That's exactly the point. It's in your thoughts, not something you do.
Misty brought up an interesting point about texting. I have now changed my mind about it. I figured I could manage the trail on my end, never get specific, and never would go blind into a situation on texts alone. BUT I recently received a couple of early AM texts from a provider I saw once over a year ago.
I was furious that a text was sitting on my phone when I woke for anyone to see - letting me know she had a nice new incall location near blah blah blah. And to come out and see her. Signed by clearly a provider or stripper sounding name. Not to mention that my text notification sound would have gone off when received (6 am) and I slept thru it. Luckily no one else was around to hear it ....because if they did I'm positive they would have wondered who was sending texts at 6 am.
I never expected that someone would use my number to send this type of promotional message. It doesn't seem right.
My fault I suppose.
A google number. You can route calls to your phone, enable or disable the number when you desire. No need to buy a prepaid or use your own personal number.
So lets you were clever to begin and had your google number disabled, the text message would sit on google's server until you enabled the google number back to your phone.
You can also contact providers through that number too.
Another option, use magic jack. 50 bucks a year and you get another number and a magic jack app so you can make calls through that number.
there are so many options, just do some research.
-sorry guys, an alias seemed like the best way to post this info
+1 on Google voice. Works great, and you can just delete the ap from your phone when you need certain discretion.
Good info on alternate contacting methods. I agree and have changed. Just wasn't expecting someone to reach out from my past like that. I was a newb then but she did have over 100+ reviews here. She's legit and been around awhile (which is another reason it seemed strange to get a random couple of texts).
*This post didn't make it the first time. I mentioned another site, oops*
Girls randomly texting people they've seen, months or even years later, to offer a special or some such?
I prefer texting over talking on the phone, it is a quick, easy way to schedule, as well as a quick, easy way for me to screen out those who think texting "BBBJ?" is appropriate, but I would never, ever consider sending out random texts to clients for any reason, that seems to be just inviting trouble for the client....shoot, I won't even text someone back if it has been over an hour because I don't want to cause the him or her any problems.
Why would anyone take this kind of risk? Texting can be avery efficient way to accomplish things, but this seems kinda stupid to me.
K
I agree, a Google voice number is a great idea. Maybe do some more research on the ladies you would like to spend time with. If you do a of their contact info, her reviews and other info will come up. If nothing comes up or you see red flags such as multiple girls using the same number, mention of illegal activities in her ads, no reviews or fake pics (etc, etc, etc), you should move on. Stay off BP and other low end sites.
In my personal opinion, I don't ever call a client unless he asks me to. I do have a few who have asked me to contact them when I'm visiting their area. With their permission, I send them ONE message only with my visiting info and that's it. If I'm not asked to contact you, I simply don't.
Do your homework, be careful and good luck!!
Also leave it on vibrate and leave the ringer off!
So that won't happen again.
It does not cost much to buy a second phone for this hobby.
If you don't want your family or friends to know what is going on.
I was furious that a text was sitting on my phone when I woke for anyone to see - letting me know she had a nice new incall location near blah blah blah. And to come out and see her. Signed by clearly a provider or stripper sounding name. Not to mention that my text notification sound would have gone off when received (6 am) and I slept thru it. Luckily no one else was around to hear it ....because if they did I'm positive they would have wondered who was sending texts at 6 am.
I never expected that someone would use my number to send this type of promotional message. It doesn't seem right.
My fault I suppose.
2 cent lecture:
First: If you hobby using your regular phone you are a fool. If you leave don't have a timed, passworded lockout on that phone you are a bigger fool. If you leave that phone setting out, you are the biggest fool.
Second: You are whining. If you hobby without preplanned, plausible deniability, you...
OK, this one is easy:
Someone asks "who texted". You delete it saying "It was some spam thing"
Someone reads it and says "What is this?!" You look at, slowly linger, then read it out loud slowly like it makes no sense and you say "It must be some kind of spam... But what does it even mean?" Then you look again say "Huh" delete it, look disinterested, say "weird" and change the subject.
etc etc.
