is this someone you can trust to be discreet or someone who will make your life Hell on Earth if you cut it off a second time. I got a similar call and, based on the psychotic episode that ended the relationship last time, decided to forego the carnal pleasures that awaited. It's a damned shame too because she was great in the sack and I would love to find a regular girlfriend who could be a FB. I'd save a bundle. Trust your instincts.
Just had a call from a former lover (about 20 years hence).
She was calling to renew contacts and to relive good times from the past.
In the conversations, she made it clear that recreational sex was definitely on the menu if I was interested.
She and I are both attached (to other's mind you) but we use to burn up the sheets on a regular basis as best friends (with definite benefits) during college and at our first place of employment.
Seeking opinions and insight into how it has been for folks in my situation. Did it work out or not?
BTW, not only is she still in great shape (definitely), she wants to explore MMF and MFF as part of the mix (new for both of us).
Loarthan
PS: no, this is not an ego post, I really am interested in feedback before I tarry forth.
Been in a similar situation. A few years ago, my now ex-wife and I legally separated. We continued to see each other and have sex for about 6 months after our legal separation. Obviously, feelings were still there and the sex was always great. We both felt very comfortable with each other.
However, after a period of time (6 months I mentioned) I called a halt to it as we were not going to reconcile. I was "stuck" and couldn't move on with my life. It was a very painful period and I needed a clean break. It still took a long time after that but it is what I needed to do.
Your situation is somewhat different. It seems that the two of you know exactly what the expectations are. There appears to be no entanglements (you have to judge for yourself how you other relationships effect this). I see no problem with seeing each other.
Enjoy!
Few, if any of these situations ever work out... Had you guys stayed in touch and became real friends in the course of all that, I think you'd have a fair chance and believe me only you and her will have the last word. But in the end either your dick or her memory will cough up the real truth and if you can get past your history, then MAYBE... that's the hard part. I have found that with women period, even with an 'understanding,' sex will always be an issue... there are very few women it seems that have the attitude that most men do abd can walk away easily... and clearly if you introduce other people whether F or M and you have gasoline. Strike a match and you have a great human bonfire or a great situation. Don't you hate the 50-50 nature of things in life? Squeeze off a few, but become 'real' friends in the process. Otherwise, 6 months of regular romps and it will be another 20 years.
Weigh what you have to lose with what you have to gain.
That's classic
Id say go for it, as long as you can withstand the goodness of terrific sex without throwing in any feelings.
Especially if she is willing to try new things openmindedly
theres nothing like a brief frisky trist, and going home to your beloved and knowing none is the wiser.
I noticed you aid former lover I also noticed you didn't say friend. I have married friends (both male and females), who have been having affairs for years (10 yrs+) with other married people, and it seems to work find for everyone concerned. The one common denominator is that they were very good friends before they became lovers.
Friends know exactly what to expect out of one another, and friends never put friends in any situation in which one party or the other stands a chance of getting used or hurt. If this is the kind of relationship that you and this young lady have, then go for it. If not, you might want to put some thought into it. However, in cases like this the little head normally does the thinking.
is this someone you can trust to be discreet or someone who will make your life Hell on Earth if you cut it off a second time. I got a similar call and, based on the psychotic episode that ended the relationship last time, decided to forego the carnal pleasures that awaited. It's a damned shame too because she was great in the sack and I would love to find a regular girlfriend who could be a FB. I'd save a bundle. Trust your instincts.
Since you have this going for you both then hells-bells just enjoy.
Go for it. Just make sure you know the rules and expectations.