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Is this a form of blackmail?
TalkToTrees 865 reads
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I found this on a provider website and was looking through her etiquette page and this part was towards the bottom part of that page (fully shown below).

I find this part "(If not paid within 7 days blacklisting will be Necessary.)", a form of blackmail.

Do you agree or not agree?

I had a situation years ago when I had to cancel a session about 8 hours prior the session due to an emergency situation at work (I was on call that week) and I could not get out of that situation.  
This provider was understanding of my situation and rescheduled me the next day, we had a ton of fun that day! No threats of blackmail or anything of that sort from that provider.  

There's nothing on that section (shown below) if the provider cancels the session or is a No Show No Call. How is the hobbyist taken care of in that situation?

The Forest Waits

I have cut and pasted verbatim including any misspellings. (I know the word 'cancellation is misspelled with only one 'L')

CANCELATION POLICY:
I understand that things come up and at times cancelations need to be made, however, like any business, I do enforce a cancelation policy. It is simple, if a client cancels within 12 hrs. Before the booking, he will be required to pay a $100 cancelation fee. (Payable by credit card or a Refill Card. contact me for type and instructions) - This fee will need to be paid before the client can book the next time. (If not paid within 7 days blacklisting will be Necessary.)  

No Call No Show Policy:
I understand that life gets busy and things come up and you may have forgot our arrangement. However, if a client cannot call to cancel and misses his appointment, he will be required to pay the booking in full. (Payable by credit card or a refill Card. contact me for type and instructions) - This fee will need to be paid before the client can book again. (If not paid within 7 days blacklisting will be Necessary.)

I agree with you, that if this lady is refering to putting a gentleman on a "Do Not See" list, then yes this is "blackmail". However, I have heard several ladies refer to their own personal "Blacklist". A list of guys that they will never see for one reason or another. That would not be considered blackmail.

Just as if some guy made an ass of himself at a local Applebees, and got banned. He could still go to any other restaurant in town, just not Applebees

Posted By: TalkToTrees
I found this on a provider website and was looking through her etiquette page and this part was towards the bottom part of that page (fully shown below).  
   
 I find this part "(If not paid within 7 days blacklisting will be Necessary.)", a form of blackmail.  
   
 Do you agree or not agree?  
   
 I had a situation years ago when I had to cancel a session about 8 hours prior the session due to an emergency situation at work (I was on call that week) and I could not get out of that situation.  
 This provider was understanding of my situation and rescheduled me the next day, we had a ton of fun that day! No threats of blackmail or anything of that sort from that provider.  
   
 There's nothing on that section (shown below) if the provider cancels the session or is a No Show No Call. How is the hobbyist taken care of in that situation?  
   
 The Forest Waits  
   
 I have cut and pasted verbatim including any misspellings. (I know the word 'cancellation is misspelled with only one 'L')  
   
 CANCELATION POLICY:  
 I understand that things come up and at times cancelations need to be made, however, like any business, I do enforce a cancelation policy. It is simple, if a client cancels within 12 hrs. Before the booking, he will be required to pay a $100 cancelation fee. (Payable by credit card or a Refill Card. contact me for type and instructions) - This fee will need to be paid before the client can book the next time. (If not paid within 7 days blacklisting will be Necessary.)  
   
 No Call No Show Policy:  
 I understand that life gets busy and things come up and you may have forgot our arrangement. However, if a client cannot call to cancel and misses his appointment, he will be required to pay the booking in full. (Payable by credit card or a refill Card. contact me for type and instructions) - This fee will need to be paid before the client can book again. (If not paid within 7 days blacklisting will be Necessary.)
 
Why in the world would you want to hang out with someone with an attitude like this.

TalkToTrees277 reads

Deez,

You didn't even answer the question posted.

Stay away? From whom? You were not specific in your response.

The Forest Waits
 

Posted By: deeznumbnutz
 
Posted By: TalkToTrees
I found this on a provider website and was looking through her etiquette page and this part was towards the bottom part of that page (fully shown below).  
     
  I find this part "(If not paid within 7 days blacklisting will be Necessary.)", a form of blackmail.  
     
  Do you agree or not agree?  
     
  I had a situation years ago when I had to cancel a session about 8 hours prior the session due to an emergency situation at work (I was on call that week) and I could not get out of that situation.    
  This provider was understanding of my situation and rescheduled me the next day, we had a ton of fun that day! No threats of blackmail or anything of that sort from that provider.    
     
  There's nothing on that section (shown below) if the provider cancels the session or is a No Show No Call. How is the hobbyist taken care of in that situation?  
     
  The Forest Waits
   
   
 Why in the world would you want to hang out with someone with an attitude like this.  

...but a 12 hour notice seems a bit obsurd. Last-minute cancellations warrant that kind of policy, but not a 12 hours advance notice. Blacklisting because someone cancelled with plenty of advance notice who doesn't pay a cancellation fee happens a lot, but some ladies will continue to see you regardless. I personally take other things into consideration.  

As for the NCNS portion, that's completely appropriate. Reporting NCNS is standard

TalkToTrees327 reads

... there's nothing mentioned about the provider cancelling on the hobbyist.

I've been cancelled on and have had a few NCNS by providers. It affected me because I had to arrange my work and my family schedule to meet the providers.

Then... I am suddenly left with a few hours of not much to do and a bit pissed off during that time.

The Forest Waits  

Posted By: MissErinBlack
...but a 12 hour notice seems a bit obsurd. Last-minute cancellations warrant that kind of policy, but not a 12 hours advance notice. Blacklisting because someone cancelled with plenty of advance notice who doesn't pay a cancellation fee happens a lot, but some ladies will continue to see you regardless. I personally take other things into consideration.  
   
 As for the NCNS portion, that's completely appropriate. Reporting NCNS is standard.  
   
 

While this problem happens, the only way to mitigate the NCNS risk as a hobbyist is to choose to see well-reviewed or vouched ladies. There are a lot of ladies out there who don't accept reviews that are also great and very business-minded as well, but there's really no recourse for these things aside from word of mouth.  

Don't try and continue to see those that cancel last-minute or NCNS. Continuing to try and schedule with someone who runs business like that only reinforces bad behavior.  

The RO board may provide some recourse, but you can't disclose sensitive info there.

... I think she is just talking about blacklisting someone from her appointment list. "This fee will need to be paid before the client can book again"

TalkToTrees254 reads

she meant by "blacklisted".  

If it was me... I would err on the safe side and assume that she meant a nationwide blacklisting.  

I wouldn't take a chance with this lady only because of this little bitty that she put out there.

The Forest Waits

Posted By: Jayonem
I don't think so... I think she is just talking about blacklisting someone from her appointment list. "This fee will need to be paid before the client can book again".  
   
 

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