I've been in this situation before and I do not like to be approached. I was with my SO in Home Depot of all places and we walked in front of a client of mine. He stopped and just stared at me. Inwardly I panicked and prayed he wouldn't talk to me.....thank goodness he didn't. My SO is aware I escort, but I never bring my personal life and my professional life together. Had I been alone perhaps....
I was in an Airport on my way to Las Vegas last weekend. I flew Southwest Airlines and they make you line up A, B or C. While in line, I noticed this hot looking lady walking. As I check her out and she gets closer, I realize that she is one of the providers I often see at TER. I would like to ask what you would do in this situation: Start a conversation and at some point try to confirm that she is the provider you think she is?
If you are a provider, would you respond to someone who approaches you this way? What is the proper thing to do?
Without knowing otherwise, you might have committed a huge faux pas if you'd brought up the possibility of her being a provider. I'd have stick with the idea of starting a casual conversation, but left the hobby out of it. Who knows? If you were charming enough, you might have come home with a phone number and a new friend.
If i am alone, feel free to approach me, cautiously....
"roxy?" if i tell you, "You must be mistaken" i am not who you think i am... 
love and light
roxy
My thoughts...
1. Was she alone?
2. How would you feel if a provider you met came up and spoke with you?
I think the key here is discretion. Many providers have family and friends. Many have children. People who don't know and don't need to know what their occupation is. We all have other lives. If you have ever been in a mall situation, their child may be within earshot, but not next to mom.
Personally, I'd prefer an e-mail later saying, "hey, I saw you at the mall" rather than explaining to someone I was with who the person talking to me was...
SINfully sin-thia
I've been in this situation before and I do not like to be approached. I was with my SO in Home Depot of all places and we walked in front of a client of mine. He stopped and just stared at me. Inwardly I panicked and prayed he wouldn't talk to me.....thank goodness he didn't. My SO is aware I escort, but I never bring my personal life and my professional life together. Had I been alone perhaps....
It is a well known that the late Friday afternoon flights from LAX and Burbank are known as the Provider Express. Not only the known ladies but also the weekend only girls those with other regular gigs. Then they take the Sunday flights back. It is an interesting flight to be on but unless you get the hello nod not a good idea to approach.
is to let my eyes travel from the person I think I recognize to others in the room without any sign of recognition. The second rule of Fight Club is you don't identify other Fight Club members outside the club. Or at least that should be the rule.
....but remain a gentleman at all times. She is off duty and leave it at that. She deserves her down time. I don't think any woman minds if a man observes them, and enjoys their charm.
But allow her all of her space.
Just because you recognize her doesn't mean that anything will or should happen. Be careful. Women have intuition. If you push too hard, she just might think you are a stalker or vice.
I have had men approach me successfully. Rare, but it happens. Then there are those, who because they saw me onstage, or in a magazine, expected me to give it up ... a couple even tried to follow me home. Again, just because you recognize her doesn't mean she owes any recognition to you. So don't let the energy come through when you look at her. You;ll want to form a comraderie, aka TER. Restrain yourself. I know the adrenaline runs thick, but put a lid on it And for chrissakes, DON'T STARE!!!!!
Even celebrities deserve their privacy. And finally, wouldn't you want yours if she recognized you?
Otherwise, go ahead, say hi, but be willing to leave it at that... (yep, I know...it IS hard. Hard and wooden...but be wiling to let it go) Hope you have one of those rare experiences, good luck!
xoxo
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....I would have to say that probably depends on the chick. Because some may want to stay more discreet hen in public, but others may not care at all and would welcome it. Myself, for example, I love when people I have or havent seen come up to me and ask me where/when they have seen me before, it lets me know that I am easily recognizable and Im getting my job done in getting myself out there and noticed. But I could foresee perhaps that some may be uptight and even offended by this... so I would say its your call... take the initiative, see what happens you never know....
As a general rule, I would say never approach a lady (or gentleman for that matter) in a public setting - you've no idea who she is with or meeting. Since you say you "often see at TER"... I would suggest putting yourself directly in her line of sight, when she makes eye contact with you give her a slight nod, then give her a moment to register where she is recognizing you from... then leave it up to her. You've opened the door, if she is willing or able, let her come to you to talk. Discretion is of utmost import on both sides of this hobby. Do unto others...
my $.02
~J
This has happened to me twice and both times the provider initiated contact. The first was at a fast food restaurant in her area with my foster daughter along and she said my name and came up and hugged me, thank goodness I did work in the area and played it off to my 13 year old very interestd foster daughter but did have to elaborate once I got home. The second was very cool, as my wife and I were standing in line at a county fair I felt a breast rub against my back, not once but a few times before it was pressed rather firmly in the middle of my back. As I turned to look it was a girl I'd been seeing with I guessed to be her son, she winked at me and then pinched my ass ! Needless to say the next time I saw her it was a totally hot time. I've seen a few of the ladys in public but have never approached or acknowledged them unless they do first. My thoughts are to always be a gentleman - ladies first in all aspects.
The entire reason I date via the internet escort sites is for the boundaries serial dating offers.
I have plenty of reasons that I really have no interest in men in social/public instances, family, friends, employment, studies, one too many completely crazy stalkers that have made me totally wary of anyone that would approach me in public.
You never know when one of my family members or friends (or maybe a date talked me into a rare out on the town/out of town date with them) will be a couple minutes behind me because they were parking a car or stopping in the lavatory, etc. Some know about Elise but some don't. Either way none of them need to be confronted by a "fan".
Things will change when they change, but until then, while I'm a serial dater, if you want to approach me, I've got a web advertisement, and pretty explicit instructions on what to do if you want to date me.
Unless it's here on the board. I enjoy the heck out of these exchanges!!
xoxo
Elise
I think you in general you should not approach the provider. And if you do approach the provider extreme discretion should be used. In other words the first thing out of your mouth should not be about TER.
Having said the above I think there are probably two different situations. One scenario involves seeing a lady you have already met. The other scenario involves seeing a lady that you have not met but recognize from the internet. Jordan seemed to have a good way to approach the first scenario and FF seemed to have a good way to approach the second scenario. The second scenario is probably easier in some respects because you can probably arrange a seat in the waiting room close to the lady and strike up a conversation. In that type os situation you will at worst be viewed as another horny guy trying to hit on a hot looking lady. In the first scenario the lady might get extremely nervous if she saw you approaching her general area and she was with somebody else.