she may ask you what fetish you are referring to. If she simply replies with a "yes" only, follow up and ask if you can discuss your specific request.
Be cautious though. Don't mention any sex acts, especially before she verifies you. After you have been screened and given the ok, she may be open to discuss specific sex acts but let her open that door.
Get back with any questions. Good luck JW.