The year is 2004 and I'm uncomfortable asking.....But I am curious about other's experiences.
I usually do,also I always let them know in advance what kind of cloth I wear, what kind of feature I look or I would like a provider to wear.
It's more less to avoid any conflicts or misconcept to have a nice time.
This was covered before and the consensus was that providers can choose who they want to see including or excluding non-whites.
I don't disclose before hand it shouldn't make a difference and doesn't in my neck of the woods. But I if lived in the South or other more conservative backwards areas of the country - think of all of the "Red" states that voted for Bush - then I may consider it - That's why I don't live in the Red States!
who care tend to find a way to ask. I've actually seen a couple of providers who listed that criterion on their web pages.
Of course, some of them think they can figure it out by talking to you on the phone. Some times they're right, some times they're wrong.
However, it's not so PC to discuss such things these days, so I never do, but it's true--when I open the door to a chap of a different color, it can be quite the turn on! Contrasts can be very erotic.
As a cold call, if it matters to you, then yes. If you are willing to "roll with the punches" then don't ask. We all live by certain boundaries for a myriad of personal reasons, you just never know which ones, unless you connect with the person.
If you are wanting to be certain though, there are many ways to bring this up without even having to ask. I have been asked on occasion, and thought it was very generous of the man to ask,but in my case, unnecessary. Personally, I go by how I feel talking with the person. Race is just not as important to me as how I connect with him, his character, his demeanor, cleanliness, etc, just like with anyone else.
Unfortunately, I have passed up some lovely men (don't know what nationality or race), because I was hypersensitive, but then, those gents were probably better off without me at that time.
Take care.
xoxo
-- Modified on 11/5/2004 8:36:19 PM
I like to know and correspond with potential clients for a while, and must say I do have preferences.
Would ruin a night for both of us if he or I were not what was expected... Must communicate -- we women do via our sites, and you reciprocate via providing us ample info. And with certain independents, you don't always have to give your work name and #, address, etc.
If you have preferences, why not list them or ask for the information yourself? There are tactful ways to do this.
Because race is not an issue for the vast majority of ladies, I'm generally more concerned about what she'll think about the size of my belly than about what she'll think about my skin color, so it never occurs to me to tell them my race.
-- Modified on 11/6/2004 3:42:44 PM