I had that problem all my life, if you call that a problem .Sometime I can't get off and it realy doesn't bother me as much as it does some of the girls. They think there are not doing a good job.But I just go as long as as I can hold out,and  then just lay back rest a while and then go again. Hey as long as it hard it fun to me , I go for the total experince instead of the orgasm.

I had a friend I had introduced to the hobby with this problem (no, really! It's not me!) It appeared to be an anxiety issue and I think if he'd stuck with one provider for a few weeks it would have happened for him... but that's not the issue at hand.

My understanding was that there were a lot of miscommunication issues until he pre-warned the provider -- after that she would be completely cool with it, no problems whatsoever, though I suspect if he booked more than a hour there'd need to be some prearranged break in the deal.

Prior to his warning, my understanding is that the provider tried really, really hard and/or felt somewhat rejected, based on what he said to me. (The worst situation was that he booked one through an agency, didn't tell her, then the next day called and booked someone else. I would imagine that without the key peice of information he was witholding, it likely looked like quite a put-down to the first provider. For this reason alone I think the "it's not you, it's me" needs to be communicated.)

I used to have that problem.  I did a lot of experimenting to figure out a solution.  The keys were finding a condom I like, taking some recommended supplements, and using Levitra to keep me nice and hard.  Now I can come easily.

Re:orgasm problems

only the first time.. guess I was a bit nervous. The girls don't fuss over it so don't sweat it.  It happens.  After first it won't happen again because you will be more relaxed... or you need to find a different girl to get you all the way!

There have been periods when I'v been "batting" less than 50% - mercifully, they have been short. Reasons have varied; sometimes more than one has applied. First, I'm 60, and it just seems to go with the territory. Also relevant, I take an SSRI anti-depressant AND medication for high blood pressure. Finally, and especially in the first couple of months I've been hobbying (only at it 4 months now) I gave in to my enthusiasm and excitement and let them allow me to schedule more ambitiously than I could deliver. Oh, and I believe it helps to be very diligent about staying well hydrated. As for the ladies - terrific, every one. I really love cuddling and affection, and once they saw that I was okay with what was happening (not much choice really, and not their fault) not one of them was ever anything but sweet and tender. I've seen seveal of them again, with very different results. IMHO, you just gotta be polite, considerate and offer tenderness yourself, and be real and just who you are, and most ladies will respond wonderfully. Good luck, guy, it's still a hell of a great way to spend an hour.

Have had that problem.  The key for me was to not feel pressured to climax.  Explain to her that you have some troubles in that area and all attention is welcome, but not to pressure you (the fastest thing that will deflate me is a provider asking when I am going to cum).  And then just go with the flow, don't worry about if/when you are going to climax, just enjoy the moment.  Once you are good and relaxed and going with the flow, you suddenly may find yourself pleasantly surprised.

Good luck.

I find that an hour no longer is enough time to
reload, that I often need a longer appointment to get
the second cup completed.  Getting it up is not
the problem, but climaxing a second time without
a longer recovery is. Unfotunately, two hour or
90 minute dates are not always possible or feasible,
so I just try to enjoy myself regardless or whether
I pop, and usually tell the lady not to worry about it.

Anxiety, fatigue, SSRI's and certain kinds of cardio meds can all conspire against the Big O.  I think my clientele is a little older than the average so I see this quite often. I find the experience is much better for both if you explain upfront what medications you are on and how they affect you.  Cardio meds (particularly the older style beta blockers) tend to interfere with erectile function, while SSRI's stop you from getting over the brink and into a full orgasmic moment.

It may well be that you won't ever experience a full orgasm while on these meds, but there are lot of techniques that might help.  A BBBJ combined with gentle prostate massage can often work as does asking the man to demonstrate how (if possible) he masturbates to orgasm.

Regardless, telling your partner up front exactly what you're on and how you believe they affect your sexual functioning is a good start.  Most of it's probably the drugs, but some is in you head.  If we can deal with the latter, we're usually half way there.

I would think that most men have experienced this difficulty (during intercourse) to one degree or another---and one time or another.  I know I have.
Of course, condom use doesn't help things for obvious reasons (reduced sensitivity). However, I subscribe to the "mental" element.  I know that in civvie life it has sometimes taken me two or three encounters before I was able to O---I've always thought it was a mental/anxiety thing for me and I just took sometime to get truly relaxed (guess I think too much) and this kind of performance znxiety is no doubt linkied to our ego-s----to it's pretty personal--obviously
I have found that being open with your woman---comunicating your situation (don't think of it as a problem---it's just a situation)---helps alot---putting her and you at ease and that over time---nature WILL take it's course.  In the case of this "sport", just always keep in mind that you are paying for a service being provided by a professional who has likely heard it all.  Communication just adds to the trust and the intimacy and ultimately the relaxation----and then you know what.
There's always alot going on in our lives---including stress and anxiety at one degree or another. We aren't just animals (as much as we all would llike to just flip a switch and be same whenever we want)
You may want to discuss this with your dog (if male) to gain additional insight---Dogs have feelings too!!

I've not had any trouble climaxing, but my problem is some of the providers will turn me off with their attitudes or actions to the point that I can't get an erection or lose the erection.  But even in all these cases, I was eventually able to regain the erection and climax.  For me it was mental.  I had to tell myself "o.k. it's not your fault.  Work out the problem, find something that you and the provider can enjoy.  Don't think too much."  Once I learned this, the problem went away.  Also, TER has aided a bunch b/c I can better select girls with the looks & attitudes that I desire.  Hope this helps.

Since I had my prostate out and passed the age of 60 I have had problems in having the kind of orgasm I like--which is inside a woman.  It takes a certain connection for me to have that kind of orgasm.  I can do it with both me and the provider striking the right places if necessary, but I still consider it sexual dysfunction.  When I had my prostate out I knew I would have problems, but, as one wag said, there is no sex in the grave.

Many providers have told me how difficult it is for severely overweight men to even get a complete erection.

I can identify.  In my case, the problem was using a condom and the reduced sensitivity.  Solution for me was using the Female Condom.  Not all ladies are okay with them, so clear it with them beforehand.  It's safe and gives the same sensation as bareback.  The other possibility is if you're using Viagra, not O.D. on it; it makes it harder to finish.  Just take enough to get the desired result.  More is not better.  Good luck and happy hobbying.

I've climaxed only once in my life in mutual sex.  A fine young provider did it with a HJ.  I was encouraged about that, but it turned out not to be repeatable.  

Otherwise, it hasn't made a difference whether it's with a provider or a civvy woman, covered or uncovered, or how good she is. The best providers in the business have not been able to do it.    

I bring myself off after the session, charged by the memories of it.  

There is a silver lining to this, and that is I could usually stay hard as long as she's interested.  I was very complimented when one provider said, "You call that a dysfunction??!!"

/Zin