Orange County

Screening, outcalls and wild goose chases...
DeLaine See my TER Reviews 434 reads
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For any of the ladies who need help screening, you are always welcomed to send me a PM and I'll be happy to send you a copy of the step-by-step screening guide that I wrote down - this is the screening process that I've used for four years now and it's never failed to keep me safe... knock on wood.

When I was new to this universe I got sent on a number of fake outcalls. Who knows why they do it, but now I require a small deposit for outcalls that's put down after I've screened someone & set the appointment.  

 
As for personal info - ladies, having someone send you a photo or a photo of an ID doesn't prove anything, as those images aren't hard to come by on the internet. I'm not at all comfortable receiving a photo of someone's ID - I don't want access to something that personal. I've even had guys offer to send me a photo of their ID and their credit card (more than once, astounding!) which was pretty surprising & quickly advised them against ever doing that again.  

 
The biggest problem I run into with screening is gentlemen who want me to verify them based off of a whitelist or OKs alone - and these are sometimes several years old. I am happy check references as screening, but I need enough time to be able to do it and they need to be from within the last year. Unfortunately most ladies do not reply to reference checks which makes it a hassle for everyone. Often if they do reply it's days or even weeks later. Estimating here but I'd say on average, I hear back from ladies within two hours only about 20% of the time. A response within 15 minutes is extraordinarily rare.  

My suggestion for the gents (from my perspective) would be that once you have enough reliable references it's probably best to contact the provider in advance for a pre-screening. This way, once you're ready to set an appointment, the details are already taken care of and neither of you need to get frustrated about being unable to verify a whitelist or OK's or whatever. If you are comfortable sharing some info, be very careful about who you trust with that info and what type of info you give out. Do at least as much homework on the lady you're meeting as she's doing on you; your safety is just as important.

Am I the only girl getting a lot of fake outcalls? I been going to at least 2 outcalls a night where the person keeps playing. They either don't answer at all or they answer and say I lied and I'm not the girl in the Pic. I never had this problem in Houston,Vegas and sf bay area. I only use real and recent pics. My hair grew a few inches and I changed my outfit but that's about the only thing different. All it has done is now made it harder for the guys who are actually trying to see me. So for the guys who want outcall,  I'm going to screen the crap out of you now please don't be offended I'm tired of wasting gas and time

It's pretty lame that some men will send you on a wild goose chase trying to waste your time.  For that reason, I usually don't do outcalls unless it's for a regular/repeat customer of mine that I trust.  Sometimes I will make an exception if the person has strong references but other than that I prefer new clients to come to me at my incall upon first meeting.

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I see guys who've said NEVER give a Provider your Driver's License or Name. Some have stated they'll give Providers their real names when Providers give them their real names.

My question is if being verified on Preferred411 eliminates the need for such personal information exchanges? Isn't that a major point of verification?

It seems to me that if a Client is Verified by Preferred411 that sending them a PM on Preferred411 and having them respond on Preferred411 proves they've been verified and are legit Clients with verified jobs, etc.

There just doesn't seem to be a need for Driver's License checks or name exchanges in instances of Verified Clients setup through PMs on those sights.

Everyone can set their preferences how they like.  I entirely respect a woman's need for safety and security, but it's not an issue that runs just one way.  

Men also have concerns, I had an uncomfortable moment with a provider who turned out to not be as stable as one might hope.  I also recently had a provider who sent bulk email out and didn't bcc everyone so I have the email of 50 or 60 people she's met, and they have mine.  Some women also never really destroy the info and the interesting things that can happen from that don't really need to be explained.  

I subscribe here in part to avoid physical safety issues, and subscribe to p411 to avoid information security issues.  I understand some women don't view p411 as sufficient and while I respect that decision I can't compromise what I need for my safety either.

tl;dr do what you need to do to make you comfortable, there's enough people out there that you'll find someone willing to meet your needs.

But I think safety is the utmost of importance.  I've got memberships with P411 and DateCheck, and have never been asked for ID since my photo is on my p411 profile.

And I've NEVER been asked for a DL.  Oh and my last name NEVER gonna happen.  There are many ways to make an escort feel comfortable before you meet without your last name or a picture of yourself.  

Now have I read ads & websites that ask for last name, DL, and a picture? Sure but I just don' t respond to them.  

Posted By: Dave76015
But I think safety is the utmost of importance.  I've got memberships with P411 and DateCheck, and have never been asked for ID since my photo is on my p411 profile.  

For any of the ladies who need help screening, you are always welcomed to send me a PM and I'll be happy to send you a copy of the step-by-step screening guide that I wrote down - this is the screening process that I've used for four years now and it's never failed to keep me safe... knock on wood.

When I was new to this universe I got sent on a number of fake outcalls. Who knows why they do it, but now I require a small deposit for outcalls that's put down after I've screened someone & set the appointment.  

 
As for personal info - ladies, having someone send you a photo or a photo of an ID doesn't prove anything, as those images aren't hard to come by on the internet. I'm not at all comfortable receiving a photo of someone's ID - I don't want access to something that personal. I've even had guys offer to send me a photo of their ID and their credit card (more than once, astounding!) which was pretty surprising & quickly advised them against ever doing that again.  

 
The biggest problem I run into with screening is gentlemen who want me to verify them based off of a whitelist or OKs alone - and these are sometimes several years old. I am happy check references as screening, but I need enough time to be able to do it and they need to be from within the last year. Unfortunately most ladies do not reply to reference checks which makes it a hassle for everyone. Often if they do reply it's days or even weeks later. Estimating here but I'd say on average, I hear back from ladies within two hours only about 20% of the time. A response within 15 minutes is extraordinarily rare.  

My suggestion for the gents (from my perspective) would be that once you have enough reliable references it's probably best to contact the provider in advance for a pre-screening. This way, once you're ready to set an appointment, the details are already taken care of and neither of you need to get frustrated about being unable to verify a whitelist or OK's or whatever. If you are comfortable sharing some info, be very careful about who you trust with that info and what type of info you give out. Do at least as much homework on the lady you're meeting as she's doing on you; your safety is just as important.

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