I;ve already redefined the term "flat broke" twice during my life. I don't need to do it again.
And she knows you have some sort of regular routine? Or does she just waits for you to call and show up again?
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it was the night after our date and she had my phone number. I'm under the impression she doesn't keep them. I want her to keep mine. I want her to call me and tell me she's okay. I want my phone number to become part of her tatoo pattern so she'll always have it at her side.
Otherwise providers haven't called me. But I've haven't visited a lady more than twice yet so maybe that's it.
I;ve already redefined the term "flat broke" twice during my life. I don't need to do it again.
She has my private work number and calls every once in a while to check in and say hi if we haven't seen each other for a while.
We try to stay in contact every week or so between dates, which are about once a month.
As I have stated before, I don't have a problem with my ladies keeping in touch with me.
Just my opiniuon...
B
Ok, so I've been seeing my ATF every week for the last 2 months. Then, I said I was going to stop seeing her for a while cuz I'm going to go on vacation with my SO. Of course, vacations cost money. Anyway, after 2 weeks - when she did call and left a message "how was your vacation?". Oh God! I went to see if there were new reviews of her .. NO, none, nada. So you know what I'm thinkin.
With all due respect to you and your ATF, unless you have EXPLICITLY told her that it's ok for her to call you whenever she likes, she's way off base here.
You're not unattached, all her calls can do is make your life a living hell if the wrong people find out. Is that call worth everything you've worked for(or at least half of it?)
It's just unprofessional, and something that needs to be looked at and addressed in my opinion.
Normally they do not call you. There can be a number of reasons:
1. It's sort of unseemly for them to do so.There are some vague legal issues here too.
2. If the hobbyist is married or living with someone (80-90% are like this), then the chances of the guy getting found out negates the benefits.
3. Just too busy.
I had one of my ATFs call me out of the blue. I had told her we would not be getting together because I was going out of town that weekend. In fact I was going out of town with an old flame. That Saturday night the ATF called! I was lucky my flame was downstairs shopping when she rang.
I have a few clients that see me sorta regularly, and by that I mean it is not every week, or other week that anyone see's me. But a few of these guy's that have given me their numbers and have told me to call I will. Not for the reason I am looking for an appointment, but for the very reason that I am genuinely concerned that these men (my clients) are some times more than just that, I feel them to be friends in many ways. And I do cheerish the friends I have. Sometimes when patterns are broken, there are very real reasons for that (IE: being sick, haveing a bad go at something, or even worse a death or something in the family). I personaly know that I like it when a friend calls me after not hearing from them in a while, and it makes me feel even better knowing that they care about my well being.
Now if I know a guy is married, or has a SO, FULL Discretion is in order, and I would NEVER call him unless he had given me permision to do it in the first place. There are many times I do so hope that the men will not take it as a sales call, but as the genuine concern that I have for their safety and well being? I just feel that for me this job (hobby) is sometimes way more than just sex. Any time people are intamate with each other there is a bond, and even if that is only for a stolen moment, it is a bond none the less. And the "regulars ATFs" sometimes have a stronger bond due to the many times we share in each others ways.
Well that's my outlook on this whole subject?
Cheers!
Kyliesd x0x0x
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"Anytime people are intimate with each other, there is a bond...even if it is only for a stolen moment, it is a bond, nonetheless"
Amen, Kylie...and pardon my alterations. That is just too true of a sentiment for it not to be repeated, at least for those of us who feel life deeply and passionately.
It is easy for the ladies I know to call me, as I am single and like to talk (not that any of you have noticed 
, but each situation, just like each provider, is different. Some I would never hear from unless I contacted them. Some, I hear from with regularity. Some are even kind enough to talk to me before I have even seen them professionally. However, it is always at her discretion, and I have NEVER talked with someone who would not be discreet with her clients and call if she didn't feel that there was an open invitation to do so. I would imagine that would apply to almost all of the providers on TER.
I am not single, but I am in a "don't ask, don't tell" sort of relationship. Still, the ladies whom I know well have a standing invitiation to call me whenever. My cell is always discrete - it's set on 'no ring' whenever I am at home or in a position where I would not be comfortable talking.
And, yes, I do enjoy hearing from the ladies with whom I have an ongoing "relationship" of one form or another.
But as MrSelfDestruct sagely noted - each situation is different.
I enjoy someone calling or e-mailing me just to say hello. I also do the same, providing that they don't mind.
My situation is such that I am able to do it, single and live alone.
That is what would make you an ATF in my book.
I know I like to keep up with "my ladies" and they like to keep up with me.
I only see a few, certain ladies and everyone of them is very special to me. We create a bond that goes beyond the "business" into a friendship.
We keep in touch and look out for each other.
If we haven't heard from each other for a while, a week or 2, we initiate contact just to make sure things are ok.
I do that with any of my friends, just because I "hobby" with some, doesn't mean I treat them any different.
Just my opinion...
B
that would be very nice for me. Being single, and sometimes very lonley, I would enjoy a email, a call....just to say hi, and talk. But I have not yet found a provider that will do that for me. It would be a really nice, kind thing to do, and very much enjoyed.....
I'll try and call her tomorrow and chat to see what's up. I hope it's the Kyliesd warmth and love version 
She sometimes doesn't even return my calls even though I've seen her almost every week for years.
Just the nature of the lady.
I accept it.
Mine call on a regular basis and especially if I have not made that weekly call in a while. Would not want to miss a payday.
I ran into some tight financial times and couldn't see her as regularly I had been doing for over a year. I called her once to say I missed her and she told me to call only when I was ready to schedule an appointment.
I wonder if Cynicalman knows this lady?