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trodgers1983 2298 reads
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First timer and curious about the GFE and STDs.  Does anyone worry about herpes?  What precautions, if any, do you take?  I like the idea of GFE, but am worried.

Thanks!

swimtrekr 58 Reviews 851 reads
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You can always do cbj, and not kiss her.  However, you're missing out.  The risks are minimal if you see well-reviewed providers.  Relax, if she is a well-reviewed provider, the last thing she wants is to have a disease problem.  It has been said many times, you are better off with her than with a hottie you picked up in a bar last night.

Swim

JamesDeenXXX 31 Reviews 825 reads
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3 / 6

Anytime you engage in any type of sexual act with another person there's a risk. That includes "civie girls" too, not only providers.

No different if you picked up a girl from a bar and brought her home. You would have the same risk. That being said, you're probably thinking that providers see more men on a larger scale. Yes it's true, but most providers test themselves regularly, therefore they are less risky to "play" with than a random hook up.

JeffEng16 22 Reviews 854 reads
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4 / 6

Hi trodgers1983,

Swim & Blaze have expressed this/summed it up perfectly.

Cunnilingus is considered a low-risk behavior compared with vaginal or anal intercourse, but it's not completely risk-free.   Since you are no where near the cervix where these infections live, you're very unlikely to get GC (gonorrhea) or chlamydia. The person  performing DATY can get vaginal lining disease conceivably like Herpes, HPV (Human Paipilloma Virus) with Type 16 and others correlating to  causing cervical cancer in women, and syphilis which is pretty rare in 2012 but not prior to 1945 when Pen hit the market.  

If you are the one with the  "Y" and being given head, then you have a relatively small risk that  you could get HSV-1 (herpes) from the person giving you head if he/or she had herpes lesions on the lip.  Not all blisters on the lip are herpes by any means although  I've seen plenty of people  who worry they are.

The  only way to decrease the  relatively low risk from DATY is to use things that are cumbersome, and most people find kills the pleasant sensation from  it.  Condoms and dental dams. For people allergic to latex, dental dams are made in silicone.  Saran wrap can work just as well.  The problem with these is that they are not likely to stay on at all in  reality, and it's a cold day in July when anyone wants  to  use them.  A dental dam would reduce the chance of getting Herpes or HPV if the person performing DATY had it.

I wouldn't be very afraid of DATY of BBBJ at all. The enjoyment so heavily outweighs the infinitely small risk unless either partner  knows of a significant lesion on one of them.

corwinofavalon 31 Reviews 474 reads
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As all have pointed out, unless your wrapped in Saran Wrap or are with someone you know to be a virgin (an unlikely event and almost certainly to be cost-prohibitive!) you'll be taking a risk in any sexual encounter!  That said, I've been engaging in unprotected mutual oral with more than a couple of people for almost three decades now and have dodged the bullet so far!  Everything else (ok, there was this one time with Venus but that was ages ago!) it's "wrap that rascal!"  I'm also friends with a number of girls who pretty much approach it the same way who have seen literally thousand of guys and have also had not problems.  Hell, I knew Kyndal, whose speciality was BBBJ/CIM and did a VERY high volume for a couple, three years and came away ok.  I'm not sure if I agree that just because someone has a bunch of reviews that they're safe, could be that the higher volume increases the risk but either way, the choice comes down to increase pleasure vs. increased security!

London Rayne See my TER Reviews 564 reads
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6 / 6

Don't worry about what other people do or find risky...they are not the ones who will have to live with the consequences afterwards. You are the only one who can be responsible for yourself, so do what makes you feel comfortable. I am a full on BBBJ/CIM provider and though I have never caught an std, it does not mean I can't. I don't offer BBFS because the risk is twice as much.

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