I recommend taking it a day at a time. If this is what you both want then fantastic! Good luck!
Sometimes relationship happiness is hard to find..
So I just wanted to thank everyone for their advice. I used a couple of the tactics that were suggested in the other post.
First off I did not bring a donation with me this time. I was staying the weekend and she invited me over so I didn't feel like it was a set meeting.
I kind of let it go with the flow Friday night. Everything was great, dinner was spectacular that she had prepared. Desert was even better.
The next morning we both got up and because she knows that I have been working out and getting my body in shape she asked if I needed some time to do that. Little did I know she would join me in the gym at her town house community center. After a little work out we went for a walk down some trails that she knew around her complex.
As we were sitting around one of the ponds on the trails taking a breather, I initiated the talk.
Long story short, most of you were right, and some of you were wrong.
She has drawn up some feelings. She has not been sure herself how to approach it so she was glad that I brought it up.
She and I agreed on some plans for future progress with the relationship.
Before people start to ask, no I did not tell her she had to 100% stop hobbying and she didn't ask me to either.
But after the conversation later that night and some things that we had both wanted to see in a relation ship, plus the action of the rest of the weekend, I don't think either one of us will want to see anyone for a few days at least.
I thought I had lost some of my stamina after turning 30 but she sure knew how to bring it back.
Thanks again to everyone and while I am not sure that this is a forever kind of deal, only time will tell.
Always keep it real. No real relationship can ever thrive if people aren't honest and open with each other.
Best of luck to both of you.
you never know where happiness is... so why not?
try and fail is better than live with de doubt about how about if????....
Good Luck!!!! I really do mean that....
walks on the beach together and poking dead things with a stick. However, you should always have an eye open for signs of fakery. Remember that working girls are masters at getting you to suspend disbelief and making you believe fantasy is, in fact, reality. The good news is that even the best of them can't keep up the fakery 24/7 for very long. A month should reveal whether its real or not. This is the time I can usually spot the ones that have an agenda. If you get past that, as I have with several, then you can put your guard down and enjoy the ride.
Nah, just kidding. I actually like your chances, great move on both of your parts to NOT "demand" the other quit the hobby. I have never "insisted" that a provider or ex provider GF quit working, it has to be her decision, and it seems like you two get that.
As for "forever" I don't know about you, but I don't get into any relationships, hooker or non hooker, with "forever" in mind.
As others have said, good luck.
no I did not tell her she had to 100% stop hobbying and she didn't ask me to either... I don't think either one of us will want to see anyone for a few days at least.
If the healthiness of this relationship for you is highly dependent on both of you changing your pay-for-play behavior (whether it's 100% or not), I think you should have another, more direct chat. Maybe it's just the way you wrote it, but it reads like you didn't talk about this at all. You "did not tell her..." and "she didn't... either". And "I don't think..." reads like you're reading into her words, not repeating them, about not seeing anyone for a few days at least.
...have an expiration date. We never know when things are going to end, so you do your best while you can and decide at some point to stay fully committed to the person, or end it.
Thanks again to everyone and while I am not sure that this is a forever kind of deal, only time will tell.
Sounds like you have both been doing it right, being honest with each other and not piling on unrealistic expectations. Really, you've started things off on a sounder footing than many relationships that start off in the usual civilian ways.
Best of luck and much happiness to you, whatever happens.
if she perhaps follows these boards?
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i ask her one time before because she didn't have a profile or reviews on here when we started and she said she has never used the site but got asked a lot about it from clients.
And her curiosity could have gotten the better of her and she could be on here and didn't tell you.
Whether she has or hasn't been here, it doesn't really matter. They both met in this world and each seems to understand it's a new frontier they are entering into. If they are unable to open and honest with each other, then it's already on shaky ground.
You either trust the other person or you don't. If you don't, then it's time to walk away.
You really aren't pulling our leg, now are you?
It can happen but I just don't see how you two didn't have the talk about how things will go. I also don't get how she is spending that amount of time with you and not working.
Unless she is that shy (and if she is, she wouldn't be so willing to stay all that time)... I do not get it.
Nah I am not calling you a liar. If you are honest about this, I am happy for you. There is no reason for you to think she will give up the hobby. You on the other hand have to see what she wants.
Yes, working as a provider is completely different than bf seeing other escorts. If she is ok with it, then fine. I am one who is ok with it as long as open communication and not taking away my time. That's rare.
Work is not the same as seeing someone else. Many have issues with that.
Not trying to be cynical. I just do not understand how quick this is all happening.
Not everyone communicates well for one.
That said, have you ever had something that you really wanted to work and it seemed like it was but you didn't want to confirm it was working out of fear that you'd jinx it?
I'd hazard to say it's a normal human thing to fear losing the things that you truly care about, particularly if you've lost things you truly care about in the past.
Can't believe I agree with you. JK.
First off, a big CONGRAT. While a storybook ending is never 100% guaranteed it looked like you both are starting off on the right feet AND on the right even-keeled minds with no delusion while keeping it real.
My question is about the 600-lb gorilla in the room: finance. Have you two talked about what happens now to the "donation"? will she no longer accept your donation and try to live or compensate through other clients? will you insist on some sort of financial support that is voluntary?
Finance will always play a big part in the long run in any relationship so I'm curious. Agreeing on a comfortable and satisfactory finance arrangement will do good in keeping your relationship healthy and happy.
not to enjoy the few good things that come our way.
Hope you both find happiness. That is awesome...regardless we are people and despite the situation no one is immune to normal human feelings. Happy for the both of you.
None of my business. Hope it works out for you. I've met a couple of ladies I would have been blessed to know deeper. We decided irbwas nit time and moved on.
First off I did not bring a donation with me this time. I was staying the weekend and she invited me over so I didn't feel like it was a set meeting.
I kind of let it go with the flow Friday night. Everything was great, dinner was spectacular that she had prepared. Desert was even better.
The next morning we both got up and because she knows that I have been working out and getting my body in shape she asked if I needed some time to do that. Little did I know she would join me in the gym at her town house community center. After a little work out we went for a walk down some trails that she knew around her complex.
As we were sitting around one of the ponds on the trails taking a breather, I initiated the talk.
Long story short, most of you were right, and some of you were wrong.
She has drawn up some feelings. She has not been sure herself how to approach it so she was glad that I brought it up.
She and I agreed on some plans for future progress with the relationship.
Before people start to ask, no I did not tell her she had to 100% stop hobbying and she didn't ask me to either.
But after the conversation later that night and some things that we had both wanted to see in a relation ship, plus the action of the rest of the weekend, I don't think either one of us will want to see anyone for a few days at least.
I thought I had lost some of my stamina after turning 30 but she sure knew how to bring it back.
Thanks again to everyone and while I am not sure that this is a forever kind of deal, only time will tell.
I recommend taking it a day at a time. If this is what you both want then fantastic! Good luck!
Sometimes relationship happiness is hard to find..
So glad you both spoke and it is working out between the both of you. So much easier to get it all off the table and just be open and honest with each other so feelings are not hurt. Good luck with everything moving forward.