I like to get to know one another, but I don't want it to be counted as my time. If it's an independant, I go with the flow, because I think they don't schedule themselves to tightly, so I know that the clock isn't being watched. And that actually provides an enhanced GFE, to be able to talk before, during, and after if we can connect at some level and still have an incedible intimate experience. More likely yo repeat as long as connection is commensurate with performance.
If it's an agency girl, I still like to talk, but not maybe as long.
say hello, give you a hug and a kiss and then just pull your pants down and jump you without mercy before you can reach the couch ?
or would you want to sit down nibble on food and chat ? or maybe that would be better later ?
just curious.
part of my 'continuing improvement' campaign.
thank you, Autumn666
If it's someone I know, it can go either way and I don't have a problem with it.
If it's someone I'm meeting for the first time, I prefer to sit and relax for a little bit first. Although I have had it go the other way on a first meeting and that was a good way to get over the opening jitters real fast, I just prefer not to go there right away.
I much prefer the latter, but I don't think you can really go that route with only an hour. I'm beginning to think two hours isn't really enough for a decent "date" either. Next time I meet with my new ATF, I'm going to try for three with lunch or dinner on the front end (if she's willing).
Hello Lex:
I have done dinner and or lunch for 3 to 4 hours from time to
time with my ATF it is great, and still have time for lots of fun with a bottle of wine.
jerkssn
Snowblind expressed my feelings on the question perfectly - and no doubt much more concisely than I would have. A wise man indeed.
I like to get to know one another, but I don't want it to be counted as my time. If it's an independant, I go with the flow, because I think they don't schedule themselves to tightly, so I know that the clock isn't being watched. And that actually provides an enhanced GFE, to be able to talk before, during, and after if we can connect at some level and still have an incedible intimate experience. More likely yo repeat as long as connection is commensurate with performance.
If it's an agency girl, I still like to talk, but not maybe as long.
Autumn, I'm delighted to see someone is still practicing the Pursuti of Excellence.
Somewhere in the middle is preferable to me. I don't want to be attacked at the door, but a nice hug and a sensuous kiss is great way to relax me 
I would like to take a small amount of time to sit, have a glass of wine...talk....watch her move...get to know her a bit. If I really enjoy a provider, she will be called back.
I do not get to enjoy the company of attractive woman. I wish to treat her like a fine aged, wine....enjoy the charm...the poise...good conversation....a slow movement towards the bed and even then...I want to go slow...and enjoy every inch of her warm, and leath body.
If, after that...she wants threw me on the floor, jump my bones, and screw my lights out without mercy.....I'm ok with that. (hehehehhehehehehhehe)
But on that first date, please allow me the shear joy of a woman's company....the sound of her voice...the smell of her perfume, enjoy the cut of her charactor....take time to just enjoy a woman in her best form.....soft, sensual, and sexy!!!!!!
(SH*T now I'm all hot and randy.....where is that darn phone call list??????????? CiCi. where are ya when I need ya girl???)
Just had an experience somewhat on point. I was 20 minutes late for an appointment with someone new (a highly reviewed provider). I called her ahead of time and kept her apprised of my ETA. When finally I arrived, she wanted to "make the most of our time" by getting right to the main event. Though I was more than willing, I could tell that -- notwithstanding her beauty, sexy demeanor and talents -- something was missing. I could sense, as well, that despite her efforts (and mine) she was "not quite there". Still, I enjoyed quite a pleasant time and left with no misgivings, especially since she had extended the time despite (or because of) my tardiness. Imagine my surprise when she called me in the car and said that she'd like to schedule another session with me and not to worry about the "gift". Next time, I'll savor every minute.
I think I'm pretty much in agreement with these other guys - either approach is good, but on the first meeting I think I lean toward the "chat a minute" style. One of your basic job skills is being good at reading people, and you should pick up some hint from the tone of the contact and screening process.
I've been hobbying a good many years, and to this day I'm a bit nervous on meeting a new provider.
For me,it kinda depends on the provider. I generally prefer the latter if she's the type that can carry one a good conversation - I tend to see those types anyway, based on info I gather on TER. I think the consensus is that u can't go the latter route if u don't have at least two hours.(but there again, some guyes could only afford 1 hr). Plus if u're looking for seconds and u need some to recover after the first week, 1 hr or even 90 minutes may not give u what u want - fortunate for the hobbyist, there are providers out there that understand that and wouldn't mind offering reduced rates to guys like me if we choose a longer session. Let's face it, how many guys can keep it up for 2 hours, anyway. It gives each other time to feel comfortable and safe with each other. Also some guys like to take it slow ... it sort of gives u a nice crescendo in the end, if u know what I mean.
