At a cross-roads peeps... like the dude in Animal House with the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other, wondering - what to do? Saw a new face in my area a few weeks back. She was friendly but it was a bumpy unpleasant encounter and not worth what I paid. I could tell youth and lack of experience got in the way of good time. So I had this thought, and it seemed rational and balanced. Instead of writing a TOFTT critique (which would be her first review), maybe I just call her and offer my observations and suggestions in private. So I call and start with something easy - the condition of her incall location (which she knew was bad and which BTW looked like the maid had quit 6 months ago and the Tasmanian devil just had a month long meth bender followed by bad case of IBS.)
What do you think happened? Here's what - she told me she didn't want my advice and to f@#$ off. Peeps, am I off in left field here? Who would make a business decision to choose a scathing review instead of private advice?
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Someone who should not be in the business...
No one wants unsolicited advice about themselves, especially if it is critical and truthful, and in a business endemic with vainglorious legends in their own minds.
What in the world did you hope to gain anyway?
Gain? Maybe a teeny smidge of good karma, like when there's extra fries in the bottom of my McSack O' Nuggets. Figured, I'd take a different approach this time and least make the offer. Perhaps with this girl's attitude, it's just a matter of time before that bad review shows up.
Is that it's worth exactly what you pay for it.
You should have just written the review and been done with her. I'm not at all surprised about her reaction. After only seeing her one time, there is no way in the world she could have interpreted your advice as "friendly."
Too bad, because your line about the condition of her incall is pretty good and would have been funny to read in a review.
Why you at a crossroad? You gonna call back an apologize? Someone said"youth & inexperience were setbacks". She knew her "conditions & location were bad". So probably someone that's inexperienced & young or that really doesn't GAF about one trick,is not hearing any advice. Right now reviews mean nothing to her. If this game starts paying off for her,she'll take heed. And sure you paid to much for it. We always do!
Posted By: Quityerbitchin
At a cross-roads peeps... like the dude in Animal House with the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other, wondering - what to do? Saw a new face in my area a few weeks back. She was friendly but it was a bumpy unpleasant encounter and not worth what I paid. I could tell youth and lack of experience got in the way of good time. So I had this thought, and it seemed rational and balanced. Instead of writing a TOFTT critique (which would be her first review), maybe I just call her and offer my observations and suggestions in private. So I call and start with something easy - the condition of her incall location (which she knew was bad and which BTW looked like the maid had quit 6 months ago and the Tasmanian devil just had a month long meth bender followed by bad case of IBS.)
What do you think happened? Here's what - she told me she didn't want my advice and to f@#$ off. Peeps, am I off in left field here? Who would make a business decision to choose a scathing review instead of private advice?
-- Modified on 7/18/2016 7:25:13 PM
QYB, I understand where you're coming from about wanting to help out and I'm sure it was a rational and balanced approach, as you said -- but unless you have another rational and balanced mind on the other side of that helpful advice, you can expect to be met with a defensive ego lashing out because the self-image has been threatened. Hopefully some points you made will sink in with some introspection, but that's the arrogance of youth... what can ya do?
I see so many bad business decisions made like this, but I think too many girls don't see this as akin to running a small business. Yeah, they can do the "detached, just in it for the $$$" thing well, but I mean treat it as a business as far as marketing, customer relations, etc. Most of the girls I meet are savvy enough to figure out (or ask if) I'm on TER and try to make sure things go well (not that I use it as leverage, but I'd rather they know than pull out my Secret Shopper badge on 'em after the fact). I've also sifted through a number of reviews where the first one or two are bad, then it looks like they straightened out and got better reviews moving forward, so I think low reviews can be a strong teaching tool, especially when the phone stops ringing.
I would definitely leave a review, but not as retaliation, just to let other guys know. We all want to leave glowing reviews to help the ladies out, but you also need to help us guys out and give a heads-up when you get into this kind of sketchiness. The first girl I saw in this hobby really sucked (and not in the good way), but I didn't leave a review 'cause I didn't want to hurt any feelings and it was my first experience so I thought that was just the way it was. A few months later, a review similar to my experience popped up and the guy was pretty disappointed, so I kinda wished I'd posted and saved him the grief.
Go ahead and leave a review. Make sure to detail in the review that you offered the advice in private, but she wasn't interested. That way, she knows that this is on her.
and your efforts were not appreciated, you prolly just have to let the chips fall where they may. maybe it will be a wakeup call for her. #GlassHalfFull
