I agree, what state you live in matters. Here in WI, the only type of divorce you can get is a 'No faults divorce'. Meaning there does not have to be a reason, & even if there is one, it doesn't matter to the judge & he doesn't want to hear it. Nothing you did matters in a divorce preceding here in WI.. shoot, my dad was LIVING with his new girlfriend during the divorce, & it didn't matter. My divorce, I had so much on my ex, but again, did not matter.