If you hold to your promise then your ATF sure knows how to pick her friends.
Good luck to you both
FR.
I'm not quite sure why I'm posting this, maybe just because I need to share with someone. My ATF, who I've been seeing for 2 years and have become friends with, has been diagnosed with cancer, and will be going in for surgery and chemo shortly. We spent our last time together on Friday and it got very emotional, with her crying and saying she would miss me, and me vowing to come and see her in the hospital. It really tore me up and I can't stop thinking and worrying about her (no attempt on her part to extract any kind of benefit, her tears and thoughts were very sincere). I guess I just need to let someone know how much I care for her, and am worried about her.
Are always a blessing that one is thankful for.
If you are able, just be sure to follow your words into actions and be there to support her whenever you can. It's a tough road through surgery and chemo. Good friends that stand by you through thick and thin can make a world of difference.
Good luck, many prayers, and good karma to you and your ATF that she may fully recover.
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Sedona, Well said. Yes, there are truely wonderful people on both sides of this industry. God Bless to all.
to home, or terminal, most shy away from a response because there just doesn't seem to be the words..
You didn't mention what kind of cancer, and probably can't go into detail..
I've discovered so much commonality in this 'Hobby' that I have begun to wonder if the commonality was there (among population) anyway, or just because we more openly discuss it, or it truly is relevant to this industry? I don't know..
In that respect, what I am saying is this:
Commonality in:
1) Number of players who are recovering alcoholics?
2) Number of women with 'female' cancers?
3) Number of individuals who are Bipolar?
and the list goes on..
Cancer used to be a sure death sentence. It ISN'T anymore, necessarily.
I'm SO glad you posted this. I've known a NUMBER of cancer survivors (including my own ex-husband!) and a great deal of links and places.
I'm glad you posted this because there are many OTHERS who also know cancer survivors, and links and places.
She can FIGHT it - learn and do the best she can. And we can help - in any way we can.
I'm here: PM or email me at [email protected]
God Bless.
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I'm not a regular contributor here, but I have posted a couple of reviews of very understanding and accommodating providers. For those of you who have read those reviews, you'll know that I'm trying to get my life back together after having surgery for prostate cancer last October. But I'm not interested in talking about myself. What I want to say is that cancer is a big pain in the ass but it's not the end of the world. The most important things in surviving cancer are (please forgive the cliches) take it one day at a time - have a good support system (family, friends, ATFs), and try to maintain a sense of humor even though it sounds difficult when you're the one with cancer.
I don't know who you are hiddenguy or who your provider is, but if either of you would like to contact me I'm at [email protected]. (I'm not sure if I'm breaking the rules by giving my e-mail address, but I'm new here so what the f***!)
HJ
I know, some guys just pay to play, and others of us really get involved. There's pain in this sometimes, but it's worth it.
Remember, your love and support ALONE can't save her. Her doctor, her own body, and plain damned luck are the main players. BUT, if all these other things come to a knife-edge balance, your cheering her and propping up her spirits COULD make all the difference.
My best wishes to you both.
Her will power can be a major factor in this battle.
If you hold to your promise then your ATF sure knows how to pick her friends.
Good luck to you both
FR.
As someone who has fought cancer and has it again moral support and friendship help the fight more than any Doctor or medicine can. Be there for her and don't be afraid to cry with her and for her.
PM or email me with what area she is in, and I can send you some links, and info.
Just being there, sometimes, is the best that you can give her, and all that she needs. I'm sure she's grateful to have you.
Thanks for sharing.
Again..we're here..
There is a certain provider out there who has been lying to clientele about the exact same issue. I don't know wether this is the same lady or not, I pray it isn't.
I don't know why someone would do this sort of thing to garner sympathies from unsuspecting clients possibly for financial gain. Possibly to get attention, etc. Whatever it is it is sick and it is wrong. There are really people out there with cancer and it is not something to toy with peoples emotions over.
I wish I could out the other provider, but she has quite a track record and is a local favorite. Please just be aware that at least one provider is lying about this subject and taking advantage of people. Keep your eyes open gentlemen.
I am not the only one who knows amongst the providers, but not one of us is eager to bite off what we may have to chew if we stand up against her. So like I said gents be aware. Know your medical facts and don't get suckered. I can't believe none of the gents who have seen her havn't thought with anything else and included the lies in a review of her.
I have been lucky in my pursuits with ladies. The woman I have dated are wonderful human beings and we have many things in common. It is on a personal level. We share things about our lives and it really helps. We care about each other.
As many of you know, my Mom passed away only a few months ago. Right after, I went on a date with a wonderful lady and she was so sweet and supportive. I even broke down crying during our session. She listened, held and consoled me. We stay in touch and consider each other good friends. I have several other ladies that I consider friends and we communicate often.
In addition, my Dad is currently going through a very bad period with lung and back cancer. He probably does not have much time left. So I truly feel her pain and my best wishes to her.
Re: what Sedona said about commonalities among the people that get together. In addition, to the illness in the family I am also have Bi-Polar....
I wish her well, she is my prayers and I hope you do go see her and just lend her that moral support. This is a very very lonely business to be in, so your friendship is a gift and treasured-we do not take it for granted.
Thank you for sharing-I hope you have the strength to be her support as best you can, when she will be pretty much all alone a visitor can make all the difference.
Thanks for sharing and no, no need to go to Oprah (akak Spriner show ha ha!) with your heartfelt thoughts, they are welcomed here, gladly.