A few changes have been made , and May will continue for the guests who cannot make it
Some great ladies who will be joining us to sip wine are:
RS2K members are welcome to attend , and there have been several recommended to me , so I have
just to hear from you through email should any more so desire to attend. Some of you who have
requested to go , have provided me with all but your provider references. Please get back to me I am
waiting to hear from you . Looking forward to tomorrow !
... I posted several weeks ago that I'd be available for this M&G but only if someone decided to step up and make a formal invite (meaning a 4hr/4500 travel date). Not a peep was heard... So I made other plans with a wonderful gent in another city. Now, less than 24 hours to go and I'm getting bombarded with inquiries for tomorrow.
Gents, help me... help you!
My calendar tends to fill 3-6 weeks in advance and as screening and deposits are required, there's usually several days-to-a-week lead time that's absolutely necessary for new friends. If you want to see me at the M&G, with all due respect.... put your money where your mouth is ... and do it in a timeframe that is reasonable. Flying halfway across the country just to have cocktails simply isn't going to happen without a sponsor.
Of course, if no one attending the M&G cares to meet me, that's just fine... I'll simply enjoy my existing friends and wish health and happiness to everyone else.
I always mention to traveling ladies to put up an ad on RS2K in advance . Meet & greets are just that . Meeting , greeting, networking and getting to know people.I still strongly suggest an introduction ad on RS2K . That is a bit much to have someone who never met you spend in advance. Come visit , when you can , use RS2K and let the guys get to know you . Break bread , let him get to know you. Hope to meet you here in May if your able.
... but there's only so much either of us can do. I had Eros, P411, RS2K and TER ads up (not to mention your Evite) to the same effect and yet there were crickets for several weeks followed by a flurry of T-24hrs interest for this shindig. I simply don't operate in such a slap-dash-haphazard way. At some point the gents who have seen my ads for several weeks and but failed to act until less than 24hrs before the event need to understand what (and when it) is needed and behave accordingly if they want to have the results they say they do.
Now, I've been advertising my next regular Chicago trip for over 3 weeks (and it's not for several months yet) and that trip is about 75% booked. How interesting that a regular trip is nearly booked several months out but a one day only (and only if I'm booked for it) visit has this sort of response.
Perhaps the M&G crowd simply isn't my market.... It's perfectly ok if that's the case - just be nice to know!
to buy your own plane tickets, then maybe you should just stay home and wait for the phone to ring. Putting up an ad begging for a pay date on this board makes you look bad. Really bad.
Perhaps I look bad to some.... but to others, I look like a smart businesswoman who will choose a guaranteed pay date over taking the time out of my otherwise profitable schedule to meet with a bunch of guys, on my own dime, who aren't likely to book me anyway (based on the fact that I actually do screen, require deposits and have a busy enough schedule to need to plan things several weeks out while they are last minute, no time to screen or send deposit types).
Guess it just depends on one's perspective!
...is not the venue for your post. This is to announce a party, ie. M&G, not for you to advertise & list your price for an overnite date to Chicago.
This is nothing but a thinly veiled ad...shame on you!
You want someone to PAY YOU to go to a party so you can meet and greet potential clients for future self profits???
With an holier than thou attitude like that.
P.S. Some would say I look like a smart businessman who chooses NOT to PAY for some woman to go to a party so she can flirt, run around, meet other men and exchange numbers on MY DIME(S). I guess it just depends on one's perspective.
Its really super simple... I don't know why this is so hard for some people to understand. (The others who do understand it, thank you for your PMs to that affect.)
I was not planning on being in the area to begin with.
I was contacted and specifically asked to attend.
I said that I would attend if someone there cared to invite me (that whole travel date thing).
Traveling halfway across the country without actual business arranged is .... well... dumb.
Time - gone.
Travel expenses - gone.
Business at home or elsewhere - gone.
All for the *chance* that someone *might* book me at some undisclosed future date?
Dumb, dumber, dumbest.