I personal get turned off if all she wants to do is get me to finish in 10 minutes and then either kick me out the door or just kind of stare at each other with nothing to say to each other.
sometimes I just want to be taken...sometimes I want to ease into things with some nice conversation. My suggestion is when you give him the hug, if you feel the bulge in his pants, he's probably ready for some action right away...at least that's the case with me. Great question Autumn.
NiceGuy
A hug and kiss is nice but, I'd perfer not to be jumped the first thing. I Need sometime to work up to that.
The most important aspect being with a woman is watching her womanly charms. I love seeing a curvy woman in an elegant dress and prefer that she work into the session in a way that will give me time to savor the feel of her curves in the dress before I help her take it off.
You have an impressive goal that you are working for. Have fun as you work toward that goal and take care of yourself.
I've had one provider pretty much attack me at the door and oh did I like it! As soon as the door was closed we went into a liplock and it was on until the session was over. She's a gorgeous woman and everything just felt right, that was a true GFE experience! If you haven't seen your girl friend, long lost love, etc. for a while, when you finally do hopefully you don't want to sit down and chat, I sure wouldn't. Then again some people just don't click or aren't able to act like they do, so that same experience wouldn't work everywhere. In my opinion I prefer the woman to be somewhat aggressive and ready to go. If she's able to act like she want's to be there, whether she does or not, it's more comfortable and enjoyable. The more talking that goes on leave's less time for fun, I'd prefer to save the talking for later. Not meaning to sound like a total pig but we're both there for a reason, the provider for the money and me for the physical pleasure. If she really want's to get to know me, and vice versa, and there have been a few that I sure wish did, we can hook up after our session or at another time for a date. I was fortunate enough to have a dynamite, no charge weekend fling with the woman mentioned above but unfortunately it didn't lead to anything. I sure wish it would have though, she wouldn't still be providing and I wouldn't still be buying.
YOU won't even get the chance to say hello. I've had a couple of great sessions where hardly a word was said until after the first act. Just happened that way. Either way is nice. Different day...different mood...
I wouldn't have any food during the session, though I would a nice bottle of wine. Chat is a must, just to get to know and be comfortable with each other..thus leads to better sex. Women are like a good wine, to be savored by a gentleman with fine taste.
They both work for me. It is more a matter of mood than anything else. I am not a real wealthy guy, and I only see really good providers (why lower my standards?), so I don't play often. By the time I get in there, most of the time I would be VERY happy with the "just jump me" frame of mind. Other times, I would really rather get to know you first.
It is all about mood.
Light
"Cowards can never be moral."
M.K. Gandhi
... fun to read. Thought you would be an interesting person to know. Where the heck do you play? Do you have reviews?
As to your question? Do what seems appropriate for your specific client. You will probably be right most of the time. Perfection in human interactions is an absurd goal. Caring, paying attention, and being in the moment are the highest achievements.
Harry
want to waste a lot of time with chit chat. I'm paying for sex!!! I can bullshit with my buddies!! If it's not on the "clock" fine. There's plenty of time for "small talk" after round one. I've been with a few providers that want to drink wine and talk for 20 plus minutes and then inform me that "time's up" after round 1.
... just want to blow this fellow.
I play in seattle, I'm working on moving to LA
thank you, Autumn
After further consideration, I'm recondisering my previous answer.
I wouldn't go so far as to say having a bite to eat and a chat is necessary or desirable, but sharing a few moments is always nice. That's one of the things I dislike about agencies; their ladies are often on a busy schedule, so you sometimes feel like you're on an assembly line. Get it up, get it in, get it off, get out. I'm not faulting the ladies - I suspect they do not have much time in their day to do it any differently.
If you "say hello, give you a hug and a kiss and then just pull your pants down and jump you without mercy before you can reach the couch", I think the key is making sure your *victim* understands that it's because you can't wait to start - not because you can't wait to finish.
A hug and/or kiss really puts my nerves at ease during the greeting, but I would just as soon ease into the action. Talking for a bit is always good I think, it also depends on how many times I have seen a provider, if not the initial visit,it is nice to get started faster...for me anyway.
to totally take 100% care of me. So if she is still inside her outside life to get complete first.
I look at it as a promise to eachother that the pleasure will come from the expression of giving to the other. That she will completely take care of my every need and she will let me do the same for her.
I will forget all my problems and let her take care of me and she will forget all of her's and let me take care of her.
So if she thinks I need her to open the door on her knees with her hands ready to remove my pants or if she thinks a little food first, then do it. Don't make it up to me to choose for me.
that is a very interesting answer, thank you.
I appreciate it.
Autumn.
I have seen one ATF over 400 times in the past several years. Sometimes we sit and talk first - other times she jumps on me. I guess it depends on her mood. But I like the surprise and 'not knowing' - it keeps things on the edge and I appreciate her wild spontaneity at times and soothing, sensual conversation at other times. I guess thats why I keep coming back and she's an 'ATF".