I think any phone number you give out should have exclusive access to yourself only, and password protected voicemail.
The anonymous prepay phones for 50 bucks at 7-11's and elsewhere are ideal and have been discussed here a few times.
Personally, I never have a problem with a lady calling me. (:
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I had this issue happen to me a while ago.
To me there are two different types of phone communication (with the lady initiating it).
1. Calls that are encouraged and welcomed from the ladies I have made friends with and enjoy staying in contact with. I certainly don't want to discourage those...so there is no confusion about my issue here. Please call me...you know who you are!!!!
2. Unsolicited calls from ladies trying to drum up business. As I mentioned I had this issue come up some time ago with a lady. She moved away from the area and has recently come back. She called the other day and left a message to let me know her new phone number and that "she would love to see me and missed me." I am single so the message on my machine was no big deal. I did call her back the following day and didn't speak with her but did leave a message that it was nice to hear from her and letting me know her new phone number. I also told her I couldn't see her now and WOULD CALL HER when I could.
Hopefully that is the end of it. It became a real problem in the past with her repeated calls.
Anyone care to weigh in. I hope you will share your thoughts with us Sedona. You are the voice of reason.
Thanks!
Unsolicited phone calls from ladies you have not developed a friendship with are, in my opinion, totally unacceptable. She should only call you if you make it clear that it is OK for her to do so.
I have never called anybody out of the blue like that. In fact I know I have missed out on bookings by not leaving voicemails messages etc but I don't want to cause any problems by leaving messages when I don't know the the circumstances of the person I'm calling.
I can understand that providers who are having a quiet time may want to try and drum up business but calling out of the blue is just going make guys more reluctant to give out personal details and makes screening more problematic.
Basically, it's just not on.
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that it is not acceptable, and yet, on the other hand, I know ladies who are able to do this successfully - meaning they don't seem to annoy the guys by doing this, and they have succeeded in picking up some business.
Maybe it's how it's done - what she says and how she says it that works, I don't know.
I would error on the side of caution and simply NOT. I HAVE, however, sent a few emails (sent to myself and BCC the recipients) that I make very clear is JUST an FYI - stating that I have an incall special, or new pager number, etc. etc.
and feel that IF ladies were wanting to generate business, AT LEAST EMAIL can be read at their discretion (versus the intrusion of a phone call).
While at times we remember that this is a 'business', it is also a very personal interaction and need to refer to common dating-type 'rules'. I think it works much better for the lady to be pursued than to do her own hunt and chase, and I think the guys prefer it that way, too. So, while the Sales Dept. of a corporation might get on the phone and make cold calls when business is slow, I don't think that is a good rule in this business.
Just what we need - guys to head for the hills and be LESS comfortable in giving out their information!
All good things come to those who wait and we ladies have to be patient and get through the slow times, or offer specials. But certainly, no 'soliciting'!
I think any phone number you give out should have exclusive access to yourself only, and password protected voicemail.
The anonymous prepay phones for 50 bucks at 7-11's and elsewhere are ideal and have been discussed here a few times.
Personally, I never have a problem with a lady calling me. (:
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"Personally, I never have a problem with a lady calling me. (: "
I'm single and live alone, so I didn't mind this lady I was seeing about 18 months ago calling me. If I had an SO, it would be a different story.
Because guys will not leave a message then later they call and say didn't you see my # on caller ID. I say you should have left a message because unless they say you Can call me back I WILL NOT. I respect them and ladies that call to get bussiness, I just say STOP it. If you can't make it in the biz with just the guys calling you, then find a part time job.
This just happened to me from an out of state provider. When I asked her how she gotten my number she gave me a name of a provider I had never seen. Told her I knew who she had gotten the number from ( I did, only one provider in that town that I had given my number to and allowed to call me privately) and to not call again and that I was more than capable of making my own friends.
Most providers have explicit intructions on their voicemail like "if you want me to call back leave me the best time to call." This shows respect for the guys and class on the part of the provider. As Sedona said, cold calls don't work in this industry. It isn't that kind of sales ladies.
Something similar happened to me once. I had been trying to set an appointment and we had scheduling issues over a period of a couple of weeks. One morning I turned my cell phone on as I was headed to work and it indicated I had a voice message. She had called my cell phone at 3:30 A.M. the night before!! Thank goodness, I had it turned off while charging...(usually it's on overnight!) or there would have been hell to pay! I was totally stunned that someone would call at that time of night, especially since they had no idea of my personal situation. Whatever happened to common sense and discretion??
As a hobbyist with a SO, I received a cell call from a provider I had seen only once (and was not planning on seeing again -- nothing wrong with the lady, just not my repeat type).
Anyway, I told her it was inappropriate to call and she seemed to understand. When she called two more time, leaving messages, and then a third, getting me in a meeting, I called back, made an appointment and then was a no show.....
Now, I no that was a shitty thing to do, but three calls in which I asked her not to call was my limit....
She has not called since. EOM. Bob