to please the client.  It IS all about you.  If you are one of MANY who seriously enjoys DATY, that's fine.  Let's not think that it still isn't about what you want.  So, you can just lay there and do nothing if you want.  However, if there's no connection and flow of personalities, it's going to be difficult for a lady to want to see you again.  

This may seem obvious, but it's not ok to think that gives you free reign to be rude.  Some guys think they can call me names (very few do, actually), and that may be sexy to them, but it's not ok with me if we have not discussed that.  

Communicate your desires!

Trinity