I like my them to be as feminine as possible.  I don't think you will have a problem finding a provider that will accomodate you.  I have only encountered a few gurls that wanted to top me but I made it clear that I was the one topping them.  As far as BJs its an acquired thing.  I didn't try my first BJ until my third experience and it was with a very feminine TS.

Remember at the beginning of a session when you get there you tell them exactly what you want or they will ask you.

some are not functional (due to hormones).... some people don't like brocolli.... always ask...
and if you don't want to suck, you don't have to.  Personally, if you don't want to avail yourself of the provider's assets, why not go see a girl?

Re:Newbie who wants to be a top only

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Hey,...some men like to top, some like to bottom, and some are versatile.....same goes with a TS!
It is all about what you like! Free Will is a beautiful thing!

Thus far its been my expierence that most prefer to be a bottom or like it just as much. They are trying to be a female so its only natural for most to be a bottom. I also dated a T-girl and treated her like any GG when we made love although I like to be a bottom as well. She loved the fact I wasn't "a cock chaser" and was the most feminen woman I've ever had the pleasure of enjoying company with. I would say 95% of the girls out there have no problem being treated like the ladies they are just don't be an ass and you should make out fine.

I don't think that you'll find it to be a problem.  Read the reviews though.  What is said and agreed to over the telephone is not always what is actually available in reality, at least on the first visit.

You should give TS Eliana a call.  She is in Hollywood.  I think she would be a good one for what you are looking for.