As you can see by my review I've been around TER since 2001 and I'm AA. I've given up, for the most part, on commenting on the "Racism" subject. IMHO there is no such thing as "Racism" in the hobby. For one, the "transaction" is too intimate to even consider Racism. I don't want to see anyone who does not want to see me because I'm AA or ANY OTHER reason (my feet too big, my eyes too brown, etc, etc, etc.) I welcome and encourage ladies to state their preferences...WHATEVER they are! This saves me a whole bunch of time and I keep it moving! And it's also been my experience that for every 1 lady who does not see AA men there are 6+ who do and welcome them. During our allotted time I want balls to the wall freedom of sexual expression. Hence, whatever you're comfort zone/s are let it be known and I'll adjust accordingly. The Hobby world is totally different then which water fountain I can drink out of and what restaurants I can eat at. If I ever see a sign for "colored," "white," at the restroom I'm gonna blow that shyt up. When I see a sign by a provider that says "white only" I say thank you!
Secondly, Race/nationality/ethnicity notwithstanding we all have preferences. Some prefer blondes vs. brunettes, some prefer dark skin vs fair skin; and the preferences go on and on and on. In the hobby world and/or intimate "transactions" our preferences are heightened IMHO, at least more so on the client side. Providers, for the most part, accept clients based on "trust" and safety. I have never been asked what are my measurements? do I have a beer belly i.e. questions based on the providers preferences in male physical appearance. But I digress you get my point. The point of this post is to respond to a comment made on the thread about why ladies don't see AA men and one of the respondents made the point that the majority of us have failed statistics. With that I had to provide this counter. Statistics are many times interpreted based on our own biases. Hence I offer this article as food for thoughtwell done.
But I still see it as racist, and I'm offended at a visceral level- like, for real, you'll get with anybody but black people? However, I get a little giggle when the "No AA" crowd is in Capital Heights, or a similar location
I think this is well written. I do think these women can do what they want and see who they want. But that doesn't mean they aren't bigots. Which is fine, there are plenty of bigots out there, let's just call it what it is.
And the sad thing is, I think that most of the people who defend these women on the boards would be outraged if a provider dismissed them out of hand because of some characteristic they couldn't change. Most people just don't have to deal with it.
/eom.
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I do not know what it is to be African-American. However, I do know what it is like to be shunned out of fear and ignorance. Here is some irony for you. In the neighborhood I live in, I am shunned by my white neighbors, but my AA neighbors will say hello and have small talk with me. Go figure.
On a lighter note, this is why I love science fiction that makes me think. In the Star Trek episode "Let that be your last battleground", the two antagonists came from the same planet, but were in a blood feud, because one was black on the left side of his body and white on the right side, and the other was completely the opposite. Their whole civilization was being destroyed because of the difference in the coloration of their skin. Science fiction allows me to view a sensitive issue like racism from a neutral third party perspective.
I commend you on your post on racism and preferences when it comes to the hobby. I also agree with your view on statistics, as stats can be twisted 180 to support most any dogma.
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Look, that gawker video is awfully cute, but it not a statistic. And the fact is, the naughty white surfer boys in that video are causing minor property damage (some porta potties) not burning and looting and certainly not shooting each other.
A statistic that you can interpret however you want is that black men commit about 8x more murder and rape per capita as all other races combined in the US. That's more than 10x the rate of white men. For context, men commit violent crime at about 10x the rate of women. The STD infection rates follow a similar pattern as the violent crime stats.
The differences between races are not merely aesthetic like Dr Zeus Sneeches or Star Trek black white halves. And those differences mean a women is taking on far far more real risk of physical harm by seeing AA men. Does that mean all AA's are criminal and all YT's angels? No, but if a given car brand had 10x more chance of killing you in an accident, nobody would call you irrational for choosing NOT to purchase or rent that brand
The discussion is moot. You'll never change my thinking and I'll never change yours. However, a slight move to reality based on facts and the realities of the past and present and NOT based on HIS-story but THE-story may help enlighten your thinking...............some.
I will not go into a lengthy discussion on the topic. I will only offer the following articles and information sources that may inform any future comments you may have on the subject. With that said, I saw the ad of the sexy little white lady who sent me the following message excerpt.
OK, lets do away with the cuteness!! Who perpetrated and got arrested for this crime?!?! No one!!! = "Well into the twentieth century lynchings of blacks in the southern United States were not only common but were social events where white families would bring the children and a picnic lunch, and take pictures of the hanging, to be made into commemorative postcards. On average, an African American man, woman, or child was hanged, generally by a white mob, once a week, every week between 1882 and 1930, as police actively participated or stood by and condoned the murders."
Fast forward to today:
- Tim Wise (An Excellent and Primary source for you)....."Race, Crime and Statistical Malpractice"
Other Sources:
- Whites Commit more crimes than Blacks - FBI SAYS!!
http://www.ethicsdaily.com/whites-commit-more-crimes-than-blacks-fbi-says-cms-6384
- White People Commit most Heinous crimes so why is America terrified of Black Men?
http://www.alternet.org/books/white-people-commit-most-heinous-crimes-so-why-america-terrified-black-men
- Black-on-Black Crime: Exposing the Myth
http://www.theroot.com/articles/culture/2013/07/black_on_black_crime_exposing_the_myth.html
After you complete your reading assignment go and get laid my friend....ROFLMAO