But as to this subject specific situation. I believe you got one text, not a couple. I got it too. I'm looking at it now. Yeah, it's not normal to be contacted by a provider. Yeah, it's an unwritten rule to not do it. But I understand why this was done in this specific case. There were reasons.
For me, I was glad to get the text under the circumstances.
Pretty uncalled for post so I can see why you hide. No worries. For the record, since you called me a liar, it was two texts about a week apart. Sheesh. I wasn't expecting texts from a person I saw once, 16 months ago. I see no respectable reason to send those texts whatever the "reasons". I'm sure she had her reasons and it makes me all warm inside that you are glad to get those texts.
First: If you hobby using your regular phone you are a fool. If you leave don't have a timed, passworded lockout on that phone you are a bigger fool. If you leave that phone setting out, you are the biggest fool.
Second: You are whining. If you hobby without preplanned, plausible deniability, you...
OK, this one is easy:
Someone asks "who texted". You delete it saying "It was some spam thing"
Someone reads it and says "What is this?!" You look at, slowly linger, then read it out loud slowly like it makes no sense and you say "It must be some kind of spam... But what does it even mean?" Then you look again say "Huh" delete it, look disinterested, say "weird" and change the subject.
etc etc.
But as to this subject specific situation. I believe you got one text, not a couple. I got it too. I'm looking at it now. Yeah, it's not normal to be contacted by a provider. Yeah, it's an unwritten rule to not do it. But I understand why this was done in this specific case. There were reasons.
For me, I was glad to get the text under the circumstances.
...didn't call you a liar
...didn't say you should feel differently than you do
...didn't defend the provider's actions
I said that if you hobby without standard precautions, you are a fool. I said that you are whining if problems arise in that area and you are unprepared. If that was too harsh, well...
...and what the hell does "I can see why you hide" mean???
You directly called me a fool and a whiner. And indirectly called me a liar and defended the provider's actions. I cannot help it if you do not understand what you wrote.
It's apparent from your posts to me and all of your others I've seen (sadly) on the boards, you have a need to be seen and feel important/superior. I get it. It's ok. We all have needs and it's why many of us are on TER. I am sorry that don't feel confident enough to not use an alias.
...didn't say you should feel differently than you do
...didn't defend the provider's actions
I said that if you hobby without standard precautions, you are a fool. I said that you are whining if problems arise in that area and you are unprepared. If that was too harsh, well...
...and what the hell does "I can see why you hide" mean???
Nice to hear someone else brave enough to speak out against such behavior.
XoXo
Caramel
Now, if you would like to have a discussion face to face, them PM me, we'll exchange emails and get in contact with each other.
I do believe you are the one who just requested a fellow board member meet you at the playground at 3p.m. for an ass beating (like a grade school bully). All because you didn't like his OPINION of you. What is the definition of bully in your delusional world??
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..that the bully just said being called a bully is ironic shortly before trying to bully someone using textbook grade school bully techniques.
I'm glad I'm not the only one seeing it. And I believe delusional is the appropriate word.
Now, if you would like to have a discussion face to face, them PM me, we'll exchange emails and get in contact with each other.
I do believe you are the one who just requested a fellow board member meet you at the playground at 3p.m. for an ass beating (like a grade school bully). All because you didn't like his OPINION of you. What is the definition of bully in your delusional world??
-- Modified on 3/13/2015 10:21:48 AM
You think a face-to-face discussion is a euphemism for a fight? /eyerolls There is something genuinely wrong with your thinking processes.
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And you too think a face-to-face discussion is a euphemism for a fight? Your reputation as a drama queen precedes you. You know that right?
"I cannot help it if you do not understand what you wrote." ... there are no words for such stupidity.
I admitted calling you a fool IF you don't take the right precautions, and a whiner IF such foolishness leads to trouble. Yes. Yes. Yes. And I stand by that. Saying that nothing to so with "superiority". I'm amazed that a man is so butt hurt by those statements. They would not bother me.
"And indirectly called me a liar and defended the provider's actions. " That's what you infer, not what I implied.
