Services?  Or is the SO complaining?  Or does the hobbyist want to get the SO into the business so he can retire and they want to hire you as a consultant?  

Please use your head when you ask a question so other people can respond intelligently.

I'm not a lady but is stands to reason that he was careless with
the paper and/or electronic trail.  She has come very far in her
"investigation" if she has called you.  Anything you say can't
help and can probably hurt is she suspects who you are.

This is one of the reasons why I love having a pager. I kept getting a call from a wife who left a message on my voice mail wondering what my business was. At first she said she found the number on the phone bill. Then she said on the following calls that she found the number in her house. Then she called again pretending to be his secretary. I could not figure out who the number belonged to. Finally the number changed that she left from a cell phone to a home number and I was able to use a reverse search and find out who the gentleman was.

I had never seen him although he had contacted me using his cell phone. I put a warning up with his initials, wifes initials and city on a local board. He posted back saying sorry and he was aware of the situation. I later found out his wife found and went thru his call log on the cell phone. Several other girls have encountered the same thing with his wife calling them also.

I never called her back and made a note of the number just in case she ever called back. Its been a few months and Im glad that she finally seems to have given up. ~

Nikki

Let her get it off her chest.
Be loyal to your client. He will appreciate it
She knows the deal, a woman's intuition is always right.
Besides, she will milk him more than you'll ever do.
I mean money that is.
Good luck.

One for business / personal issues that you share with family members via "friends and family", with a bill that comes to the house.  The 2nd one is a personal one you keep at the office with you and take on the road when you travel.  

It's your hobby phone, is higher priced per minute as it's a "pre-paid" phone, and no one knows about it.  In retrospect, the price per minute is cheap.

Guys that risk relationships by dating are on their own to do explaining of whatever "evidence" is found.

It's a really good reason to only respond to email, initially, and to let the phone machine screen callers.

There's not a reason in the world I would try to come up with an explanation to an angry lady, nor would I answer questions of anyone that's "fishing" for information.  (In one case a man called my number wanting to know if I was a stripper... I am pretty sure he was just doing some surveillance for an upset friend or sister.)

Loose Lips sink ships, no matter how good the intent is of making an explanation.

xoxo
Elise

A few gents I have seen are not so careful where they put my number or email addy.

Anyway, most of them just wanted to be reassured that I am always "safe" and all that. I didn't come right out and say what I do for a living, but they had the idea, they were very smart ladies.

One was royally pissed, the rest were just worried about their own health and their marriages. I tried my best to calm their fears and relate to them on a personal level, without admitting that I was with thier husbands. Only one of them told me who her hubby was and I was, in fact, with him a week before but I never told her that.

My standard response for these ladies is: "I understand your fears, but just so you know that in my active social life I am completely safe. Other than that, this is something you need to take up with your husband". Then I say goodbye. That's it - short and sweet. Then I flag the number and do not answer it again.

Hugs,

Vanessa Sue

I have not been confronted with this situation yet but I always have thought I have the perfect solution... If a wife or s/o calls me and asks why her man has my number... I tell her I am a jewerly designer and then I call him and tell him he better go purchase his woman a nice piece of jewelery.  I figure that way I give a plausible explanation, I save his butt and I score a point for the sisterhood.  Win-win outcome in a situation that rarely has a happy ending... So you men, better have a reserve fund for just such occasions. Have a good one....

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