Haha.. Game On!!! I definitely need to get to that point with all of this! Someday, I'll figure this shit out!
Why is it that some of the higher priced traveling escorts go out of their way to communicate with you when setting up the date, but seem to go totally silent for the week or two leading up to the date? Is it that time consuming to spend 3 or 4 messages trying to get to know the client and his wishes or expectations or requests?
I just don't understand their lack of effort in order to do a little homework for the client who is spending 800-1200 to see them while they are traveling through?
My gut tells me that the date this week isn't going to be worth the investment. Review to follow to see if she "wows" me with her performance even though she hasn't asked a thing about me or what i might be hoping for prior to the date
count on one hand the number of providers above $800 that were worth the investment. Price is what you pay, value is what you get (--W. Buffett).
I say go with your gut. If it doesn't feel right, then cancel. Its better than getting ripped off.
If you are saying she is not initiating these 3 or 4 messages to you to learn your expectations, I don't see anything alarming about that. She can read your reviews if she wants to see what you like to do in your dates, and you can read hers to know what to expect. And if she's an upper tier lady as you indicated, and has excellent reviews, she should be skilled at connecting with you quickly once the date commences.
On the other hand if you are saying you sent her 3 or 4 messages, and she failed to reply at all; I would see that as alarming. I would seriously consider cancelling the date within her allowable cancellation time to avoid having to pay, and in fairness to her so she can have time to rebook or scrub her trip there if pre-bookings don't justify the cost/time/effort of her trip.
Good points! Actually, it's the former situation. The date was scheduled 2 weeks ago and it's happening in the next few days. I don't want to message her and start the process. I was just hoping that she would want to "feel me out" prior to the date instead of the norm, where you spend the 1st 20 or 30min getting to know the person over some wine before the fun starts. I just want a provider to invest a little time prior to meeting me to learn more about me or flirt (even if scripted) so that when we do begin the date in the room, that the anticipation level is high and the fun begins sooner than later.
So far, Cesselie Mills has been the best provider that I've met who would spend the time joking, flirting and chatting many days before the date. I can't say that I've met a traveling lady that does the same. It's been over a year since seeing Cesselie, but that aspect of the date with her really stood out.
I was just wondering how many other guys have experienced the good to great communication before the date with the traveling ladies?
Got it. Well I can't relate to your situation in that case. As my reviews indicate, I don't bring wine or spend 20 or 30 minutes getting acquainted. From the time I enter it's normally game on for the next hour. Good luck to you, and have fun!!
Haha.. Game On!!! I definitely need to get to that point with all of this! Someday, I'll figure this shit out!
the dates, but then isn't very interested in carrying on a conversation with you. Happened quite a few times with me
About communication. And while yes, they want to know your requests, it can become taxing. It really depends on your donation. If your simply a 1 hr poke, get real. Extended dates require more attention. Facts of life. Also, if your a 1st timer, you could be a cancelor. These ladies put up with alot of shit...
Good question Brudah. We will never know the real reason why ladies don't communicate better. Could be you were in contact with her booker, maybe the lady's on a two week trip with a baller, maybe she didn't get your messages? Could be anything. I can tell you from a hobbyist perspective that flirting texts both before and after a date are classy and sexy and for me score big points. I saw a very classy and legendary lady over a year ago in Vegas and she kept texting me for three days solid. I had wood bigger than the redwood forests every time I got her texts. Young ladies, in particular, have no idea how to flirt. It's all business and that's OK but after dropping large bones if I don't even get a TY I ain't repeating. There are many fish in the sea and are all different. Cheers and Happy hobbying.
Actually, she contacted me the morning of the date. She said that she was flying in later and was really looking forward to meeting with me. Then we had about 30 texts back and forth throughout the day before the date. Everything worked out perfectly! At least she put some effort into contacting me and getting to know more about me before actually seeing her in the room which led to a connection which led to a very very nice date.
Apparently, my concern about the "no communication" prior to the date was unwarranted in this case. I guess there is still hope out there!
No offense, but you seem a little high maintenance, but you have your style and you found someone who was willing to accommodate you. I've found over the years being low maintenance pre date pays off for me, many providers have even thanked me for keeping communication to a minimum before a session.
No worries, I understand how it seems. I'm just looking for an experience where it feels like I'm fucking a friend instead of a hooker. I want to ask questions and cgat a little to understand her personality and sense of humor. I'm not looking to walk in the room and tell her to drop to her knees and get to work.
I like the experience of a glass of champagne or Wine and talking first to see if there's a connection at all before we take the activities to the bed. And part of that whole process is a little communication back and forth prior to the date if it's a traveling lady. I'm sure some day I won't care as much about that and will just want to get down to business within 5 minutes of meeting, but I'm not there yet.
...talk first to see if there's a connection. And what if there isn't? Are you going to walk out after wasting all her time communicating with you.
You also say that "some day" you won't care as much about communication back and forth before a meeting, but you're "not there yet." You've got 25 reviews in almost two years and you're "not there yet?" I have news for you - if you're not "there" yet, you'll never get "there.
what do you do after you have paid the donation, and drank the wine, and she's not laughing at your jokes, and the "connection" is going in the tank? Do you take the activities to the bedroom anyway, drink a lot more wine first, or do you just leave? On the other hand, if she had dropped to her knees right off the bat, you would be finished with the sex before either of you realized this was not a good match. That's why the hooker gods invented multi-hour appointments. You go the first time for an hour, get down to business, and if you had a good time, you will sense the beginning of a connection by the time your hour is up. Then you book two or more hours for the next time a few days later, and it will be the absolute best. If you don't feel connected after having sex with her for an hour, then you're under no obligation to return, and you didn't have to waste any of your time drinking wine and pretending this was a civvie date. Its not.
Very good point CDL.
The analogy you're using is basically the setup at SDAG, there is no wine or chatting. You walk in, they take you by the hand and start the session and you basically have sex for 45min and either there is a sexual connection or there isn't. If there is, you are correct, I usually repeat 3 or 4 times before they leave. If there wasn't a connection then it's off to see another lady.
So I basically need to treat the traveling ladues similarly to the SDAG ladies. Alot less talk and and alot more sex. Fuck the wine and fuck caring about getting to know them better and just get to fucking and it's their job to make that connection in the bed in order for repeat business. Is that about right?
reasonable to me. Nothing is worse than getting stuck on an extended session with a girl with whom you have no chemistry or connection. It makes two hours seem like four, and not in a good way.
Agree. 30 texts the day of the meeting seems like excessive handholding to me. The only text I send the day of the session is to confirm I'll be there and ask for a parking recommendation, unless she asks me something. A little mystery adds to the allure for me.