I'm in sales. I run ads and people call me who have obviously not read the ad. Fortunately they can't see me rolling my eyes or gritting my teeth. Some of them turn into sales. Some of them are want-a-be's. If a girl does not have reviews, how else can you find out if she is providing what you need. No one wants to find out during the initial face to face that you are not going to get what you expect. That IS a waste of time.
I hate when providers write this in their ad. Who has the money in this relationship. Customer service has gone to hell
...but you wasting her time is also a waste of your own time as well.
Does someone that puts that feels the need to put that in her ad have a comprehensive website, and overall online presence? I doubt it. Simply because those of us that do will simply refer you to our websites/reviews concerning any questions you have.
I get a lot of responses from potential clients asking me for services that are clearly listed as hard limits on my website. 2 clicks on a website is a far more efficient use of time then calling or texting me, only to have me tell you "had you read my website, it states clearly what I will and will not participate in".
Clearly, a double-edged sword.
I'm in sales. I run ads and people call me who have obviously not read the ad. Fortunately they can't see me rolling my eyes or gritting my teeth. Some of them turn into sales. Some of them are want-a-be's. If a girl does not have reviews, how else can you find out if she is providing what you need. No one wants to find out during the initial face to face that you are not going to get what you expect. That IS a waste of time.
Whether a girl has reviews or not, calling her and asking her if she is "providing what you need" isn't too bright.
Guys waste providers time, often. Based on what girls have told me, and just common sense, there are a lot of flake guys out there. Add that to the uncertainty and paranoia of this hobby, and you have a lot of missed connections.
But generally, girls who say this have a glass half empty outlook. It's a business. All businesses have to accept that clients have a certain level of freedom to walk away. Providers have the same right, of course.
The best providers don't let this affect how they handle setup.
Some of us have learned to handle this a bit more gracefully than others. Having a thorough website clearly states "please read this before contacting me", which is the PC way of saying "don't waste my time"
The thing is, if a guy isn't going to read my ad anyway, its contents are irrelevant (so I might as well not put anything in it that could be deemed offensive by the guys who actually do read). Like Erin, I put a big, bold intro with asterisks and everything at the top of every one of my ads that says "please read my ad/website in its entirety BEFORE contacting me." It hasn't made a damn bit of difference. Almost daily, I have to respond to some sort of correspondence with "okay...did you read my ad/website?" Every single time, they respond in the affirmative, even though they're asking me questions that are outlined clearly wherever I advertise. At times it's amusing, other times it's infuriating.
Not that this tangent of mine is particularly germane to the OP, but yeah...sucks.
What is the point of this place without extempore rhetoric?
I don't find it offensive most of the time, but I do consider it a little "red flag" that the girl might have a less than friendly attitude.
I understand why speculative contact which might never lead to an actual connection would be annoying, but it's part of the job. It's like anything in life. You can't let the last 100 assholes put a chip on your shoulder.
