My counselor isn't anyone I'd be tempted to sleep with.
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Becoming addicted to the hobby? I feel it's becoming some what of an obsseion. I find myself thinking of trying to find another provider asap instead, of letting the last encouner "Tide me over." It looks like I'll be seeing the woman I saw last week tommorow afternoon making it 3 encounters in less than 2 months. Should I talk to my couseler about this or is frequently seeing porviders normal?
Dr. Phil says its not a problem unless it is negativly affecting you life. (I think). If your spending your rent money or it is interfering with you relationship with your SO or you use the hobby as replacement for a SO I would say your might have a problem. If not be safe and enjoy.
You are just satisfying your god-given sex drive. You're O.K. unless you can't pay the rent, or if you're not satisfying you're significant other. Perhaps you don't have a significant other, or she's not making the effort to satisfy you?
Having no SO is why I started doing this. Luckily is hasn't got to the point yet where I can't pay bills. What concerns me is, I feel the constant need for it now. I spend more time on TER than anywhere on the web now.
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If you are concerned about it, then there is reason for concern.
You can't compare your behaviors and the feeling you have in relation to them to anyone else's.
If it is bothering you, and you think you might need to talk to your counselor about it then you should, and the fact that others say they do the same thing but it doesn't bother them doesn't mitigate what you are experiencing and feeling.
If your concern is such that you posted this querry, you already know the answer, you want to talk about it, otherwise you wouldn't have asked.
The very words you choose to describe the situation are telling:
"constant need"
"addicted"
"obsession"
that coupled with the tone of your original post indicates you don't see this as healthy behavior. If that is the case, then it is not healthy for you, and you need to do something about it, and your counselor would be a very good place to start.
Best of luck to you sir.
I had 2 visits in 3 weeks in Dec. after promising myself "once a month". I had hoped to "behave" until a visit from a special lady in February, but I don't think I can last that long.
I've been thinking about seeing a counselor myself, especially after a came across an ad for a hot-looking one close by. After all, if you're going to discuss your sexual addiction with anyone, it might as well be an attractive woman.
And I ended up in bed with her.
90 dollars an hour..
Excellent... excellent...
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Thanks trek I thought somrthing was up.
I like mine. It's better than my "real" handle. I wonder if I can swap 'em...?
My counselor isn't anyone I'd be tempted to sleep with.
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...appeared attractive on her website... but who knows what she looks like in real life...
Plus there was that whole deal about using "Jesus" to help me...not sure if that's worth dealing with just to score with a couselor.
When I first discovered the hobby, I was like a kid in a candy shop...a very expensive candy shop. I'd just lost my wife, to whom I'd been faithful for thirty years, and now here was this sea of gorgeous women just lining up to see me. I had no concerns about keeping things quiet, so I had a parade of women walking through my house day and night. Plus, I was seeing several civilians at the same time. There were actually times when I had to get the first shift out by noon because the second shift was due in at 1:00, and I had to change the sheets. Thank God I came to my senses. So believe me, I KNOW how addicting this hobby can be. As a rule, if you THINK you need to see a counselor; you probably do.
Frequently seeing providers is as "normal" as you wish to make it. Gambling, booze, drugs, the hobby are all crimes defined by a prescribed morality. Whether that morality has a right to pass judgement on a life style is up to you.
YKSY.
shortly after a friend suggested this to me I started doing a lot of research on the hobby
since then a few friends seem to think I have become obcessed by sex
go figure that one
oh and on the therapist angle?
if not for my therapist I would never have gotten a computer
to make it even worse long before I got the first computer I have thought he was hot
but at lass that is one of the few things I have yet to share with my therapist
You will slow down, I understand the issue, you will slow down, I did.
... the question seems to answer itself for you.
You aren't a "NORMAL" person -- you are your own person with your own way of doing things. If your actions are making you feel bad, you will have to figure out why you are doing something that makes you feel bad and how to stop it.
I can give you a very zen type discussion about this, but that probably isn't very useful to you right now. Good Luck!
Harry
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Think about it guys. What else would you rather be doing.
I live in Nebraska, so it is hard to get addicted to anything.
Most of us are real lucky.
Nebraska! Do they even have provider's there? Just kidding, I couldn't resist.
is concerning you, and that alone makes it worth talking about.
Its very addictive...I mean, c'mon, how can it NOT be?!
Meeting beautiful women... ....Having fun... 
Also finding the right provider will drive you wild...I was like you Avsfan04 but I've since calmed down on meeting new girls (until the next one gets me all worked up again) and now I'm just stuck with one, my ATF...I can't get enough of her.
But like everyone else has stated if it affects other parts of your life then you should see a counseler(sp?)
I'm just crazy about that stuff!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!b
I had a similar experience, for about 3 months, but it is a very expensive candy store! You will slow down esp. if/when you find one or two ATFs and start having to think about your "spending" budget ....
Have an appointment with my couselor on Friday morning. Your prayers are requested. I hope I'm brave and admit this problem.