I have had a lot of sex without paying for it, very rarely did love have anything to do with it.
When a SB or a hooker offers to see me without payment I don't leap to the conclusion that she is in love with me or ever will be, I simply say yes and enjoy the moment.My first successful arrangement began in August. We have seen each other twice per month for amazing 2-3 hour sexual romps...we are a good match in bed. We will occassionally have dinner after and, on occasion, will simply meet out for drinks or dinner. It works for both of us. Then tonight....she tells me she loves me. Just fucking great...she goes and ruins a good thing. Now, I need to find a way to salvage this, or cut her loose. A damn shame
Oh come on Coach, that one is an easy fix:
Just share your TER identity with her and let her read your reviews on your iPad while in bed next time taking a break for cup # 2! LOLz...
Its a fine line we play in sugarland. You want companionship, sex and good times yet the freedom not to deal with feelings. It goes both ways but if you are the daddy you usually have more to lose if it goes south.
I've had, and still have, arrangements where we tell each other "I love you" all the time. We mean it too, just not in the clingy, possessive, I want you to leave your spouse and marry me, kind of way. Don't rush to cut her loose. Talk to her about her feelings and ask her about what the word love means to her in this case. Tell her you love the wonderful arrangement you have and want to make sure you both continue to respect each others boundaries. Tell her that her use of the L word is a scary trigger for you. Just be open and communicate. You may well find that this brings you even closer together.
Or say I Like you too. Then mention the financial catastrophe that makes any more sugar impossible.
I think you may have given me the words...
...Thank you 
I think I did mumble a version of that
I just opened a text from her... "Are you ok?" I feel like writing back "I'm great...my TER brothers set me straight." But, seriously, I do like her and the sex is great. I just have no desire to be in love as it has, in the past for me, changed all expectations in the civvie world. I just don't how to get the gin back on the bottle
It goes down the toilet, one way or the other.
Your genie, however, is never going back in the bottle. She has smashed it up pretty good.
This is no longer chess you're playing, it is poker. How do you feel about your cards?
Here's a gambit that might work and let you get away with a bit of dignity: Present her with a pre-nup agreement. That might just take enough wind out of her sails to get the relationship back on some semblance of a course, but more than likely, you'll be heading off on your own.
If however, it doesn't work, be sure to buy her at least a one carat diamond, G VSI or better. About $5 grand if you buy it right.
Good luck, you'll be needing it.
Tell her you have a big tax bill due so you have no money for her allowances. Then see what happens. If she still fucks you, then you are in big trouble (which means she really loves you or thinks she loves you). LOL. But I bet she will stop texting you in a NY minute. It works for me all the time. Every time, some SB texts me and tells me how much she misses me, I just tell her I am broke right now if I don't feel like seeing her. The texts stop right away. It works like a charm. 
I had a SB who really enjoyed my daty skills. We had agreed to 400. After she had had about 4 orgasms she was asking about seeing her more. I said thats great but this isn't exactly inexpensive. She said if she can enjoy my tongue she is good with 200.
I guess we all better be ready for that phrase.
I've had SBs say they adore me--which, is fine and cool.
One offered to see me the next night without me bringing an envelope--I "had a dinner with some colleagues at work." I think that is a dangerous, and slippery, slope. Sex without allowance is no longer arms length sex, right?
I have had a lot of sex without paying for it, very rarely did love have anything to do with it.
When a SB or a hooker offers to see me without payment I don't leap to the conclusion that she is in love with me or ever will be, I simply say yes and enjoy the moment.