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Bostonguy57 48 Reviews 389 reads
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This is a discussion you need to have with the lady involved and much depends on the layout of the property. I almost always do out call.  With my two regular gals I simply text them the hotel and room number and they come on up.  The only time this is an issue is if I wind up on a floor that requires key access for the elevator.  In that case I meet them in the hotel lounge.  I try to avoid the lobby but, last time I checked, a man and woman walking through a hotel lobby together was not against the law either.  Meeting a woman for an out call is not the same situation as if a woman with an in call was coming to the lobby every hour or so and going to the elevator with a different guy.  The key is always to look and act like you belong.  Obviously some locations require more thought than others.  The most important factor is communicating with the provider.  When a woman is coming to visit I always tip her off as to where the elevator is located as she walks through the lobby so that she can go right to it and not look lost.  I also leave the door to my room cracked open so that the lady does not have to knock.  Of course, you want to know that she is on her way up to the room before you do something like this.  Also, ALWAYS put the Do Not Disturb sign on the door.

 
Posted By: Yeath
Greetings gents and ladies!  Looking for some etiquette advice.  There is a provider I am interested in seeing who only does outcalls, so I am considering setting up the room at a hotel.  Never done this before, and I was wondering the etiquette for meeting is usually handled.  Should I just send her the address and room number when I check in?  Should I meet her in the lobby?  Should I (like providers do) send the address, and then the room number only after she's arrived, etc.  Looking for advice and tips.  Thanks!

Greetings gents and ladies!  Looking for some etiquette advice.  There is a provider I am interested in seeing who only does outcalls, so I am considering setting up the room at a hotel.  Never done this before, and I was wondering the etiquette for meeting is usually handled.  Should I just send her the address and room number when I check in?  Should I meet her in the lobby?  Should I (like providers do) send the address, and then the room number only after she's arrived, etc.  Looking for advice and tips.  Thanks!

JackDunphy546 reads

It would be an etiquette breach and may unnerve her so don't.  

I would tell her the hotel name/location in advance when you make the reservation and then text her the room number as soon as you check in, assuming you are getting the room for that day/night only.  

Also dress nice, have something to drink ready for her (bottled water or ask her if she prefers something else), but get her ok first before you get alcohol. Def don't drink alcohol before she arrives

.....in the lobby, or meet in the lounge for a cocktail before retiring to the room.  Many ladies dress very professional, and carry a briefcase, as to not call attention to themselves.

   When I reserve an outcall date, the gentleman must share his hotel information when forwarding the date request form.  Once he has checked in, he can either call me, or e-mail me his room number.

    I do agree with you about dressing nice.  I really dislike having a man greet me in a bathrobe.  Tacky.  Bottled water is always a nice gesture, and if ordering wine, please do not uncork it before the lady arrives.    When I am visiting with a dear friend; a gentleman I have seen before, obtaining a glass of wine from the lounge is perfectly acceptable, as is opening a bottle of wine before I arrive.

    Each scenario, like each lady is different, and communication is key!

Hugs and have fun!
Kelly

JackDunphy441 reads

That was the etiquette breach to what I was referring.  

He was also asking on the Newbie board so for his own peace of mind/nerves, he may want the girl to come to his door as well, but that is a personal choice.

Of course, if both parties agree to meet in the bar/lobby beforehand, no breach there.  

Good clarification though BWB as your reading of his question may have been the correct one.

That would be awful!  Good point!

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

One insists on meeting me in the lobby as she is leery of going up to the room unescorted; the other insists on not meeting in the lobby.  So go figure.  Ask the gal which is right for her.

Myself, I like to have her come up to the room.  I'm a bit self-conscious about sitting around in the lobby.

One thing:  If the gal is coming up to your room, have her call just before she arrives and prop the door open with the latch so that she can just walk in and not have to knock.  Knocking always telegraphs what is going on to the neighbors.

...knocking on a gentleman's door with turn down service across the hall!

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

By having her call when she gets to the hotel ... If you are in the bar or lobby then give exact location and what you are wearing so she isn't standing around looking plus give her a quick cheek peck and greet her as if you two already know each other ... If she is coming to your room give her the directions through the hotel and to the elevator (door latch propped is good too)  

I prefer not meeting in the public ... No need to have others and cameras seeing the two of you together ... How many other situations occur where you need to meet a "stranger' in a lobby then walk together to a room??

When I provide a provider  my room number, I always tell them I am leaving the door propped open.  And they still always knock (well, more like a quick rapt on the door) upon entering.  Every time.
Oh well.

This is a discussion you need to have with the lady involved and much depends on the layout of the property. I almost always do out call.  With my two regular gals I simply text them the hotel and room number and they come on up.  The only time this is an issue is if I wind up on a floor that requires key access for the elevator.  In that case I meet them in the hotel lounge.  I try to avoid the lobby but, last time I checked, a man and woman walking through a hotel lobby together was not against the law either.  Meeting a woman for an out call is not the same situation as if a woman with an in call was coming to the lobby every hour or so and going to the elevator with a different guy.  The key is always to look and act like you belong.  Obviously some locations require more thought than others.  The most important factor is communicating with the provider.  When a woman is coming to visit I always tip her off as to where the elevator is located as she walks through the lobby so that she can go right to it and not look lost.  I also leave the door to my room cracked open so that the lady does not have to knock.  Of course, you want to know that she is on her way up to the room before you do something like this.  Also, ALWAYS put the Do Not Disturb sign on the door.

 

Posted By: Yeath
Greetings gents and ladies!  Looking for some etiquette advice.  There is a provider I am interested in seeing who only does outcalls, so I am considering setting up the room at a hotel.  Never done this before, and I was wondering the etiquette for meeting is usually handled.  Should I just send her the address and room number when I check in?  Should I meet her in the lobby?  Should I (like providers do) send the address, and then the room number only after she's arrived, etc.  Looking for advice and tips.  Thanks!

I don't much care if they can tell or not, it just makes me feel really uncomfortable being seen with men old enough to be my father or worse... my grandfather, in the same town I live in. Me being seen at a hotel bar with a guy a lot older than me would bring up some serious questions if I ran into someone I knew.  

If I toured a city, it was still the same rules but for different reasons. If I am staying in a hotel for a week, odds are someone is going to notice if I met with several guys in the lobby and ALL of them left with me to head for the elevator, or waited 5 min. to come up.  

In your case, she is only meeting you (one client) at his hotel room, so I don't see the harm, unless she is always seen doing that very thing at that same hotel you happen to be staying at.  



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once the room was booked and the date was finalized.  Once I checked-in to the hotel, I would call/text with the room number.  As has been said, it is good if the provider lets you know when she is coming up to the room so the door can be left ajar.

if I know the friend already... I don't mind to meet him in the bar (as long as I know how he is dress or at least have a picture of his face). I meet friends before "downstairs" and is always comfortable to hug as he is and old friend that I haven't see in a long time. LOL  
if I go to his room... I rather this meeting to be in a hotel that does not require key at the elevator...  
just fyi.
My hopes is that my friend is fresh, clean, smell nice and trim "down there"....

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