I am overweight, weighing 280 lbs! A little self conscious about my weight. I know that the providers have race preferences, but I was wondering if the only see guys who are in reasonable shape? Also when they say upscale gentlemen, do I show up in business attire or what?
...no problem. It's more important to be clean and polite. But if you're five feet tall and weigh 280, you may want to give them a heads-up.
"Upscale gentlemen" does not refer to a dress code; it means that you're a guy who can afford her rates and won't try to negotiate them.
But I like your definition: Someone who can afford their rates and not whine about it.
Upscale prolly also means the attitude, acting classy and polite around the girl (even if one is a scum bag in real life), and how one behaves around the lady. Dressing nicely never hurts but I haven't met any girl who gave me sht when I sometimes showed up in my gym outfit. lol
A provider with class and professionalism is not going to hassle you about your weight unless you are literally too large to even function - and even then, she will probably find a way to please you. There are those who will tell you up front that they can't work with someone over a certain size, but evem then, the classy pro will tell you in the nicest possible way.
If you are cruising backpage, don't expect those considerations.
280# is not monstrously large, unless you are under 5' tall, as Big Papa said. Also as Big Papa said, "upscale" is really about the money, they don't want you trying to lowball or negotiate, but it is also used by some providers as code that they do not see black men, or that they are not interested in entertaining thugs.
You can wear pretty much anything you want to a date as long as you are clean and not threatening-looking.
Do these things and your reputation will spread as being a good guy and you will have no problems.
and I am able to get dates. I use a power chair and I have to use a computer to communicate with kinda like Stephen Hawking does. Most ladies are willing to work with my situation. I am sure most ladies won't mind yours as long as you are nice. All the ladies that I have met were super cool. They helped me get on the bed and the ladies ripped my clothes off. When the session is over they help me get dress and put me back in my chair. I did my first double last week. It was awesome!!! If I can get two ladies at once. I am sure you can.
Dude if you are comfortable with yourself then any lady will dig you.
Relax, have fun & be comfortable.
oh god no, of course they wont care!,
i would definetly let her be on top entire time though.
or maybe check in and see what the deal is, for the big guys i rather they stay put for the session and let me do a toy show massage different position on top.
just make sure to scrub with a face cloth , good, the fatter guys got more folds to get under , just use a loofah, or whatever, i can always tell the guys that just grab soap and spread it over the body with out scrubbing, they usually still reek.
or will just have nasty skin in general.
i d say make sure your nails are trim short but nut sharp , no hang nails, moisturize your feet night before , ie put vaseline on feet then socks before bed.
you dont wanna scratch her with your rough crusty heels right?
men are super duper rough sometimes, they need some guidance, i know mani and pedi and all isnt really most guys dept. i do offer manscaping session if your on the big side and cant reach . if you want a good ball sucking, you gotta get manscaping before.also dont eat garlic or onions or pungeant foods , before, drink lotsa water,
i do mani and pedi for men also at my gfe spa near boston, if your ever here, look me up
no fat is adorable theyl love you just be super fresh mn clean and super easy, like cum in two seconds then let her do a massage rest time, theyl love you,