I'm a 26 year old straight male with a very healthy sexual appetite. I am very, very sexually aroused by anything that's "wrong" or that could get me in trouble. I know this sounds strange, but I get a feeling of sexual arousal that is much more intense than traditional sexual stimulation when I'm in a situation that is taboo or in which I could be punished.
Let me give an example. Last week, I was trying to get back to work after lunch, and I was running late. Really late. I HAD to get back to work or my boss would really be mad. When I was coming in the door to my work, I was overcome by a feeling of sexual energy--kind of a warmth. I hadn't been looking at porn or even thinking about sex...all I knew was that I would get in a ton of trouble if I were late. I had to masturbate right then and there. I ducked into the bathroom, and in a trance like state started jerking off. It didn't take long before I finished, but the whole time, I wasn't even thinking about anything sexual...just repeating in my head, "This is wrong, I shouldn't be doing this...This is wrong, I shouldn't be doing this." My heart was racing, and I finished quickly.
So, my question is: Is this feeling of sexual arousal common? Is this a fetish of some kind? I really apologize as this post is random and disjointed. Any response is greatly appreciated!
Dear jtastl,
Let's set the record straight, once and for all: What you have described is COMPLETELY NORMAL. Utterly so. In support of this statement, I urge you to go to your nearest library and borrow (or purchase) Jack Morin's book "The Erotic Mind." He will explain it all to you.
Now here's my clinical/professional take on it: That which is forbidden in any way, shape or form, becomes linked to stress and subsequent arousal. Sometimes, this arousal can become sexual, and therefore linked to physical/sexual sensation. It is NORMAL and VERY COMMON. This is also why any behavior or item can become fetishized. Now, since you are not describing any specific item or behavior inherent in the situation (simply running late and getting sexually aroused from knowing that you "mustn't" be late cannot be classified as a "fetish" per se), we can't call your overall pattern a fetish.
Also, your age has something to do with it. You have a "healthy sexual appetite?" Good for you! At this lifestage of the game, you have a healthy testosterone count which is related to generating many sexual/erotic thoughts and ensuing feelings. Again, this is NORMAL.
I wouldn't spend any more time worrying about this at all. You just go ahead and get all sexed up over "forbidden" things; as long as no one gets hurt or refuses to give consent, you're in the green. Enjoy the "naughtiness feelings" and your healthy youth while they last. One day you'll have a wife, kids and a mountain of bills, just like the rest of us older folks...
Aah...sex drive...thoughts...awesome!
the Love Goddess
Sounds like you have great potential to be a enthusiastic participant in public sex!