I know that this is a bit like feeding the troll, but I am genuinely curious how you think that "Just get yer dick in there!!" is taking the pressure off?
And, seriously, he's not getting it anytime soon "so he should see a provider"?
Sex doesn't fix everything, and we are most certainly not in the business of trying to fuck someone's troubles away. That doesn't happen. Can sexual experience help build ones confidence? Sure. But it is not the end all and be all that you're trying to make it out to be.
There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, just like there's nothing wrong with seeing a provider every day of the week. It's about what's right for each individual. You can disrespect the people in this thread all you want, but that is not going to change. The OP is clearly looking to be comfortable during his encounter, so why go so far to insist he do anything but?
Posted By: Zangari I've read the OP's first post three times now, and there's a lot of pain there. I don't envy what he's gone through. I'm glad he's dealing with these issues openly & honestly. And he's still young--it's a very positive sign that he's addressing these issues at age 25 rather than at age 45.
Nothing would be better if his first sexual experience was with a girl who loved him. But based on what he's written, that's not happening any time soon. So he should see a provider. But let's not make his first session a make-or-break session. He doesn't need that pressure. Even an experienced gent can have a bad session, despite screening & reading reviews. After the OP has had a few successful sessions, he'll have more confidence in himself. And then he's much more likely to find a girlfriend. --z
Posted By: USUfan I actually think this guy has his head on straight. Like all of us, he has his issues, or is London issue free? I actually envy this guy. He's younger than me and due to his line of work, he also probably has a heck of a lot more money to spend, and because of that, he could have some sessions with some first class providers.