You Could Always Try the Old Ram & Scram Ploy

... but that might not quite have the long term affects you are looking for.

The best technique is an honest and frank discussion in a non-sexual setting.  If it gets a warm reception, you are off to the races ASAP.  If she is totally against it, you aren't putting her in a frightening setting and things can settle out before you end up in bed.

Look, it's her butt, she should always have the option to say yes or no without the pressure.

Besides, who knows, maybe she has been waiting for you to ask for the deed, you big stud you!

Just my opinion and I could be wrong.
Loarthan

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You just start doing it.

I don't mean plow right in. I mean just start incorporating anal play into your sex life. Start by touching. Then, if that went well, the next time you're getting it on try some gentle probing. With a little dirty talk you may discover she is turned on by the idea.

The point is: Get her to associate her ass with great sex, and she'll be the one asking for it.

I take it there hasn't been much in the way of anal play going on as of yet?  Correct?  (no rimming or fingering there?)
It would make the discussion easier to address...

If not I'd just ask.  Or maybe ask in stages: ie, ask if it turns her on to have a wet finger tickling around down there?  Does it turn you on to have a tongue dancing around down there?
"Does it turn you on" is the key phrase here,  Not "I would like to..."
But a non-sexual setting is good for this kinda talk...
Wine is good for this kinda talk....
(condoms in the drawer are good for this kinda talk if all goes well!)
 good luck.

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it kinda depends on your GF.  I think that a "talk" in a non-sexual scenario can work for some women, but some women I would think might be "embarassed" at having a "frank" talk about anal sex if they are outside of the bedroom.

"Honey, did you take the trash out?"

"Sure did, babe.  Hey, speaking of which..."

Having said that, JP's scenario is good, but I have had GF's who would have prefered something else, like as you are lying together and kissing and stuff, maybe telling them a sexy fantasy story and putting it in nice terms and not putting them on the spot about how they "really" feel about it right when you two are being intimate.  Kind of a cross between JP's and Lo's methods.

You know your GF best.  Good luck, and respect her wishes.  

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already had a an intimate love-making session and you are now holding her gently in your arms. Ask her if she'd like to try something different. Tell her you want to be the best lover for her and give her everything she desires in bed. That way, it will look more like you're trying to please her instead of saying, "Hey, babe, let's do anal!"  Yikes and wink!

Hugs,
Ciara

I would think one would want to think first about how openly you and your gf are able to talk about sex in general, if you are both comfortable in doing so be it in bed on phone or over dinner maybe just bring up the subject in a have you ever ........ and include a variety of interests, etc., including greek . or you could alternatively if she is not as comfortable yet talking of such matters first try to help her start talking more of what feels good in areas you have already been and work to that question once she (and if need be you) feel more comfortable about talking about sexuality, activities etc. I defiantly do not think a hey lets do in the heat of moment would be the best approach and lean more towards the idea of being open in communicating maybe at first about past experiences, then fantasies, (with the idea that both understand that for each of us when it comes to fantasy there are some whom we would want to at some time fulfill but others are only for in the mind of he or she who fantasizes) and of course what would you like to try that you have not done before. you may be surprised either good or bad. also what is off limits and either way accept what she is willing or unwilling to do and know that each of us change over time though that may or not happen on this subject

have you heard his routine about this subject?

"uh, honey, i was wondering... some of the guys were talking about it, and, uh, i was wondering... could i, maybe, sometime, uh... use the back door?"
  she said "sure, you can use the back door. you can use the front door, whatever you want. just get the hell out of here and stay away from my ass".
  then, the next time we were in bed together, she said to me "you still want to try the back door?"
  i said, "sure i do!"
  so she whips out this big dildo she just bought and says, "okay, but i'm gonna do you first!"
  next thing i know she flips me over and starts ramming that thing into me: "here you go! is THIS (ow) what you WANTED (oww) to DO (OUCH) to ME(OW! OW! OW! Take it out of the BOX first!)

seriously - work your way up to it. when you daty, use your mouth and fingers to tease and please her back door as well. go slow, be gentle and smooth, use plenty of lubricant, and don't go ramming anything in there unexpectedly. she'll let you know whether she likes it or not. and if she does, you can pop the question

Just play some Doors and ask if maybe you could try being her back door man.

IF she wanted it in the ass she probably would have already asked you for it.