LIAR: You could have made a genuine mistake or recalled incorrectly. I said I didn't believe you. Your thinking is defensive and myopic if you believe the only conclusion is that you are a liar. (Oh no, did I just insult you again?)
DEFENDING: I said I understand why she did it, as in literally "I understand why" because I am privy to certain knowledge you aren't, NOT as in "I'm an her side... I get it... I think she was justified"
and "alias"... drop your whiny posturing. All handles are aliases. If you knew my login handle it would tell you nothing
I stand by my statement. You clearly do not understand the meaning of the words that you are writing. Your logic is flawed in your responses to me. You'll have to figure it out for yourself. I do not have the time to handhold you through it.
And then there's the NEED to seem whitty and be aggressive. What a wonderful combination for all of us to enjoy.
Your comments about your alias proves my point, again. How can you not understand the difference between posting under an alias or your TER Handle? We already know you hide behind your alias and take shots at other people. (You know the difference. It's ok to keep hiding but please just grow a pair and admit it already. Sheesh. It's embarrassing.) But if you used your TER handle, then I could see your reviews.....with whom, when, how many reviews, what you write in those reviews. This IS a review site after all.
More importantly, providers could know so much more.
I admitted calling you a fool IF you don't take the right precautions, and a whiner IF such foolishness leads to trouble. Yes. Yes. Yes. And I stand by that. Saying that nothing to so with "superiority". I'm amazed that a man is so butt hurt by those statements. They would not bother me.
"And indirectly called me a liar and defended the provider's actions. " That's what you infer, not what I implied.
LIAR: You could have made a genuine mistake or recalled incorrectly. I said I didn't believe you. Your thinking is defensive and myopic if you believe the only conclusion is that you are a liar. (Oh no, did I just insult you again?)
DEFENDING: I said I understand why she did it, as in literally "I understand why" because I am privy to certain knowledge you aren't, NOT as in "I'm an her side... I get it... I think she was justified"
and "alias"... drop your whiny posturing. All handles are aliases. If you knew my login handle it would tell you nothing.
I don't respond to being baited, so say what you will. Your opinions are fine, they are yours and they do not bother me. It's surprising that my opinion have had the sort of impact on you that they have.
Now, if you would like to have a discussion face to face, them PM me, we'll exchange emails and get in contact with each other.
You know how that reads, right? You have fully resorted to the person I thought you were. We're done.
And for the guys saying get a 2nd phone - don't forget what happened when Skyler found Walt's 2nd phone.
That was a general concept of deception and redirection, spoken, by the way, from successful experience. Practiced, skilled and lot's of it.
And... are you actually using a TV show plot line as a basis for advice about a hobby phone?
Really?
Guaranteed, there was suspicion - maybe subconscious, but it was there. It will be remembered given the right trigger.
Whatever, I don't fuck around when I'm in a relationship, so this is all academic to me.
That's exactly the point. It's in your thoughts, not something you do.
I have not seen this client in almost 2 years, and he still texts me it is disrespectful. I have an SO & a family. I would not text you without permission
That is so bizarre. I could never imagine just texting somebody out of the blue like that, letting them know I'm at a new location. I would assume it would just be common sense, since not every client has a hobby phone, but I guess not every provider has common sense. I mean, don't get me wrong, I do have a few select clients I will e-mail or text message out of the blue to say hello, and ask how they're doing but these are men who have made it VERY clear that it's okay to do so. I don't just go scrolling through phone numbers and start texting away... if she was promotion, she needs to turn to the ad boards. Sheesh.
You're right. Sadly, from stories I hear from lady friends I think even a greater percentage of clients have no common sense.
I received text messages from two different providers a few weeks ago. They may have been on the same day, but I don't think there was any connection between the two. One was from a provider that I saw over two years ago; she must have been aggressively pursuing appointments! The other one was from a provider that I had contacted several weeks earlier but had not seen her.
Maybe unsolicited texting to past contacts is viewed by some providers as being convenient or unobtrusive