I haven't the time in my schedule to chase larks nor do I have interest in going where I'm not invited. What world do people live in where that makes any kind of sense?! Companies with employees may send several to various conventions or other places to hawk their wares and attempt to gain new clients but when it's a company of one and there's business to be had elsewhere.... would anyone turn that guaranteed business down to go to some networking junket? That's got me scratching my head like Scooby-Doo.
The time spent at the M&G would not be billable (duh!) to the gent who invited me. Therefore, it would not be on his dime that I am mingling. Our time would be before or after the event where he can enjoy my full attention. That's only fair...
There were crickets until T-24hrs then a rush of less-than-travel-date inquiries. This tells me that those attending the party A) hadn't the means/interest to extend an actual invite; or B) didn't care to comply with screening requirements. Quite simply, they (whomever "they" are) showed themselves to not be my "market" for a travel date. Ok... no biggie! Geesh, I've said it several times now....
Now, perhaps if I were already in town (as I plan to be at a later date) and there were a M&G to be happening, I'd love to stop by and see if there were any gents who might care to see me for a quick intro date but who were not inclined/able to extend a travel invite. If so, terrific! If not, no skin of my nose... no lost time... no lost income... no lost travel expenses... It's all good!
Why people get up in arms over a simple thing like this mystifies me. It's not as if I owe it to anyone to show up somewhere so they can get their looky-loo on. And it's also not as if anyone owes me a travel date. Funny thing is that *I* am ok with not being booked for a travel date but some of you gents aren't ok with me not falling all over myself to make some incredibly dumb decision to visit y'all for absolutely no reason!
Crazy.... I tell ya....
And as for that other comment about these being purely social occasions and folks should attend for purely social reasons.... If that works for you, terrific. That's not how I see it. These are networking functions. Pure and simple. (Of course, you can still like the people you work with/for... but that doesn't change the fact that you work with/for them and networking is not socializing no matter how entertaining it may be.) If this is truly your social outlet, I would not want to trade lives with you. And if this is how you view networking functions, I'd also not want to trade bank balances.
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Road Trip! I am so happy to be visiting.
Looking Forward to Meeting Everyone!
to have the opportunity to attend your event. Thank you so much for the warm invitation! Your gracious and enthusiastic welcome is appreciated in light of our last minute decision to make the trip!
Very much looking forward to meeting some wonderful people and making new friends!
A personal thank you for the thoughtful chocolates they are yummy! I'm going to have mu sugar fix
with your chocolates and my chocolate wine instead of coffee at 4PM now. LOL
It was a wonderful pleasure to have met you . Chicago's going to love you !
While I planned my trip to Chicago to try and accomodate attending your M&G Alas! it was not to be so. I do hope all that attended had a great time and hope to meet some of you at a future event.
Angela, thank you for all you did to put it together. I know these things are not easy to coordinate.
Glad you let me know that my cell number wasn't showing up .I am glad you
were too busy to attend but am also sorry the connection spoiled that but I know I will
meet you in May and can't wait to see both you and Summer . he guys were entertaining as well
and that always makes it a blast!
... until Brad walked into the room. Every head turned, the women to size up his suit to see if he could afford their rates and the men just on reflex. Neither should have bothered because Brad was here for a very specific purpose neither could have divined.
He had a cleft chin, perfect hair, leather-soled shoes, tailored suit and you could just tell from the way he moved his athleticism was unparalleled by anyone in the room. His intelligent eyes gleamed, and Suzanne could tell his bod was only rivaled by his intellect.
Suzanne held her breath at Brad's approach. "Me? Why is he approaching ME?"
Suzanne's finely-honed business sense told her this man was not going to pay her, and she was well past romantic interests as being unprofitable even in the case of such a man, so she prepared a rebuff.
Brad approached her, presented his warm and genuine smile and asked "Are you the woman known as Suzanne Cold?"
Suddenly on guard, her planned rebuff died on her lips and she replied slowly: "Yes ..."
Brad reached into his suit jacket and presented her with a piece of paper in a binder. "You are being served. Mrs. Gladys Steadwell is suing you for the $4 million dollars her deceased husband paid you as well as any incidental damages. Your real name is, of course, on the paperwork. Please do not miss the court date. Thank you."