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As to reviews, I always wait until we are dressed & the session is over; by then I will know if *I* want to write one. Only then do I ask her if she would like one written. If she accepts, I ask her is there anything she would like me NOT to mention. It's only a common courtesy & it goes a long way.
As to why I would choose not write a review; well, if my experience mirrored all the other lady's reviews, what is the point? Also if the meeting was very intense, then I am writing mostly about my own emotions, which is the ultimate YMMV situation.
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I generally ask a lady before doing a review on her, but is it okay to do a review without her permission if she makes posts with links to her reviews? If she's calling attention to her reviews, it seems like the no-permission approach is okay. Any insight?
You do not need a ladies permission to post a review!
It IS a sign of respect to ask or at least let her know though. Consider just sending a quick note to the lady whether or not she "makes posts with links to her reviews".
I feel funny writing reviews. As I've indicated elsewhere on these boards; I've developed some very close friendships with several ladies in this community, and sharing the intimate details of our times together smacks of poor form. I'm also concerned about avoiding any apparent conflict of interest that might arise from my reviewing someone who, for example, lives with me.
HOWEVER, I also recognize that many of these ladies -- especially the independents -- live and die by their reviews. So, if I'm with a young lady whom I've not yet reviewed, I will always ask them if they would like me to submit a review. A surprising number say no, citing the same reservations as I mentioned earlier.
While it didn't happen often, if I had a bad experience I made a point of writing a review for the benefit of those who may have gone after me. No matter what, though, when I write a review -- positive or negative -- I try to be as objective and honest as possible.
I do not write reviews that are not flattering, unless I am dealing with a total ripoff, because I do not want to adversely affect someone's business. There are times when things don't just hit it off, when I have a different reaction to a provider's looks, or the like. I have very definite things in mind, and having been doing this for more than 20 years, I also have had experience with a lot of different providers.
I have never thought of the privacy angle. But thinking about it, it does not change my view. If I had a really good time, everyone should know about it. If I was ripped off, the same. Otherwise, I usually keep my mouth shut.
I agree with Korn, but only because i live in a rather remote place. The few providers that are listed are average at best and I don't want to interfere with their livelihood. My standards may be too high and lead me to write something that may cause a potential customer to look elsewhere. The providers I've seen have been unattractive to me but did all that could be expected.
I hope to travel soon to places with a greater nunber of providers and I will post reviews then.
For a few years, I wrote no reviews. I then realized that a main point of this community is the reviews, and I had been benefiting from reviews others had written, so now I always write a review unless specifically asked *not* to.
Of course, if I were ripped off I would write one anyway, but otherwise, I always honor the request. But I don't discuss TER with providers unless they bring it up. This and other boards are a fact of life in this biz, and providers realize this. If they have a no review policy, so be it.
But I agree with you, if they are then posting links to their reviews, it's fair to review them.
I think it is the appropriate thing to do. After all the experience includes very intimate, personal things between two people.
I have only had one lady request that I don't write one. She felt uncomfortable with the process. It certainly wasn't because the date wasn't great. It was one of the best ever! I honored her wishes.
With that said, we have a responsibility to write a bad review, if warranted. It will save other people the time and expense we experienced.
Hi
As to reviews, I always wait until we are dressed & the session is over; by then I will know if *I* want to write one. Only then do I ask her if she would like one written. If she accepts, I ask her is there anything she would like me NOT to mention. It's only a common courtesy & it goes a long way.
As to why I would choose not write a review; well, if my experience mirrored all the other lady's reviews, what is the point? Also if the meeting was very intense, then I am writing mostly about my own emotions, which is the ultimate YMMV situation.
Have Fun
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