I am not into fucking bloody lipped gals who were just dragged unconscious down the aisle on their back. I am very shallow that way.

and usually when I get that feeling, I put off disrobing and see if I can "improve the mood" with some still clothed foreplay like making out on the bed with our clothes still on. 99% of the time you just know and rather than trying to force it, I usually just bail with a "this isn't working" and I just go. The amount of money I leave depends on whether I feel misled, ripped off, or simply that there was a lack of chemistry. Sometimes I leave NOTHING, other times a token, still other times maybe up to half her rate, but NEVER do I give her full freight. If I get a plate of food too disgusting to eat in a restaurant I don't pay for it, Maybe I will pay for the appetizer and a tip for the poor girl who had to serve it to me, but I do NOT pay full price as it only encourages bad behavior.

More often I know the moment I walk in the door and she is NOT the girl advertised, I don't feel any need at all to be POLITE in those cases, after all would you be POLITE to anyone who was trying to steal from you?

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This is an example of why I usually avoid appointments of more than one hour. I can't really tell anything until we get into the sex part. Some girls just don't do it for me for whatever reason. It happens.

If it's a one hour appointment I usually stick it out an hope it gets better. If it's a 90 minute/ two hour appointment you are in an awkward position. You are not just out the extra money you need to come up with an excuse.

Just grab your cell phone and say "OMG" I just got a text that the wife needs me to run an errand or there is a crisis at the office. Trust me, the hooker won't care. They love a guy who leaves early.

If she has a bad attitude, I'm going to notice that within the first few minutes, and it always means the session will be bad. So far, I have always completed the mission, but there were regrets afterwards. Up until a couple of years ago, I always did outcall, and it's more trouble to get rid of a provider at my place. Incall, it would be easy enough to just walk away.

you're talking about bailing WITHOUT paying.  The only time I would do this is when there is a material misrepresentation either in her appearance or her menu.  When I book with an indie, I always ask of the photos are current and accurate, and if her TER profile menu is accurate.  This eliminates 90% of potential unpleasant surprises.  If I get there and its not as advertised, I will leave without paying.  

Otherwise, its on me for not doing better research to make sure the girl's style is a match for what I like.  Even though I'm not that happy about it, I will soldier through at least half the session, pay her and then leave early, telling her I have a business meeting.  You never know who talks to who in this business, so its better to maintain a good reputation with ALL providers, even if you picked the wrong the girl and had a bad session.  

As GGA said if you feel like you were pulled in on a B&S and the person is nowhere near the person depicted then just bail within 10 seconds, offer Cab fair + what you believe to be decent. If someone is having a bad day and trying to take it out on you then I believe you have the right to bail and again follow the monetary rules as above.  

I have had to do this and it simply isn't worth making up lies or even worrying about making up lies, this isn't a GF or Wife, this is a Business deal and some go badly. I always simply pay and leave or ask them to. The money you may be out is nothing compared to the Drama that can come if someone feels slighted or off-put not to mention if they have a Manager they have to explain to.

Maybe it is my age but anymore most things are simply not worth getting worked up about.  

Good Luck.

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I can only assume it's not that the pics were inaccurate.  I also wonder if you are asking about a polite way to ask her to leave with or without paying her her full rate?  If you are asking how to get out of it without paying her full rate when you have seen her before I think this would be the wrong thing to do.  If she took the time to get ready and drive to your incall than I think you need to pay her full rate regardless.  The only exception I could think of for not paying her full rate would be a very bad attitude problem (objectively) from her part or if she's really drunk or high.  

Definitely worth a look

The one time I bailed I got a bad vibe in the parking lot. Every other session gone wrong I stuck it out. There have been a variety of reasons. Once, she sat on the other side of the room. Once, there were teenagers in the other room when I got out of the shower. Another time, she brought out the saran wrap for daty. Once, she was cleaning the toilet in her lingerie. One time a guy answered the door. Twice, one of the doubles partners just sat there. Of course, all of those were back in the days when I took a lot of chances.

Because otherwise, I'd just leave and not care what she thought. I have, in fact, left early many times without explanation.

There's only once I wanted to bail without paying, and that was when the provider was high. (I went through with it, and though I wouldn't do it again, it ended up being good.) I don't think I would have bothered with an excuse.

She grabs the envelope. I grab my shorts. We hit the streets.  

After the "All clear. False alarm." clearance, it's usually too late and not worth the effort to pick up where we left off.

You had seen her before?or was that a typo? If you've seen her before,what changed?

Why the need for excuse if either party does not feel comfortable going through a deal? All that is needed is a polite and simple "Sorry but I'm not feeling it. It's just not working out."

I'm asking a serious question here.

Did you have some kind of a hormonal change due to something you ate or drank?

Did she smell? Was she drunk? Was she on drugs? Was she angry? Did she look completely different than the first appointment/not prepared? Did you expect bareback, then realize she wouldn't give it?

There has to be more detail to offer any type of advice for you.

I prefer, if a man isn't going to enjoy himself, that he leave. If I know he is not enjoying himself, I will actually ask him. I have in the past asked clients to leave because they didn't seem to be enjoying themselves - with a full refund.

If I ask them to leave, I give a full refund. If they show up, I'm accurate and "as promised" - I expect full payment - as I would do (and have done) the same if I've asked them to leave - even half way through the session after the first pop. lol

Did she say "no" to bareback services, and then her demeanor changed?

There are too many scenarios possible that there is no straight answer.

But if she did nothing wrong, and was what you knew you would get, if I were you, I would put down the full amount - nobody wants to be cheap. It's embarrassing.

It really was my fault. I tried a date with a beautiful lady who is just too young for me. I was uncomfortable with her age and look and I think she became uncomfortable too.  

It didn't help that a contact lense fell out on her leg during DATY and that kind of freaked her out. I stopped to  put the lense back in my eye.  
I got up and said thanks, then got dressed and left.  
I was there for about 30 minutes of an hour visit. I of course left the full donation because it was my poor choice.  
Since then, I haven't made that mistake again. But, to be fair, I am a serial repeater and I don't venture out to new ladies very often.

There was an occasion where we met at the bar of my hotel. We talked but I felt she wasn't feeling me, the vibe was luke warm, but she was hot. So in our room, we were still at a disconnect. Then she went to change into some sexy lingerie and when she exit the bathroom, I went for it and we had a blast. I guess sometimes you get those "opening night jitters" but I loved my time with her so much that we're meeting again in Vegas, very soon...so the moral of the story is... I don't know shit!

if she's getting her fee for showing up, then I'm not sure she would really care. I think early on I would have been offended had that happen, but realizing things just aren't happening for one reason or another on occasion has changed that. Im not sure about others, but if i was still getting paid, id be ok with "not happening, I'm out"... though its not really something I ever worry about much anyway.

A gal I'd seen numerous times on & off over several years...  I'd set up a return engagement.  She called me, unhappy before I arrived.  I'd just picked up our lunch I was bringing with me.   She started in again when I walked in the door.  So I knew at that point.  I calmed her down (an extra half hour but not out of my time).  I knew it was already sideways... I had a session but it wasn't anything great.    
I understand something was going on in her personal life... she shouldn't have booked the session.  
I really wish I'd put the food down & the donation...  I had promised her I was coming when she called earlier, so the other half is the promise she's get the donation...  but I think I should have tried to walk out.  "You are way too stresed to have a good time. I think I should go."  
I wonder if she'd have let me walk (without trying to convince me to stay).  Might she have gotten her head together?  I'll never know.  
I knew as the door closed, I'd not be going back.